When I am busy at work...
By Lee Ka
@kaka135 (14994)
Malaysia
March 4, 2016 7:48am CST
Though I really enjoy working on my web development project currently, I am not in a good condition when I am busy at work.
I think I can really sit in front of the computer for hours and just play with the codes and talk to the program, but since I am a mother with two young children at home, it's not possible for me to do so. It's definitely not recommended for me to do so as well.
When I am busy at work, I tend to spend too much time with my work, and less time with my children and the housework as well. So, I might get mad at my children when they do not behave well, and when things get messy too. It's not their fault, it's mine, because they are missing my presence. I feel guilty for being too busy sometimes.
Well, though I need to complete the project as soon as possible, being present with my children is still the highest priority all the time. I really need to manage my time better.
Would you like to just stick to your work when you are busy?
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@kaka135 (14994)
• Malaysia
7 Mar 16
Yes, I totally agree with you. I always try to work whenever they do not really need me, but whenever they need me, I will leave my computer and go to them. Children, especially young children, are still my highest priority.
I already wake up in the middle of the night to work, but sometimes I need more time to get the work done. Moreover, my children are at home all day long. So, I have to find the balance to spend time with them and do my work as well.
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@kaka135 (14994)
• Malaysia
5 Mar 16
I always think there's a solution, but I just need to find the balance. 
Actually I am grateful that my children can play on their own for some time, so I can seize the time when they are playing together well and I go to work. I also realized that I actually just need to be there for them for a short time, when they have felt my presence, then they are happy and satisfied, and can continue to work on their own.
I always know when I am mindful, I can find the way better and easier. So, today is a good day for me! 
Actually I am grateful that my children can play on their own for some time, so I can seize the time when they are playing together well and I go to work. I also realized that I actually just need to be there for them for a short time, when they have felt my presence, then they are happy and satisfied, and can continue to work on their own.
I always know when I am mindful, I can find the way better and easier. So, today is a good day for me! 1 person likes this
@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
5 Mar 16
When I am concentrated and someone bothers me in the middle - I get frustrated at times because I could be in my mind set and focused.
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@kaka135 (14994)
• Malaysia
5 Mar 16
I can do multi-tasking, but sometimes I really need concentration at work while I really need to think or plan. That's why sometimes I prefer to work at home alone. Sometimes even when I was working in office, colleagues might still came and talked about other projects, or simply chit chat. I was quite used to be "disturbed" at work.
But, as a mom, I shouldn't be like that. To my children, I am a mom, not a working woman.
I feel much better today. The children are happily playing in the yard with the neighbor kid, and I also spend time with them whenever I am needed. 
I feel much better today. The children are happily playing in the yard with the neighbor kid, and I also spend time with them whenever I am needed. 1 person likes this
@kaka135 (14994)
• Malaysia
7 Mar 16
@infatuatedbby Yes, there are always working time, and work can always wait. Children can't wait. Once their childhood time has passed, we can't go back and get connected with them. This is what I always told myself. That's why I always try to work whenever I can, but when they need me, I will just turn off my computer and go to them.
@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
6 Mar 16
@kaka135 I can do multi-tasking also just not multi-tasking while chit chatting. But yes, to your children - you're their mom and they need you still.
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