I am an aspie!

By Jen
@polyxena (2628)
Sturgis, Michigan
April 13, 2016 6:41pm CST
I am not looking for the sympathy card or anything like that, but I am able to state that I have Aspergers (Meaning I am autistic). It took forever to come to terms with the fact that I was on the spectrum, mainly because I see how people treat other people who are autistic, like we're the plague or something. There's a few things I've learned from other people on the spectrum. Some thins I learned are: *People love to think we're slow or stupid: Most of us autistic have a few things we're better at than others. It's what we like we're better at. mine are music, animals, and writing. I'm awful at math (I myself actually have a problem with numbers and also have dyscalculia) The assumption that we have no empathy is false: I've hear the no empathy thing so many times. Our probably isn't the lack of it, it's the fact that we can't read people (and are also hard to read), so with that said we are not mind readers. If someone online has something happen. I myself can relate better because there's none of those cues Autism has no special look This is the one thing I learned that bothers me the most. Daryl Hannah, Courtney Love, and Dan Aykroyd all have Aspergers. Tim Burton hasn't formally been diagnosed but his wife suspects it. Autism can't be fixed plain and simple it can't We are a lot like cats We don't like being touched without asking, we're not overly friendly except to some people, and when we do like people we take it seriously. We can be affectionateThis goes with the last point. I myself am not all touchy feely and I have moments where I want to be friendly and hug people. I just don't want someone randomly to hug me out of the blue. That stuff bothers me. I'm sure there's more I could write about this, but that says most of it. I may eventually post something about what autism feels like for people if anyone's curious. But I'm always able to answer any autism related questions
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@nonersays (3344)
• United States
14 Apr 16
How long have you know you were on the spectrum? Did you just find out recently? The world at large is so quick to stereotype and label things in a negative way. People have to realize that each person is an individual, no matter what other circumstances are in their lives. If that makes any sense.
@polyxena (2628)
• Sturgis, Michigan
14 Apr 16
Since I was in my early twenties It was my first therapist and psychiatrist that have made the comment. It wasn't as much a formal diagnosis with all th tests as much as it was "I'm sure you have Aspergers" then I had another psych doctor give me the same talk (so I guess it's more of a mostly formal diagnosis/self diagnosis which is weird). As I've noticed and tried to look back on my life, that I wished people could have figured out earlier (Which again isn't uncommon I've heard of women in their 40's just finding out) but the fact that I was "alone all the time and shy" and needing "Think time," and the whole melt downs in school, when things got too loud and overwhelming. The world is very judgemental. It's the main reason why I wrote this, trying to dismiss all of the crap thrown at me on daily basis.
@nonersays (3344)
• United States
14 Apr 16
@polyxena One of my brothers was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. He said, "It wasn't even a thing when I was a kid!" He said it might have made a big difference in his life if he had known earlier.
@polyxena (2628)
• Sturgis, Michigan
14 Apr 16
@nonersays Exactly. I do know that if I knew when I was younger things would have been easier. But now that I know what I have and why people pegged me as "different" makes me feel a little better, but not much.
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@toniganzon (77084)
• Philippines
14 Apr 16
My husband's nephew is autistic and i love him to bits. He's 4 years old now and getting some treatment. he's really affectionate and he hugs and kisses me often.
@polyxena (2628)
• Sturgis, Michigan
14 Apr 16
I don't know If I can give hugs and kisses to people. My son does it and he's autistic, I just don't like people touching me.
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@toniganzon (77084)
• Philippines
14 Apr 16
@polyxena Yeah each person is unique.
@carebear29 (32002)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
14 Apr 16
Nothing wrong with having a disability
@polyxena (2628)
• Sturgis, Michigan
14 Apr 16
I wouldn't call it a disability, as much as being a little different than society. I feel it makes who I am, which was hard to admit in the beginning, but coming to accept I felt better.
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
14 Apr 16
Great explanation of Asperger's! I have a teenage son who has moderate to severe autism. I suspect I am also on the spectrum, and have two daughters who may also be Aspies. The cat analogy really fits several of us!
@polyxena (2628)
• Sturgis, Michigan
14 Apr 16
I loved the cat analogy I got it from a cosplayer who is also an "aspie" :).
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