~Bible Study Aggravation!~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
Valdosta, Georgia
April 14, 2016 1:27pm CST
Okay, as promised I am writing about what happened last night at Bible study. It was a very dramatic evening to be honest. 
There is a guy who my husband and I adore. He is in a wheelchair, he has cerebral palsy, he is a shining light though-always making everyone around him smile and happy. He was crying when we walked in (this is NOT like him at all) and asking for prayer because his condition is making it harder for him to drive and get to church. We prayed with him and my husband told him we would get him there every week-no matter what we have to do. He hates missing any days, and loves going to church.
My husband told our pastor about it and asked if sometimes someone else could help too and make sure he got there each week, in case we didn't go now and then. Pastor said no offense but he has said this before and gotten here just fine.
This set my husband off the deep end. He came back into church really annoyed. 
I asked what was wrong and he told me what Pastor said. My husband said no matter how many times it's been said if he needs help getting to church everyone should pitch in and help! My husband said pastor said it like this guy is a burden on people!
Now my husband is so annoyed by this he is thinking about not going back to the church...Maybe in a few days when he cools down he will change his mind but for now I support my husband's decision.
If we do go back I hope the drama will not continue...it makes things really uncomfortable to say the least.
There is a guy who my husband and I adore. He is in a wheelchair, he has cerebral palsy, he is a shining light though-always making everyone around him smile and happy. He was crying when we walked in (this is NOT like him at all) and asking for prayer because his condition is making it harder for him to drive and get to church. We prayed with him and my husband told him we would get him there every week-no matter what we have to do. He hates missing any days, and loves going to church.
My husband told our pastor about it and asked if sometimes someone else could help too and make sure he got there each week, in case we didn't go now and then. Pastor said no offense but he has said this before and gotten here just fine.
This set my husband off the deep end. He came back into church really annoyed. I asked what was wrong and he told me what Pastor said. My husband said no matter how many times it's been said if he needs help getting to church everyone should pitch in and help! My husband said pastor said it like this guy is a burden on people!
Now my husband is so annoyed by this he is thinking about not going back to the church...Maybe in a few days when he cools down he will change his mind but for now I support my husband's decision.
If we do go back I hope the drama will not continue...it makes things really uncomfortable to say the least.10 people like this
11 responses
@Mike197602 (15504)
• United Kingdom
14 Apr 16
I've no religious bone in my body and this may be offensive to you but I hope you don't take it that way.
Some people that I've met who claim to be christian often aren't that nice.
They can appear nice and caring but when it comes down to it they don't show it in a practical way.
If this guy is your friend surely you'd have noticed by now if he was a drama queen type that uses his condition to get sympathy...I'm assuming you don't feel he is?
So I think what this pastor said is quite off especially considering his position as a church leader.
Has he shown this type of attitude before?
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Apr 16
@Mike197602 It's not offensive, and I do know what your talking about. No we don't think he is dramatic at all. He does have self pity sometimes-but with his condition who wouldn't?
Yeah, we thought it was wrong of the pastor too. I had to remind my husband though that pastor's are people too and they make mistakes at times.
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@Mike197602 (15504)
• United Kingdom
14 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies I think if I was in your husbands position I would have been quite angry too so I couldn't blame him in the slightest for being mad.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Apr 16
@Mike197602 I totally agree and that's why I didn't argue with him or anything, I just reminded him of them being people too. Other than that I do respect how he feels about it.
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
15 Apr 16
sounds like the Pastor is being an idiot - your husband asking others in th group to help a valued member of the community seems quite reasonable - hopefully others in your congregation will offer to help too
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Apr 16
@arthurchappell Yeah, regardless of what this guy has done or whatever people should still help when we can. And he's asking for a ride not a million dollars! I just don't see what the issue is. I hope more people will offer as well.
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@yukimori (10193)
• United States
14 Apr 16
If I were in your shoes, I would ask my husband to consider speaking with the pastor about it. All he needs to say is "I'm really confused by your response to me when I asked if anyone else could help make sure [Friend] gets here if he's having trouble driving. It might be true that he's said that before and had no issues getting here, but in the event that his fears do become a reality it seems like the right thing to do would help him attend church. Would you help us organize a schedule of volunteers to help in that scenario?"
Give the pastor a chance to explain what's going on. Maybe it's a simple misunderstanding. Maybe there's more to it than you know. Maybe he didn't mean it as flippantly as it came off... but it sure seems unChristian to brush off the legitimate concerns of a member of the congregation.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Apr 16
@yukimori I do think you have a great idea! Pastor was in a little bit of a hurry since it was right before Bible study so maybe it just came off the wrong way because he had other things on his mind. I'm not sure but I will tell my husband to talk with him again.
We don't want anything to happen to Maurice, that would be absolutely horrible. =(
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Apr 16
@Juliaacv Well the guy is our friend so if you mean he took it personally-yes he did.
And the pastor basically saying he's the boy who cried wolf kind of got on my husband's nerves.
But I did tell my husband that pastor's are human too and they say things the wrong way sometimes. Of course he didn't want to hear that last night though.
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Apr 16
@RasmaSandra That is how we felt also. I just hate having bad feelings toward pastor because they have helped us a lot and it makes it hard going to church now too...
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@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies I think the Pastor should be the first to support getting transport for this guy. After all as time goes by he can get into an accident.
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@Morleyhunt (21741)
• Canada
14 Apr 16
Having a family member who uses others, and manages to fool many into thinking he is down trodden has caused many hard feelings. Most people only see part of the story. They don't know the history. I may do a post on this circumstance. His church thinks that his family has abandoned him and his family. In truth, he has been helped so often, and thrown away so many chances, we have all finally said. He needs to deal with his own problems. He created them.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Apr 16
@Morleyhunt This man is not like that. I'm sorry for whatever situation you went through with a family member but that is not how this is.
And maybe this man has gotten help before (I don't know) but regardless he's not asking for a hand out of money-he's asking for a ride to church for crying out loud!
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Apr 16
@Ruby3881 This was not the first issue with our pastor that we have found out. But our pastor has helped us and never done anything to us personally, so we don't know what to do.
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@tuttiharris (1338)
• Chattanooga, Tennessee
14 Apr 16
How do the other members feel? That is the question you need to look at. Sometimes the devil will put the wrong man in a church to just try and break it up.
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
14 Apr 16
@tuttiharris Yes, do check to see if the others feel the same way. If they don't maybe the pastor needs to adjust his attitude...
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@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
14 Apr 16
It's really disappointing. I hope it will sorted out soon.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
14 Apr 16
God can see that you know, refusing some one's help, supposed to be his job helping the needy. Though I think he has limits helping people, but that's not the way a preacher supposed to say.Yeah, it's better if he cools off for a few days.
@IvySaysHi (4603)
• United States
14 Apr 16
Well how Christian that Pastor is. You would think he would agree to helping out one of his church goers so that he is able to be there and participate in religious activities
@tuttiharris (1338)
• Chattanooga, Tennessee
14 Apr 16
Jennifer,the devil will find a way to cause problems in the church... he will use anything that he knows that will separate anyone. Don't leave the church... especially if you know your church to be a good God-believing. and Bible-leading church. Pray that God will take over this problem.. the problem of what the pastor said. God will, He has taken care of so many things in our church and made them right. He knows, and He loves his children... Pray and let God take care of it.... I am sure this man feels concerned more at some points of his problem than others, and it surely bears on his heart that he may have to miss church. You and your husband keep on working and walking in God'sWord. You will be rewarded. Love you and thank you for your post.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Apr 16
@tuttiharris I agree with you. I think Satan is using my husband's caring attitude to make him angry at the pastor so we stay away from the church. I told my husband that pastors are people too and they make mistakes like the rest of us.
We will definitely be praying for God's will to be done in the situation. We have always loved our church and we love the people that go there.
Thank you for your opinion on this as a sister in Christ. =) 
