Do you take feedbacks well?
By Wendy789
@Drosophila (16568)
Ireland
May 8, 2016 4:29pm CST
Well.. I really don't!
Constructive or not, there's nothing more annoying to me than unsolicited, unexpected, and generally unwelcomed "feedbacks".
The worst part is the "maker" of the feedbacks often pleaded these were "for me own good."
Obviously, I often respond in a way that made the person regret they ever bought up the topic.
e.g. I spent over an hour cooking for a friend. Her compliment to my effort was that she disliked the potatoes, as it could've been a bit mushier.
Apparently, she was trying to help me to improve my cooking?!!!
Really??? Really??? How about you cook for me for once?!!! Rant over!
Anyhow, what's your thoughts on unwanted feedbacks?
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20 responses
@topffer (42155)
• France
8 May 16
Maybe I should feel guilty : I was invited to a birthday party today, and I had to eat a Burgundy tuna stew. It was a Burgundy beef stew where the beef was replaced by tuna, because the woman of the house is half-vegetarian and eats fish but not meat
. I had nothing to say about the tuna, but the carrots were not cooked enough, and would have been better if they had been mushier
. Maybe was it an unwanted feedback, but I could not resist to tell it
.
. I had nothing to say about the tuna, but the carrots were not cooked enough, and would have been better if they had been mushier. Maybe was it an unwanted feedback, but I could not resist to tell it.4 people like this
@topffer (42155)
• France
9 May 16
@Drosophila Lol, she told me that it was because the carrots were organic
.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
10 May 16
It makes me churn and sizzle inside when someone points out things to me like that. 
I often feel like put down which I absolutely hate.
I often feel like put down which I absolutely hate.4 people like this
@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
11 May 16
@Daljinder lol I actually told her the only feedback I wanted to hear was "thank you for cooking" xD
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
10 May 16
yep she took 1 bite of the potatoes and this was her statement.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
10 May 16
@Drosophila Rude!
Did the glare work?
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
9 May 16
yep am never good at taking any feedbacks lol..
am sure I've missed out opportunities to improve etc etc..
but then maybe not xD
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
9 May 16
Indeed! I mean if she mentioned it after the meal it would be ok. But not just after a bite.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 May 16
@Drosophila That's downright rude.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
15 May 16
That is a good one! Though, don't you find it a bit creepy if some1 gives you a psycho analysis
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
18 May 16
@avi256 lol no, I mean only a psycho would do a psycho analysis on you. Normal people just do normal analysis
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@avi256 (8515)
• Pune, India
16 May 16
@Drosophila No, I dont,I listen to all kinds of analysis and it if its out of way I ignore it, but sometimes psycho analysis are too interesting.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
9 May 16
When someone cooks for me I always compliment them even if she likes her potatoes mushier she should have been appreciative of what you have done. Yeah look her cook for you and see how she feels if you said somethng like that. lol lol
Unwanted feedbacks are not welcome, if I ask you and then you say something that is different but to just say without being asked is not my cup of tea.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
10 May 16
Indeed, I will ask her to cook for me next time, so she can show me how she preferred the potatoes!
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@kevin1877uk (36987)
•
8 May 16
I guess it's hit and miss with me, sometimes yes but others not so well.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
9 May 16
It depends on who's giving the feedback as well
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
9 May 16
@kevin1877uk Indeed, if its just some random... its surely not on
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@Orson_Kart (8250)
• United Kingdom
10 May 16
This sounds like a Keith Lemon moment - "POTATO!" lol
I say "Don't bash the mash" 
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@carebear29 (32002)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
9 May 16
No I don't. Negative feedback keeps me going lol
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@DaddyEvil (174208)
• United States
15 May 16
If I am truly not interested, I try to let it go in one ear and out the other. Sometimes, though, something the person says strikes a nerve.... I am not good at lying about something that bugs me.... If I can't hold it back the person finds out exactly how I feel and why.
I have always heard red haired people have a fiery temper.... I think someone met 
you, Wendy, and was warning the rest of the world!
you, Wendy, and was warning the rest of the world!1 person likes this
@DaddyEvil (174208)
• United States
15 May 16
@Drosophila I am quite sure you must at least have red highlights, then!
Or I can come over and help you put some red highlights into your hair and we can tell the world that saying was penned after someone met and crossed you in some way!
You gotta admit, that could be a LOT of fun!
You gotta admit, that could be a LOT of fun!1 person likes this
@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
15 May 16
LOL!!! I have dark brown hair.. no sign of red. :p
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 May 16
@DaddyEvil hahaha.. yes.. I do have a slight redish brown tint after I've been out in the sun a bit
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
9 May 16
She's the sorta person that speaks first, thinks later
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@sathviksouvik (23233)
•
17 May 16
I like feedbacks but where the comments help me to improve. Positive recommendations are good. But there faults are unwantedly discovered I dont take heed of those comments.
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@sabashekh (1218)
• Bhopal, India
11 May 16
I accept those feedbacks but work only as I feel ;)
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
9 May 16
I take any unwanted feedback as an opinion. Everyone has one, doesn't mean I have to take the advice.
When your friend mentioned your potatoes should of been fluffier, maybe you should have suggested her making them for you. So, you can taste and see what she is talking about? She will either talk you up on and make them for you. Or never mention something like that again.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
9 May 16
I like your outlook! I will also try your approach next time.
@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
15 May 16
ya, pick 'n' chose your battle for sure.
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@slund2041 (3314)
• United States
9 May 16
I remember a so-called-friend of my mother's told my mom one day that her cakes were too wet. Now, my family happens to like moist cakes, and this lady didn't. She told my mother you need to let me teach you how to make a good cake, because yours is too wet. I found it to be rude and so did my mother.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
8 May 16
But I think she never meant to make you feel bad but know where you need to improve
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
9 May 16
I'm sure. I don't need to improve my potato cooking skills lol.. I need to improve on my ability not to fume at "feedbacks" as its really not worth it.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
10 May 16
hahah your mother is a wise woman.
ya she's like that.. speak first then think later
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
9 May 16
that's good. ya I tend to ignore most unwanted feedbacks too
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