Sometimes You Need To Be Able To Vent
By Star_disgate
@star_disgate (911)
Phoenix, Arizona
May 22, 2016 3:13am CST
Now, let me start off by stating that therapy isn’t for everyone. I tried therapy and I did like my therapist, however, during my sessions, it became apparent that I need to be able to vent, more than anything. And during my therapy, my therapist said that it wasn’t going to get me anywhere. I don’t feel the same ways she did. I feel that in order for me to move on, venting is necessary.
I used to have a best friend. Someone who I told everything to. I could vent to her and she would just sit and listen. She would be on my side when I really needed someone there. She was also able to just listen. No opinions or anything.
Sadly, my ex-best friend and ex-husband decided to sleep together. I have made friends with a few people, but I don’t feel as close to these people as I did my ex-best friend.
I do have a fiance and we talk and vent, but I feel as though I need to be able to have someone to vent to, when I need to vent about him.
I have decided that maybe writing on here will have to include some rants or vent. So look for new posts on here!
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@slayer08 (2377)
• Philippines
22 May 16
Well, part of moving on is venting out what you feel, I noticed you said fiance? - so you are engaged once again and to be married, right? congrats on that. I hope that you'll find peace eventually.
Anyway, I just wanted to share something (I hope you don't mind). When my ex cheated on me, I find it really helpful to be around family and really close friends and not just the ones I tell things to. I didn't look for someone else immediately to patch up the pain. I let myself heal and it took a good 3 years and some months to do it. I busied myself with a new career, worked out, changed address, and I didn't date until I felt I was ready. I looked for a new hobby, didn't not even once have contacted my ex and did not even mention him to anyone until I was ready to talk about what happened with no regrets and less hurt. It will take time, but I believe that if you allow yourself time to heal you will get there
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@star_disgate (911)
• Phoenix, Arizona
22 May 16
Well, my ex and I have been apart for almost 3 years. We aren't legally divorced, because of other situations that got in the way. I had filed for divorce about 3 years ago and he said he wanted to work on things so I gave him another chance. Now I owe the courts for that divorce and have to find away to pay for it. I don't work because I have so many medical issues and not one of them qualify me for disability.
I think the main reason he pops up in my head every once in a while , is because there was no closure. Actually , one of my closest friends is his first wife. We talk all the time and I babysit for her and her new husband.
There are also many other things I feel I need to vent about and all of those have to do with my medical stuff.
Anyway, thank you so much for you comment. I will probably be venting on here more!
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@slayer08 (2377)
• Philippines
22 May 16
@star_disgate I hope you'll have a good thing going after all these. Good luck and feel free to post anything on here..
@teamfreak16 (43573)
• Denver, Colorado
12 Jun 16
Sometimes the best therapy isn't even actually therapy. A conversation is often more therapeutic than therapy itself, at least for me. Vent away!
@crossbones27 (52905)
• Mojave, California
22 May 16
I agree, sometimes talking about it in the setting professionals want makes it worse. This big group thing. Listening to everyone's problems. I got a DUI once and they tried to make it all Godly like, but made me want to drink more. I told the councilor that and she said she knew exactly what I meant. That is the point I think they realized I made a stupid choice. We need to vent in our own way so we do not make stupid choices. So good for you.
@trivia79 (7827)
• El Segundo, California
22 May 16
that is very hearybreaking. knowing your significant one and your bestfriend has something romantically.
