Need Some Advice
By angel_smiles
@Lolaze (5092)
St. Louis, Missouri
June 8, 2016 11:41am CST
As I've written many times, I deal with mental illness on a daily basis. One thing I hate is when mental health professionals try to 'manage' me or use behavior modification to control me. I can recognize behavior modification a mile away, as I worked as a behavioral therapist for kids with autism for 5 years. Currently, my case manager and I are not on good terms as she basically verbally abused me when I called her during a panic attack last week. I've now called her and left a message saying she needs to call me because we need to discuss things and she's not calling me back. Some have suggested she's not doing this because she has a guilty conscience but I think it's something different. I think her not calling me back is an attempt to punish me for daring to stand up to her!
I think it's along the lines of “She spoke back to me so I'm not going to reward her behavior with a response.” Basically that is treating me as less of a human being than she'd treat someone she considered her equal. I'm considered as less than human because I'm a 'mental patient'. I am considering calling today and leaving a second message...attempting to work things out between us. What do you guys think? Advice would be appreciated.
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
8 Jun 16
I am not a professional with book knowledge, but I am professional because my sister is bi-polar and I have worked with people who suffer with Schizophrenia my whole life.
What what you wrote sounds like you were angry the last session, so I think this is a calming down period. She is not answering because she does not want to add to your stress, and she wants you to try and work through each attack by yourself is possible. although I know sometimes a person will need help to make it through those.
Once I took my little old lady out to dinner, with her sister. She was having a full blown panic attack in the middle of the buffet tables, I set down out plates and we worked through it right there with breathing and facing the problem, that her sister was not going to get lost in the restaurant. After a couple minutes she was fine and we sat down and had a nice meal together.
And NEVER EVER think that just because you have a medical problem that you are less than ANYONE. You are just learning how to deal with it and sometimes people can`t help and sometimes they can. This takes time to understand all these feelings so just be open to hearing what others say, it does not mean you have to do it but sometimes one little piece of info can do the trick.
Why don`t you try this, Call back, if she answers do not say anything about the past convo and say, I made it through the attack , should I come in for a session? And let it be.
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@jerry260188 (247)
• India
8 Jun 16
Maybe your case manager had some emergency. Just check out with her assistant at her office if she is taking other people's call.If she is really ignoring you, its time to change her.
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@dodo19 (48142)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
8 Jun 16
You do make a good point for her not calling you back as a punishment method. I can understand why you want to straighten things out with her. And I think it is definitely worth a try. You can try calling her back, and see if she returns your phone call. Although if she still doesn't return your phone call by the end of the week, I wouldn't try calling her again, to be honest. There's only so much that you can do. If she doesn't want to put in the effort, then that's not your problem. That's what I would do.
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@crossbones27 (52905)
• Mojave, California
8 Jun 16
I know you may want to get things resolved with her and by all means you should. She could just be busy as to why she is not calling you back. Sounds like your relationship needs a little finesse. Something that may take a little time. So she might be waiting until she has the proper time.
However, it could mean she is just not very good at her job and is in the wrong line of work. With the way she talks to you and makes you feel. I used to know someone who worked in that field and she gave the worse advice and also thought she was better than people.. You might also want to think about getting a second opinion on your illness,as to help you with it. I personally do not hang around anyone anymore who tries to put me down and make me feel bad anymore, even if they think it is supposed to help me. It usually does quite the opposite.
Just because she is an expert and you suffer from an illness does not mean she gets to treat you as a lesser human.. Just my two cents.
@TheHorse (238277)
• Walnut Creek, California
8 Jun 16
As a therapist type, I'd say she's probably "encouraging you to make it through this episode of panic on your own." Have you openly discussed with her how you feel "manipuated" when she uses behavioral management techniques on you? If you can get on good terms again, it can be the source of a good laugh, and laughter is always healthy. I've had psychologist friends say, "Don't use that active listening crap on me!" and I've said the same to fellow psychologists. We always wind up laughing about it. My hunch is that she ultimately does have your best interests in mind.
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