Old Parents Need Not Ask for Support from Children
By @acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
Philippines
June 17, 2016 1:29am CST
It is so sad to hear about parents who were too shy to ask for support from their children. More so if they do not have income or pensions every month.
If they get sick, there is only a little benefit from their health cards/senior citizens card which is not enough if they are confined in a private hospital.
Children, specially those who can afford, should allot a monthly allowance for their parents; whether they are sick or not. It is not an obligation, but a show of gratitude to them.
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15 responses
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
It's one of the major reasons I am single, so that I can help my mom when ever she gets sick or when she grows weaker. I fear of that most of the time.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
you're a good son @letranknight25 i hope your brothers don't forget you.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
You are a good son, but you should think of your own future when you get old, there should be someone to also take care of you.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
So true, @sol_cee, or when the son or daughter got married, they forget their promise to their parents.
@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
some get frustrated because they do give money to their parents, then they find out the parents can't say no when other family members (even relatives, neighbors, strangers) ask them for help.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
It is on a case-to-case basis, but parents should be wise enough to just spend the money for their own needs and not give it to relatives or friends.
@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
I agree. My daughter is giving us part of her income to us and I thank her for that.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
Your daughter is so thoughtful. I admire children like them who show love for their parents through some financial help.
@ModernDayWriter (3318)
• New Delhi, India
17 Jun 16
Parents are not for allowances only. They are our responsibility. Do care for them 
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
I agree, parents would normally refuse to accept money from their children if they already have enough for their needs. They are always thinking that his son or daughter's own family also needs it.
@ModernDayWriter (3318)
• New Delhi, India
19 Jun 16
@acelawrites I love my parents 
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@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
My parents are like that. They would always say that they are not our responsibility. But we feel otherwise. We do our best to help with the bills and other money matters. It's the best we can do to return the sacrifices they did to us.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
Parents always think that they no longer need so much money, just a meager amount for their expenses for medical needs,so they will sometimes refuse such financial help from their children.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
So sad that some children do not see the need to support their aged parents; and you are right they should had saved enough for their old age because children might have a different mindset when they have their own families.
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
18 Jun 16
There was a time when I honestly couldn't get along with my parents. (and I think I did also shared it here way way back then LOL)
BUT things have changed and we are on good terms now, thank God. I do send them money bi-monthly or monthly out of the goodness of my heart not because I need to but because I want to. They've done enough for me growing up and I believe it is my turn now to help them out whether we are in good terms or not.
But they do both have pensions and my dad was in the military so his pension is quite sufficient for them. But still I give them some for them to buy whatever they need or want.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
19 Jun 16
You are a good son and you will reap good returns for doing it and being in good terms with them. For sure they are so happy by your thoughtful gesture.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
Yes, many of them, they do not fear karma when they too get old, they could suffer the same fate from their children.
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@epiffanie (11325)
• Australia
19 Jun 16
I grew up brainwashed to sacrifice for my younger siblings my parents brought out into this world. I resented it specially that my sacrifices was never appreciated . I was also made to believe that I was born to take care of my parents even though life was miserable all along growing up with them.
So, I changed my mindset when it comes to my children. I told them that the only way they can show me love and gratitude in return for bringing them up is for me to see them having a good life. I've never made them feel that they are responsible to take care of my needs.. I wanted them to live a life without burden so they can experience that kind of life I didn't have. But I know in my heart that when there comes a time that I need their assistance in any way, they will be there for me without asking them to be there for me ..
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@epiffanie (11325)
• Australia
20 Jun 16
@acelawrites that's how I interpret what people call "unconditional love" ..
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
19 Jun 16
It is such a nice principle, not to put a burden on the conscience of your children. It was good you turned your somewhat negative past into a positive one; that you don't want your children be obliged to help you in return. Yes, they will surely do it voluntarily.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Jun 16
I agree with you, that is what we are doing to our parents giving them financial assistance even if they have enough money for their expenses and we did it voluntarily not waiting for them when they ask us. This is to show how grateful we are to them and became what we are now.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Jun 16
@acelawrites Yes, we have to show and let them know that we really love and care for them while they are still alive.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
Your parents are lucky to have children like you who understand their needs; you are just showing your love for them.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
19 Jun 16
So true, it is just returning the love they had shown us.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
You are right, parents are so shy to beg from their children for help, so children should do it voluntarily.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
@miniam Your Mum is so lucky to have you.
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@miniam (9151)
• Bern, Switzerland
17 Jun 16
@acelawrites
Right, l would not like to wait till my mum ask me for help if i knew she need help, l will help even before she asks
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@krkumar (209)
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17 Jun 16
Really they are very good in their responsibilities, they do think for their children, so childrens also do think for their parents , what you said is true the benefits will not make any wealth to their life , the only thing childrens need to understand that parents will not ask any thing to childrens so we only need to understand our parents and fulfill their needs, and participate in their joy , share with them the situations , and give remembrance of their golden days and keep happy them
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
I agree, most old parents will not demand from their children; so the children should think that their parents's days on earth are numbered.
@koopharper (7599)
• Canada
17 Jun 16
Important for families to stick together and help each other when it is practical and possible.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
Yes, it is on a case-to-case basis, if the child can afford some extra cash for their parents.
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