long distance relationship

Can you handle LDR?

@JustBhem (70555)

Davao, Philippines

June 26, 2016 12:58pm CST

Or Long Distance Relationship. A friend of mine who's working in Dubai pm (private message) me tonight. After a long time of not hearing anything from her somehow bothers me because we used to chat every day. She told me about her boyfriend. That the last time they talked was last April. She tried to call him and send him messages but there is no reply. She is worried and she asked me if I could talk to her boyfriend. She has a lot of speculation too that her boyfriend is seeing someone else. She is very upset at the moment. And I dont know how to comfort her. This is what I dont like having a long distance relationship. It kills me if this will happen to me. How do you handle this?

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@jaboUK (64346)

• United Kingdom

26 Jun 16

A long distance relationship is like fire in the wind - a small weak fire will be extinguished, but a strong one will be made stronger and spread. It's obvious that your friend's boyfriend has moved on.

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@jaboUK (64346)

• United Kingdom

26 Jun 16

@JustBhem Either that or he's just lost interest.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

26 Jun 16

You think? So meaning he cheated?

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

26 Jun 16

@jaboUK I see. I thought about it too.

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@MGjhaud (23228)

• Philippines

27 Jun 16

I was in a long distance relationship back in college and it didnt work out. I was busy with school and he was busy with work. I decided to let it go and maybe try it again if he decided to come home but knowing that its not gonna happen (cause his family lives there abroad) i didnt expect. I didnt get into an LDR after that. We're good friends now though. He calls me when he's heartbroken haha..

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@MGjhaud (23228)

• Philippines

27 Jun 16

Turns out..

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@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

27 Jun 16

sounding board.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

28 Jun 16

Yeah. Maybe he wants to reconcile.

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@sunilparthan (6302)

• India

26 Jun 16

In any relation first you need is self belief and believe your lover. If it is there then no problem But if you start to lose that then everything gone, Whether it is long distance relation ship or near one.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

26 Jun 16

and are you favor this?

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@sunilparthan (6302)

• India

27 Jun 16

@JustBhem yes i do.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

28 Jun 16

@sunilparthan good to know. Thanks for sharing.

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@infatuatedbby (94909)

• United States

27 Jun 16

I don't think I can deal with long distance relationships and the last time they spoke was April? I'm not sure if they're in a relationship now to be honest then?

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@infatuatedbby (94909)

• United States

28 Jun 16

@JustBhem I hope she gets closure.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

28 Jun 16

@infatuatedbby We are both hoping for that. I'm sad about her. I just cant find ways or words to make her feel better..

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

28 Jun 16

I was thinking that way too. For I also have doubts about it. I'm waiting for her messages because she spoke to one of their friends too.

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@skysnap (20152)

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27 Jun 16

I handled plenty of those. I think often it doesn't work out. but yeah it's worth trying.

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@skysnap (20152)

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27 Jun 16

@JustBhem yes also if local relationship never works out, same happens with LDR too. but LDR is way special in life because you often don't fall for looks and money but the nature of person.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

28 Jun 16

@skysnap Yes it happens. But if you really love each other ever since theb maybe it will work. I know some people who works and some are not because of communication. Communication should be the way to make it work.

@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

27 Jun 16

It is worth taking risk. I agree.

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@JohnRoberts (109841)

• Los Angeles, California

26 Jun 16

I tried it once and it did not work out. I would not recommend it.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

26 Jun 16

Hmm. Thanks. I guess her boyfriend cheated.

@tech40 (23230)

• Philippines

27 Jun 16

I can handle this, I've been with LDR for 2 years before

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@tech40 (23230)

• Philippines

27 Jun 16

@JustBhem It's so really hard, after 2 years we decided to stop..

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

27 Jun 16

and how does it work?

@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

28 Jun 16

@tech40 why? is it because of work? or you hardly communicate?

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

27 Jun 16

do you know her boyfriend and did you talk to him as your friend requested?

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

28 Jun 16

I know her boyfriend. But we seldom see him whenever we visit my boyfriends place. Nobody can tell where he goes. The last time we know he is busy with work because he got promoted to field supervisor.

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@DianneN (254949)

• United States

26 Jun 16

I've never been in one, unless college counts, but I'm sure it varies for different people. Personally, I'm against it. There is nothing better than being with someone in person.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

26 Jun 16

I agree. It is more better to be with someone every day. I dont like the idea too.

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@Lucky15 (37391)

• Philippines

26 Jun 16

I did..but the other one didn't ;(

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@Lucky15 (37391)

• Philippines

27 Jun 16

@JustBhem it can. It is up to them ;)

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

27 Jun 16

@Lucky15 Yes. They should handle it. I hope she will find the answer to all her worries.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

26 Jun 16

So it will never work. I feel sorry for my friend that I cannot do anything about her issue.

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@ridingbet (66854)

• Philippines

28 Jun 16

trust,m respect, and communication should be present in order to have a successful LDR

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

28 Jun 16

I agree to these. More communication is the best.

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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)

• Perth, Australia

12 Jan 19

@JustBhem I know that some long distance relationships have been successful but a lot have not. It really depends on the person and how much they are willing to sacrifice for the one they love and vice versa. I'm annoyed that this guy hasn't tried to keep in contact. Even if he doesn't want to be with her anymore, the least he could do is man up and tell her instead of ignoring and hiding!

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

13 Jan 19

Based on my observation, most of them don't succeed.

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@zap_81 (1019)

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26 Jun 16

I normally dont support long distance relationship but then I have been told Love is Blind :and it has no rules)

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

26 Jun 16

Thanks for your thoughts. It is indeed Love is blind.

@ayahmdee13 (199)

• Pasig, Philippines

9 Aug 16

I am in LDR and I had experience that. Once is enough but twice is too much. There are many situations are like this if you are in LDR. There are some that they will be okay for the first months but later on *POOF* they're gone. Your friend should stop sending messages. I know that it's difficult for her because she likes/love him but she should STOP it especially the communication if isn't worth it.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

9 Aug 16

Oh. Thanks. Yes. She stop sending him messages already. And she don't want to hear anything from him. 5 months from now she will be coming home but I don't think she will handle it.

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@ayahmdee13 (199)

• Pasig, Philippines

9 Aug 16

@JustBhem just be with her,,, just give her positive advises..

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

9 Aug 16

@ayahmdee13 As always through out her relationship. Thanks.

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@SIMPLYD (90717)

• Philippines

28 Jun 16

It's expected of LDR . It was said that "Absence makes the heart grow fonder " . However , in my opinion that is not true anymore . It's who is nearer to make you ease your longing for your loves one , is what is now the craze . Though , it really depends on the persons you are in relation with .

@wiLLmaH (8801)

• Singapore, Singapore

28 Jun 16

I have been to LDR... twice! It is all up to them, if someone is not willing to compromise the relationship will end..

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27 Jun 16

Never had Long distance relation. But I can imagine, it would be impossible for me

@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

28 Jun 16

Why? Is it because of work load?

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28 Jun 16

@JustBhem not only work load but I would like to see my beloved once in a while.