What's Love Got To Do With It?
By Susan
@HazySue (39265)
Gouverneur, New York
July 22, 2016 9:43am CST
Day after day I see reports of some of the awful abuse that some women endure. Abuse that is directed at them by someone they love. I have to wonder why someone who is supposed to love you thinks nothing of picking up and iron pipe and beating a loved one half to death.
What goes through the mind of a woman when a man is standing over her inflicting pain and degradation. They say they stay because they love him. I want to know - What's love got to do with it?
Why isn't survival coming to mind and making them extract themselves from this situation. I know they love the person, they would not have put up with it as long as they have.
I have to ask how they can think that the person who is beating them, hurting them, really loves them? You don't do that to someone you love. You don't mentally abuse them, physically abuse them or emotionally abuse them.
I know what I am talking about. I've been there. I have gotten out of that situation. It isn't easy but it is possible. Please, those who are bleeding and broken, or feeling as though they are worthless, you need to get out. Please, before you are found dead someday.
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@nanette64 (20363)
• Fairfield, Texas
22 Jul 16
Been there too @HazySue . It is the fear they instill and the control they have and the thought that the person will change if given time. The abuser also knows that if they show love, affection and remorse for their actions, the abused will be forgiving. Unfortunately sometimes it takes "that one moment in time" to make the final decision. Get out or die; or kill the abuser.
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@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
22 Jul 16
@nanette64 I know it is possible to get away I did it myself. I know and understand what you are saying but I do feel that you need to get out before you are killed or land in jail.
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@nanette64 (20363)
• Fairfield, Texas
23 Jul 16
@HazySue After 17 1/2 years of abuse I killed him. I was arrested for Murder but it was dropped to Criminal Negligent Homicide.
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@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
24 Jul 16
@nanette64 If I had stayed longer I may have ended up doing the same you. I am truly sorry for all that you have been through.
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Jul 16
Women with low self esteem really think that the abuse is their fault. That is what I find sad. The abuser chooses people like them that they know they can have power over and treat this way. Sometimes a woman has to get so hurt and abused before they will find the strength to get out. Yes, it is possible. Sad to see it happen to women.
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@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
24 Jul 16
@celticeagle true. I agree some need to be hurt before they are motivated to get away. Some never make that decision. It is tragic.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Jul 16
I think some women with low self worth think it's their fault-like they did something to deserve the abuse, others think they can change the person with the love they have to give, and others are just too afraid to leave.
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@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
22 Jul 16
@LovingMyBabies if you stay with an abuser long enough you begin to believe it when they say you are worthless. Not only that you know by then just what they are capable. I think that you are right about women with low self worth, I think it is because of it that they end up getting entangled in this situation.
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