Going Numb and Moving On

Would he be open to fostering children? That way you could get your baby "fix".

I wanted another child and my husband said no, that I couldn't handle any more because I developed fibromyalgia during my last pregnancy. Admittedly I didn't look after my two kids very well falling asleep on the couch in the afternoon all the time. It was only once I got the computer that I have been able to stay awake. I had no choice but to accept my husband's decision because he got himself fixed. He comes from a big family and they are all really close, which is why I wanted more than just the two. But having gone through all we did with our kids (financially mostly) I don't think we could have handled another child as I was not able to return to work due to my illness. Having said that, my children are now almost 20, and 23. They are never home, don't want to attend family events and I am left alone and wishing I had another child still at home. But then I would probably be three times as disappointed. Sorry, having a chronic illness loses friends and I have none. My kids have been my life and now they have lives of their own. All I can suggest to you is to build yourself a life outside of your family. Keep yourself busy. Get involved in clubs or volunteer work. Good luck.

Since I'm not privy to what you and your husband discuss. I can only assume it's the financial cost of raising a child or both of you have too much on your plate. If you are still in school, it would also be difficult to divide your time between child rearing and attending classes. I don't think your husband's decision is final. Circumstances change. Make the most of what you have now, a husband who I believe loves you and a son who you get to enjoy spending time with.