Suicidal Over Icewater

@celticeagle (189793)
Boise, Idaho
August 2, 2016 6:02pm CST
Cami and I are setting here watching the news. Joshua comes in and starts in about his mom getting him some ice water. He can't do it himself. His mother does do for him and it is very hard for her to put her foot down and make him do for himself. She has recently been up to being more assertive and today we had quite a time. I told her it is going to get worse before it gets better. Our job is to make sure he is safe. When he gets upset enough that he is talking about being suicidal then we have to tell him what the consequences will be if he continues this kind of talk. The police would need to be called and he will be taken to some place where he will be safe. He is already on medication and I really wonder how today's upset would have gone if he wasn't. He first pleaded, then begged, then screeched and yelled, went in his room and said he was going to starve himself, then talked suicide, then started in about his legs hurting too badly. Cami went in his room and told him what the consequences would be if he continued. He finally, after about an hour of this and after Cami told him of what the consequences would be if this continued, went and got himself some ice water. I hope that the next go around is easier. I am so relieved. What a day!
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• United States
3 Aug 16
Has she always waited on him? I can't judge since I never had kids, but I sure wouldn't wait on a kid that's old enough to do it him/her self.
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@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug 16
He is VERY demanding and instead of having a confrontation with him she gives in so he is twice as bed. Now she is finally getting with the program. Though late it is great to see her make this transition.
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• Preston, England
3 Aug 16
he sounds highly stressed and clearly needs careful councelling and support
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@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug 16
And the PSR we had dropped out just when we needed them most. He won't go to counseling. It's a tough row to hoe.
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• Preston, England
3 Aug 16
@celticeagle it may get necessary to leave him no choice but to get support - something is clearly distressing him and it is likely to be more serious than iced-water - he could be facing bullying or abuse somewhere though I hope not
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@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug 16
@arthurchappell ....School is coming up soon which might be part of it. We really don't have many choices. Things have really changed as far as what services we can get due to the change in his diagnosis.
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@koopharper (7599)
• Canada
3 Aug 16
Tough day but it sounds like some small progress was made.
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@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug 16
Yes, I am very proud of my daughter for staying on it.
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• Canada
3 Aug 16
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@jstory07 (148701)
• Roseburg, Oregon
3 Aug 16
Kids can really be a big challenge. I hope tomorrow will be a much better day for all of you.
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@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug 16
He is calm and even helpful today.
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
3 Aug 16
since he didnt get what he wanted, and eventually came down and did it himself, I would hope the next time is a little shorter. I hope Cami is able to stick to it, it cannot be easy
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@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug 16
That has been the issue for a long time. She isn't consistent. While she is in non-manic I hope we can get some of this taken care of.
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@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Aug 16
@Jessicalynnt .....I doubt it will when she is manic. That's why I want to do it now as much as possible. When she is manic she pushes away and isn't easy to talk to or deal with. So, now is the time.
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• Centralia, Missouri
3 Aug 16
@celticeagle and get it to the point it sticks through the next manic yeah
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3 Aug 16
Wow! All that over ice water. I hope he starts being more responsible for himself soon.
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@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug 16
It is a long, steep hill we are climbing.
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@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Aug 16
@just4him .....ODD is in the ADHD realm. I hope he starts taking responsibility for his life soon too. I worry about his future.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Aug 16
@celticeagle I see that. Though not completely the same, I'm seeing a lot of similarities between your grandson and my older son who is ADHD and I think Bipolar too, but not sure. My grandson is also ADHD with other problems as well. So I know the hill is steep. I can only hope and pray Josh will start seeing reason soon and take some responsibility for his life.
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