Feeling Out of Place
By Curlann
@annierose (21977)
United States
August 18, 2016 6:56am CST
This is one of the feelings that I do not want to encounter. But there are times that I cannot avoid it.
When I was a student, there was one subject where I was grouped with some of my classmates who were very talkative. When they tried to make fun of me, I just kept quiet. I did my best to do the roles I needed to play but I did not make friends with them.
Same thing happened now at my workplace. I am the most behaved among my colleagues. I speak very few words only. I am always the one who sits separately from the rest, reading a book or chatting with my boyfriend or some close and trusted friends online. I know I am not a sociable person. I tried to fit in the group but I always feel out of place. That is why many of my colleagues think I am weird and I have my own world.
Are you a person just like me or you are my opposite? Have you ever experienced being out of place?
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@magallon Hi Cristy! I usually get intimidated if I am surrounded by people who are much older than me like my superiors. But with those younger with me, I don't get out of place much.
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@magallon (19279)
• Philippines
19 Aug 16
@annierose my colleagues in the call center were on the same age level. They almost have the same likes and dislikes while I was 46 then.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
19 Aug 16
@magallon how long did you work at a call center? why did you quit?
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@Inlemay Hi Inlemay! Yes, I always feel the same way when I am in a new place. Are you going to travel soon?
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@Inlemay Do you need a visa to enter those countries? I hope you will be able to save enough money soon.
@Inlemay (17712)
• South Africa
19 Aug 16
@annierose not anywhere soon - but I am saving for Scotland and the UK - as soon as I have enough then I shall get planning
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
18 Aug 16
I am not a lonely person but I don't talk much with my colleagues during my regular jobs before. I don't open up my personal issues to them. Why? I am working in the company and don't mingle with them. It is strictly work-related relationship.
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@Shavkat I do understand you. I am choosy too when it comes to who I am going to talk to. I do wonder if some of them feel I am a snob.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
19 Aug 16
@annierose If they find me snob, I don't need to explain myself. I will just need to do my thing. For the family matters, it would be better to open up. You can do that, "kabsat'!
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@skysnap! Hi Skysanp,I also experience it when I am seating next to sweet couples.
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@skysnap (20152)
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19 Aug 16
@annierose yes as a single person this is daily routine for me.
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@Vjvals That is true Val! I don't mind even I have only a few friends. I am choosy when it comes to people I will get along with.
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@LadyDuck Hi Anna! I don't get out of place with my close friends. Actually, I can talk more when I am with them but not all the times. I prefer to just listen rather than to talk.
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@LadyDuck Our friends who are very talkative will surely love us. 
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@LadyDuck (502194)
• Italy
19 Aug 16
@annierose I understand very well, because many times I also prefer to listen.
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@CinnamonGrl (7086)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
18 Aug 16
I have had what is called "social anxiety" in many situations. It always takes me a long time to feel like I fit in wherever I am. That said, I think that feeling is more common than we think it is.
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@CinnamonGrl Hi Sue! I agree with you. Just right now, I have found out that I am not alone with such social anxiety. I always feel this community. 
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
18 Aug 16
I know how you feel. I often feel out of place when I am somewhere that I don't really know anybody. I am shy and quiet and never really know what to say. I prefer to keep to myself. After I get to know people I am much better around them. I am not a very social person and never really have been. I often wish that I was more outgoing and confident.
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@annierose (21977)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@Happy2BeMe Hi L_B! Oh, I am just like you. I stutter. I am not good in speaking, really. I feel nervous and all I want is just to dissolve in front of them sometimes.
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