Very Upset!
@just4him (323168)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
August 19, 2016 10:49am CST
I went to the pool this morning as usual. When I got back to the house I found someone had been there. Doors locked. Or so I thought. It took me a bit to figure out he came through the front door that is never used and I didn't realize wasn't locked.
I just called him on it and told him he had a lot of balls to walk into my home when I wasn't there. His excuse - he needed a shower. Oh I figured that out. It didn't take much to deduce that either. The bathroom rug was wet. He also left behind his towel and a few other things.
Does it make it right that I'm his mother for him to come walking in my home any time he feels like it? He also wasted no time coming over as soon as my younger son was on the plane to Boston and I was here. Only then my neighbor saw him and told me he had been there. I figured that one out too. Only that time I hadn't locked the side door when I left and it was locked when I got home.
When I called him just now and questioned him about it, he hung up on me. So now I don't even know if I'm going to get his help moving. I don't know what to think, except I'm extremely upset and need to calm down. I'm sure my blood pressure is through the roof right now.
In a spot of good news in all that - he happened to be there when FedEx showed up this morning and I finally got the first payment from the loan company for the relocation money they promised me. I should get the balance of that in a couple weeks when they do the inspection on the house.
Okay, I'm going to get the Daily Bible Study done now and try to relax and calm down.
Thanks for reading.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
19 Aug 16
Over here, Kids can walk into their parents house whenever they want unless there is some dispute. You already told him that you don;t want him in your house when you aren't around. I think you should just be extra careful and lock your doors and windows properly. He will get the hint that way. If you keep calling him and calling him out he will not take it seriously. He would only see that as you nagging. It's only a matter of time then you will be all moved.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
I only called him once. It's not common here for grown children to do that with their parents, especially when no one was home. The doors are all locked right now.
@inertia4 (27978)
• United States
19 Aug 16
So, let me get this straight. The person that went into your house was your son? I hope I am following this right. If so, don't be so hard on him. If it wasn't your sone then I can see being totally upset. Maybe I am missing something here.
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@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
19 Aug 16
Although you're upset good thing it was your son and not a stranger! Be sure to lock up!
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@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
20 Aug 16
@just4him That is great news! :)
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
23 Aug 16
@infatuatedbby It was at the time, not any more as he stole from me while he was there.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
I must be an odd person because I never regarded my parent's home as my home after I moved away and never just walked right in. My son expected he was welcome to just walk in whenever, which he's not. Family or not, it's not my policy. He called back and we got that issue straightened out. I told him to call first.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
He doesn't have a key to the house. All the doors are now locked and I've since talked to him and he knows my policy better than he did before. I live in a security building so there won't be any just walking in any longer.
@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
19 Aug 16
I don't know the story behind it but he you ask him not to be there when you are not there then he needs to respect your wishes. There is no reason for him to leave a mess either but then again he wasn't suppose to be there in the first place. I assume their is a reason why you feel this way. My kids are welcome into my home anytime whether I am there or not and they know that but whatever the reason you have every right to be upset if he is not respecting you. Be sure to make sure everything is locked when you leave.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
I never liked the idea of just walking into someone's home unannounced. My parents always did that when they went to Grandma's. I never just walked into my parent's home when I left home. It was no longer my home. I don't do it with my daughter either. I always knock before entering, unless I've been given express permission to just walk right in. Then I still knock before entering. So when I returned from the pool this morning and saw the evidence he had been there, it rocked my world and yes, made me very upset.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
@Happy2BeMe It's common courtesy.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
19 Aug 16
@just4him I can understand that. I was the same way with my parents when I went to visit. I even knew where there left the key and even though they would tell me to let myself in I would always wait until they got home. I didn't feel right just walking into their home when they weren't there. I would never dream of walking in either my son or daughter's place without knocking first either.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
22 Aug 16
I found out he was light fingered when he was there.
@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
20 Aug 16
I can't imagine being mad at my son for coming into my house, he is always welcome as are all my children and grandkids. Most of them have keys to my house anyway. But I have a close and loving relationships with all of my family. I am sorry that you were upset, I hope it doesn't affect his willingness to help you.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
At least I knew who had just walked in. He knows my policy now and will honor it in the future.
@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
19 Aug 16
you should lock your door and windows for sure.. at least it was your son and not some burglar!
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
20 Aug 16
@just4him no doubt he gave you a fright.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
I didn't realize the front door wasn't locked. That one is super hard to get open and it was blocked the whole winter. I've since talked to him and he knows where I stand about just walking in. And yes, both doors are now locked.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Aug 16
or at least had left you a note saying he knocked, and found the door open, and stopped by. something!
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
23 Aug 16
@just4him that wouldnt have worked on a note no, I saw the post, how horrible!
@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
20 Aug 16
Take good care of your health so you must calm down. Anyway, he is your son so you can forgive him in intruding your home especially when your not around.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
23 Aug 16
He stole from me while he was there. I found this out yesterday.
@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
I would never beat up my son, but I also don't want him to just walk in when I'm not home.
@crossbones27 (52905)
• Mojave, California
19 Aug 16
It is always best to let people know if you are going to stop by even if it is family. I can see your point. I do know most many people who have kids have no problem with them stopping by unannounced and like the surprise. Of course, if no one was home, they would not just let themselves in. They might wait on the porch or leave and come back later.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
That money is mine to keep. My son called me back and felt the same way, that it was okay to just walk in because he is family. However, it always bothered me growing up that my parents just walked into Grandma's house without knocking or anything, even when she wasn't there and nobody was home. I determined that would not take place in my home, no matter who wanted in. They knock. My son got that message when he called back just a little while ago. I don't want anyone in my home when I'm not there.
@LeaPea2417 (40020)
• Toccoa, Georgia
23 Aug 16
At first when I started reading this, I thought it was a complete stranger who walked in your home and used the shower. At least it was someone you knew (son). But, still he should have called first and asked if he could use your shower.
@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
It's good you set that expectation. I thought I had, so I was surprised to find he had just walked in when I wasn't there.
@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 16
Yes there is and everything has been put to rights. We talked.
