The Plan
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (189792)
Boise, Idaho
October 2, 2016 11:37pm CST
I am rather disappointed with a certain boy. This last week I learned that Josh had some work to make up for his World Study class. Six pages of questions to be answered. He completed one on Tuesday, brought it to me on Word file and I emailed if off to his teacher. Then he didn't do any for a couple of nights and I asked him about it. He showed me at that time how much he had to. We discussed it and made up a plan. He agreed to it which I term as 'committed to'.
So Friday he does his work as planned. Saturday was to be a free day and then today(Sunday) he was to do one. He was up at 5a. and has done nothing. I talked to him at 6:30a. and reminded him. Then again at 12:30p. He then agreed to have lunch and then get after it. Well, 1:30p. rolls around and no boy going toward his computer. He's on his Xbox. Then about 3p. I talked to him again. He says that he didn't 'commit' to doing that. No, not him.
At about 5-ish we discussed it AGAIN. He said he would do one answer before bed. Anything at this point was needed so I okayed this proposal. He did that. So, now he has 5 1/2 pages left to do by Monday October 10th. Thursday and Friday he is out of school so I am hoping that he can it done.
I told him he needed to come home and get on it tomorrow. He wasn't happy. Said he hated to think of working all day at school and then coming home to do more. I explained that is how it goes when you have make up to do. We negotiated some more and he agreed to come home, get on Xbox until dinner and then do some make up. Okay already. But, I stipulated that if he didn't then the Xbox is gone until the work is completed for the next day. I really do not want a big blow up so I am trying to really work with him.
It is so hard to deal with him. He is unlike any child I have been around. As long as all goes well and we are on good terms he is fine. But, if I put my foot down he blows up. "I didn't commit to anything!" He is an intimidating boy so his mom and I can't just go disconnect his Xbox and be done with it. To be honest, I am afraid of what he might do if we tried. We, neither of us, have the strength to with stand what could come. So, I tip toe and try to be patient.
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6 responses
@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Oct 16
I wish his dad were in the picture. I give him every chance. I just don't have the strength to make him do things. I try to work with him and if he doesn't get the work done then he will fail the class.
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@TheHorse (238268)
• Walnut Creek, California
3 Oct 16
@celticeagle Maybe get the school to refer him to a mentor of some sort. That's what I do in one of my jobs.
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Oct 16
@TheHorse .....I am going to talk to the social worker tomorrow if I have time.
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
3 Oct 16
sounds quite a volatile situation - hope it gets sorted out ok
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Oct 16
I'll soon be bald. Pulling hair out.
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Oct 16
@arthurchappell ......We had one but no longer. Wish we did. They were very helpful.
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
3 Oct 16
@celticeagle sounds like you need some kind of child counciling advisor if you don't already use one
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@Blondie2222 (28610)
• United States
5 Oct 16
Sounds a tricky situation has he seen a mental health counselor? Sounds like he needs therapy to help with his learning etc. I hope he listens though and gets his work done so you don't have to do the consequences against him and see how he reacts to it. Best of luck
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Oct 16
Yes, he has. Also had a PSR. That has all stopped because of the change in his diagnosis. He did the work as planned last night but not tonight. So, tomorrow the Xbox goes until he gets done. He has the next two days after that off.
@allen0187 (59648)
• Philippines
3 Oct 16
Sounds like a tricky situation indeed.
Hopefully, it gets resolved soon.
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Oct 16
Yeah, I'm not going to put up with much more.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
3 Oct 16
you are in a sad position. I have been there but luckily my 22yr. old son stepped in when my 10 yr old was acting up and fighting with me. he slammed his fist on the table and said my youngest had better not disrespect their mom in any way again. after that I only had to mention to him what his brother said when he would be hitting me and throwing fits. the problem is what can you do once he gets even older and bigger? cops did not scare mine, only his older brother.
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Oct 16
I am glad to hear you had your older son to back you up. My grandson's dad is a no show. We really have no male to step up. No extended family either. I don't know what will happen but I hope that he does his work this evening like he said he would. If not, tomorrow the fur will fly. His Xbox is going in the closet until work is done.
@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Oct 16
That's whats going to happen tomorrow if he doesn't fulfill his agreement he made with me yesterday.
