This is a real situation I am going through

@soldenski (2504)
United States
November 25, 2006 4:10pm CST
My best friend's husband is cheating on her..I just found out on Saturday that he is cheating, I was told my a different friend of our's. Do I tell me friend, or do I keep my mouth shut, just in case it is not true?
15 responses
• United States
25 Nov 06
I would tell her if I was you because that would make you more of a friend to her I believe.
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
26 Nov 06
I think that I would wait until I can verify the situation and not make a fool out of myself in case it is not true.
@Aali311 (6125)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Yeah I think so too.
• United States
25 Nov 06
Well, it might just be a rumor so I wouldn't want to hurt her for no reason. I'd talk to him and tell him you heard it. If he says he didn't then I'd dig deeper with some resources and find out the truth. Then I would give him the option of telling her (if it was true) the truth. Either you do it or I do it. It's a very difficult situation to be in. I wish you luck!!!
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
25 Nov 06
Thank you, I am thinking I am going to wait, and be positive that he is..even if it means spying on him..hahaha
• United States
25 Nov 06
LOL...that's good. Plus, spying on him might be alittle fun!
@Desdemona (1305)
• Canada
26 Nov 06
She is your best friend right? Best friends look out for each other. I would tell her.
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Thanks for your reply
@icequeen (2841)
• Canada
26 Nov 06
Well...I would say...get more proof...first. However...I think if it is true...your friend needs to know...
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
26 Nov 06
yeah, I think I will do a little spying. He is out of the house tonight. Thanks for your reply
@DFrodeo06 (1325)
• United States
26 Nov 06
i would try to get some evidance first so you don't make an a$$ of yourself. ya know in case it isn't true and was just started by someone trying to break the two up
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
26 Nov 06
That is true. Thanks for your reply
@Aali311 (6125)
• United States
26 Nov 06
I think you should tell your friend, it's not fair to her. She'll be broken hearted one way, I"m sure it's true why would people lie about that?
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Sometimes people are jealous of other people's happiness. Thanks for your reply
@epizzahut (2079)
• China
26 Nov 06
my opinion is that keep your mouth shut first and wait.you have to be sure what will be happened after you tell her, is it good for her? or is it result you wish ,sometimes we need whrit lie and if you are best friend you should not care lie for her.do you agree with me?
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
26 Nov 06
I don't know if I agree with you because I am not sure what it is you are trying to say. I do not wish her any harm. I am happy for her if she is happy. I love all my friend's, including her husband. As of right now, I do not know for a fact, that he is cheating. Thank you for your reply
@Lydia1901 (16353)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Find out all the evidences you can and then let your friend know about it.
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Thanks for your reply.
@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
26 Nov 06
Keep your mouth shut, it's between the two of them. The third party that told you qualifies only as a gossip!!
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
26 Nov 06
I think that when someone is cheating and a other person get's involve, the person who tells them the gossip usually get's the bad rep.
• United States
25 Nov 06
I would only tell her if I was the one to have seen him do it! You never know but sometimes people just want to start things between couples. (believe me...even though you may not think so it's 100% possible!) Well like I said I would only tell her if I was 100% sure. The person that saw him with another woman may have made a mistake. What if it wasn't even him!? I wouldn't want to break up a marriage or lose a friend because of a mistake or lie! Just be sure If you do tell her. And if you can have proof. Your not a true friend if you let it keep happening! Sooner or later she will find out. and if you were my friend and you didn't tell me I would be more upset and mad if you didnt tell me! anyway good luck with your decision!
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
26 Nov 06
Oh my...Thanks for your honesty. I am more her friend then his. We have been through thick and thin and there is nothing I would not do for her.
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• United States
25 Nov 06
Whether or not he is cheating, you say anything or not you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. Perhaps asking her if things are ok between them might give you some indication of what course of action you should take.
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
26 Nov 06
I really believe I am in that situation "damned if I do, damned if I don't" I talk to her and she said that, all of a sudden he told her, she need's to find a job. And she thought that was wierd.
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
25 Nov 06
its a very hard one to answer , maybe you should wait until you are certain
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
25 Nov 06
I know...I am sure if the situation was reversed she would wait until she was positive.. Thanks for your reply
@brendalee (6083)
• United States
25 Nov 06
Wow, thats a tough one. Its hard to say but if your not sure it is true maybe you should wait. This happened to me once and I ended up being the bad guy. My friend didn't believe me and she didn't speak to me much after that
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
25 Nov 06
I should have wrote that I was not sure if he is cheating, I don't know how to edit after I post. I would never imagine that he would cheat, he seems so happy and content. I don't want to be the "bad" one and saying something that is not true. Thanks for your advice. :(
• United States
16 Dec 06
If you are not 100% sure, I would not say anything at this point. It may be a rumor. If you are sure, and find out yourself, if you really are close with your friend, then you might want to tell her. But, women are strange creatures. It can still backfire on you. So, you will have to decide in the end. Good luck.
• United Arab Emirates
12 Dec 06
1st confirm it.....den try to tell ur friend to observe her husband and den......shooote it