when nonsense is spouted
By Elizabeth
@Poppylicious (11134)
United Kingdom
October 20, 2016 1:21am CST
She said some things which are completely and utterly ridiculous. Don't you find that a tad irksome? I desperately wanted to jump into the conversation and say, Oi, no! Depression can never be fixed by a good girly gossip or a good cry. Treated, yes, but not fixed. You speak untruths!
I am not open about my depression and anxiety at all. As far as I'm concerned, it's a private quirk of mine and it's best left bottled up. On the surface I am the Face of Calm. Everybody around me is blabbering on about how stressed they are, and whatnot. I listen to their tales of woe with fidgety fingers and a heart that beats too fast.
If I told people that I'm on antiDs and have had counselling in the past they wouldn't believe me. So I don't tell them. I don't even tell my GP that I think my meds need to be stronger. I give people advice ... I'm very much a do as I say, not as I do kind of girl.
This is dangerous, and I do realise that. Please don't judge me; I'm perfectly capable of judging myself. But the world is very intense right now and even just writing about it here is a teeny bit helpful.
I wish I had the confidence to jump in and correct people, but I don't. I'd be happier to stick hot needles in my eyes.
Or simply curl up in a ball and sleep.
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@WorDazza (15826)
• Manchester, England
20 Oct 16
Most people probably wouldn't react particularly well to being corrected. They certainly wouldn't take any notice. In most cases people believe what they want to believe and, no matter what your experiences, they aren't going to change that because you've told them differently.
Most of the time it just isn't worth the effort. You're better off expending your energy on looking after yourself and not giving a damn what some ill-informed idiot thinks.
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@Bluedoll (16770)
• Canada
20 Oct 16
I'm fine, with not understanding who said what or why or when and just go with that other person must be an ill-informed idiot specially with such little information. Look after ourselves yes. Have a good cry sure why not. Expect instant cures? Not likely.
I've been stressed for a long time with this idiot tagging. But then my stress compared to other people most likely is nothing in comparison.
Rather than come to some understanding we need to guess who said what? The person in question could be someone in the office or on the street in little town America or it could be online somewhere or here. No one knows at the moment but the author of the post but sure lets call them an idiot. Sure why not.
Does it sound like I'm blasting you? It might be that I'm crying out for help because you left something like this on one of my posts telling me how I should just get on with it and not give damn.
Only trouble is
I do
Give a damn.
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@Bluedoll (16770)
• Canada
20 Oct 16
people are people
@WorDazza
having a go - over to see me buddy
really confirms what is true. we only do have so much time so why spend it on something we don't care for or with someone that doesn't really care.
what you said does have an impact ... for what its worth and I really like the quote
sending a hope something really good happens to you today
@WorDazza
having a go - over to see me buddy
really confirms what is true. we only do have so much time so why spend it on something we don't care for or with someone that doesn't really care.
what you said does have an impact ... for what its worth and I really like the quote
sending a hope something really good happens to you today2 people like this
@WorDazza (15826)
• Manchester, England
20 Oct 16
@Bluedoll In the case being discussed in this post then I think there is enough information to form my conclusion that the person to whom Elizabeth is referring, on the particular subject (and also taking personal experience of the subject into account) is an ill-informed idiot.
Many of us do give a damn as to the opinions of others, who in the grand scheme of things, matter not a jot. It's only human. I'm not going to have a go at anyone for that. I do honestly believe though, that we all can be much happier if we can only learn not to attach too much importance to the words and opinions of those who mean little or nothing to us.
It was that great philosopher Morrissey who once posed the question "In my life, why do I give valuable time, to people who don't care if I live or die?". An excellent question and one which I think we should all consider from time to time.
@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
20 Oct 16
I have always dealt with it on my own. I have never felt the need to share it with anybody. Most people thing you can just get over it but depression doesn't work that way. Rather then try to explain it or make people see what it is like I deal with it myself. For the most part I am good but every now and then it rears its ugly head and I struggle through it.
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@Poppylicious (11134)
• United Kingdom
21 Oct 16
You learn what works for you, don't you? After writing this post yesterday morning, I had a really good day. Writing helps me.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
21 Oct 16
@Poppylicious yes you do. I am glad to hear you had a good day yesterday. I have always found that writing helps. I use to write poetry to get me through those times but I haven't done that in quite sometime. It is good just to get your thoughts written done.
@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
20 Oct 16
most people won't need to know of your treatments or the need for them - it's not something you would need to broadcast
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@Poppylicious (11134)
• United Kingdom
21 Oct 16
No, but it surprises me that there are so many people who do feel the need to tell everybody they know!
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
21 Oct 16
@Poppylicious people will tend to spread every ounce of gossip they get - quite pathetic really
@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
21 Oct 16
big hugs!! i wish that'cha would' t least speak with yer doc, hon. could be some blood tests 're'n order 'n some meds tweaked a bit. my eldest son battles with this denom(s), i can empathize with ya, but'd ne'er be able to advice ya.
the folks that'cha o'erheard need to be educated, i doubt they'd take yer word they'd be'n err :(
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@Poppylicious (11134)
• United Kingdom
21 Oct 16
Thank you, lovely! I know I should see my GP, but I don't have the time!
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
21 Oct 16
@Poppylicious yer welcome, sweet lady. i'd feel much better though if'n ya made the time :) big hugs!!
@Morleyhunt (21741)
• Canada
20 Oct 16
When it comes to depression, I would never want to give advice. I try to keep myself busy when depression rears its ugly head. Occasionally it helps
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@Poppylicious (11134)
• United Kingdom
21 Oct 16
I tend to get too busy and do stuff that doesn't need doing!
@xFiacre (14784)
• Ireland
20 Oct 16
@poppylicious I love a good chat with my favourite literary characters when the melancholy for doth fall - Raskalnikov, Zorba, Meursault, and I also duet with Leonard Cohen quite a lot.
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@Poppylicious (11134)
• United Kingdom
21 Oct 16
I'm not sure I'd get much sense out of Merry Mister Meddle!
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@Poppylicious (11134)
• United Kingdom
21 Oct 16
Most definitely ... and I would only speak up if it was someone I knew well.
@JESSY3236 (22199)
• United States
20 Oct 16
I sometimes do correct people, but most of them I don't either.
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@Poppylicious (11134)
• United Kingdom
21 Oct 16
As in I rarely follow the advice I give to other people.
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