Is Age Really Just a Number?

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I hate to sound judgmental on this post, but hear me out first. First of all, I prefer older men. When I say older, I mean 10 years maximum age gap. And when I say old, I mean old enough to be my father or grandfather. That being said, I just met a Filipina who is new in town. She is the first one to approach me and she seemed like a nice girl so I figure, why not? Not that I am a snob – I just do not like opening up to total strangers on the get-go. Anyway, she said a lot of things about herself in that short interaction. Turns out she is 22 years old, and she got here on a spouse visa. Her husband is 68 years old. I was like, what? My youngest sister is 19, and our dad is 58. There is no way I can imagine that! I know I stilled my face not to show any emotions. I also bit my tongue so I cannot say anything. But those words were barely out of her mouth when she started justifying their age differences. She said age is just a number, that they are truly in love, that he treats her well, etc. I get it, they could be really in love. It’s their life, their choice. But will she still date him if he is not from the U.S.? Will she date him if he is the same 68-year old man from the Philippines? Your guess is as good as mine. I guess my point being is, you do not have to justify your choice everytime. People will judge whatever you do, but it is up to us to get past that and move on. It can be hurtful, but we have to learn to live with our choices. I cannot blame some people who think that she only used him to get here – we have lots of firsthand knowledge on people who did just that. But they receive their own karma (I will tell it in a separate post). More than anything, do not hurt other people. My thing about them marrying with that great of an age gap is not about the age gap per se, but with their intentions and motives. There could be a lot of reasons why they did it, some legit, some not. But ultimately, when one of them married the other for all the wrong reasons and end up hurting the other person, that’s when I really feel bad. They do not have anything in common, no same interests. The only thing that keeps her from going away is he can provide everything she wants (according to her). But what if he cannot provide for her anymore? Can he rely on her in sickness or in health, for richer or for poorer?