Is there a use for Anger?

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Many people aren't comfortable with anger, either their own or someone else's. I know I am very often not. But it IS a human emotion...so is it a bad one, something to be feared or avoided? I don't know. But I do know there are many articles out there on this, and some, at least, do learn towards it having a point. Anger, I have to agree, even while I don't like it, does have a purpose. Anger: as a motivating force. We see an injustice, get angry about it, and finally decide to do something. Some people call this process turning anger into positive energy. Maybe this makes this constructive anger. Anger: as a force behind optimism? I don't know about this one, but there were some studies apparently, those angry about things, like happy people, tended to be more optimistic than sad depressed people. Weird huh? Anger: expressed to keep relationships healthy. I can see this one. If we hide any emotion from our loved ones, they don't know how we are feeling. Now I don't mean let it out like the dogs of war on a nice tbone, but letting someone know they have made us mad, or hurt our feelings, or made us angry, is good. These things need discussed, apologies need given, feelings need validated. Etc. Anger: as a clue to learn about ourselves. It is a part of how we feel and see the world. Figuring out why we are angry, what need is not being met, or what needs to be addressed or changed, or simply acknowledging it, can help us grow. Anger: to reduce violence? See this one basically means, we learn to express anger in a healthy manner, so it doesn't bottle up and blow up into a violent thing. Also, it again, helps us know what we need to change, to break the violence cycle, rather like the whistle on a boiling kettle. Anger: a way to get what you want, a negotiation strategy. This pretty much is just the whole giving energy to something you feel passionate about, so you are more likely to really push to a solution you want. But again, it's controlled anger, like a controlled burn, rather than a wildfire. Fires out of control burn everyone and everything, not just where and what you may want them too. So, yeah, I think anger is useful. But we have to learn to recognize it, learn how to trace back what's causing it, and figure out how to handle it. Then maybe it will be less feared.