I yelled again, and again....
By Lee Ka
@kaka135 (14994)
Malaysia
January 10, 2017 10:12am CST
I was really angry, then sad, and now feeling guilty. I feel guilty of not being a good and supportive mom.
I have set my big goals for this year, and one of them is to stop yelling. This has been my challenge for a few years, especially towards my eldest son. I really want to make a change and stop the yelling or anger. I want to be a peaceful and joyful mom, but not the mom that my children are afraid of and run away from.
The first 8 days in 2017 went by smoothly and I felt so good about it. Those are the days I like, though not every moment was peaceful, at least I managed to keep calm. Yes, it's all about me, the mom. If I can keep myself calm, the home will be peaceful and joyful.
I just totally lost it these two days. I can't blame my son, though I was triggered by him, it's actually ME who lost it as I am the adult, I am the mom!
I am not going to make the third day worse or the same, I am going to make it back to the peaceful day from tomorrow onward. I want a peaceful home, I want a peaceful life, it has to begin with ME.
Do you yell or do you get angry easily?
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13 responses
@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
10 Jan 17
I think everyone yells if provoked but as I get older I am better able to control myself. Not always, however.
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@kaka135 (14994)
• Malaysia
11 Jan 17
It's depressing sometimes, but I am sure we can make the change. I actually become calmer and yelling much lesser than before. I always think kids are here to help us to learn and grow, not only we are guiding them. Let's work on this together! We can DO it! 
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
11 Jan 17
Have you checked your creatinine levels. They say that causes one to lose one's cool.
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@averygirl72 (38849)
• Philippines
11 Jan 17
My mom loves yelling and getting angry easily. It creates a lot of noise and drama in the house. I hope she's more calm person. I also get out of control too at times. I yell at people too. Hope this year no more yelling for me also
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@youless (114117)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Jan 17
I can understand your feelings. Sometimes children can really drive us crazy, especially boys. Even if my son is not very naughty, but sometimes I will still have a headache because of him. I will be impatient and even sometimes lose temper, too.
It may be harder for you since you have three children. And you are the one who have to do the homeschool for them. I don't know more about you but perhaps you and I also don't have the teaching experience. We know something well but we may not know the best way to teach our children. This is why we still need the teachers. I am the one who will help my son when he has difficulties in study. I will do it at home in the spare time. I can't handle to teach him as full time. Or it will drive me crazy for sure
I wonder whether you will consider to send your children to kindergarten and school. You can still teach them when they are back. You also can take a break when they are not at home.
I wonder whether you will consider to send your children to kindergarten and school. You can still teach them when they are back. You also can take a break when they are not at home.
@dodo19 (48119)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
10 Jan 17
I can understand how you feel. I do yell and get angry more than I'd like too. I have a similar problem. I try and it doesn't always work the way I would like. And I do feel bad about it, once I've calmed down and thought about it. Their behavior can be frustrating and can be a trigger as well, but I know I should stay calmer. Hopefully, we can both work it and get better.
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Jan 17
I try very hard to be slow to anger, usually I am successful at it. Every now and then like everyone else I lose my cool but not all the time.
@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
10 Jan 17
Although we don't all have anger issues, most have had at least a time or two when they were very upset.
Keep working on it. You went 8 days-maybe you can do another 8 (or 10 or 12). Have faith in yourself that you can do this.
@JudyEv (381760)
• Rockingham, Australia
10 Jan 17
It can be difficult to stay calm all the time. Forgive yourself and just start again.
@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
10 Jan 17
I do yell and get angry easily...and my son is a trigger as well..
I wish I could follow your resolution
@Lasckos2 (159)
• United States
18 Jan 17
It is tough being a mom. I have an almost 4 year old and almost 1 year old. There are some days where I feel like the worst mother. Some days I feel like I should have made a different choice. As mothers we reflect on our parenting and grow from it. If we feel guilty and think about our actions we learn how to do it better next time. This is what makes a good mom. Today I completely identify with you. The past couple of days I have been short. Then I take a couple steps back and try to see the world from their eyes and what it might be like for them.
Being a mom isn't easy, but it sure is worth it.
