Patience Is A Virtue

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Trying to remember that. My daughter has this boyfriend that she has probably been seeing for a dozen years. (Reminds me of Goofey---Really!)They were pretty hot and heavy for the first few years. They even had a spiritual ceremony down at the park, not marriage. He calls her his wife, she calls him honey. He was in Desert Storm and still has some shrapnel in his back. It can't be surgically removed because it is too close to his spine. He also fell off a building down town years again and is said to have had his brains spattered out of his head. Ugh! Don't know about that but that is how and others tell the story. He gets Vets benefits and has many issues. Mental and physical. So, he is getting pain meds but the docs won't prescribe it to him anymore. Or, not as much as he would like. He smokes a lot of pot and lies to my daughter about it. She doesn't have a problem with the pot smoking that much but more with the lying. And, the fact that he will bring it over hear and smoke it. A BIG no no. He gets bored and calls her constantly. I mean in a hours time he can call about 20+ times. He used to have a guitar and was learning to play it so that took some of his time. And, he used to have a bike too. He has pawned everything so he can buy cigarettes and pot. He's a chain smoker. My daughter decided to reject his number on the phone. So now if he calls he will just get a busy signal. He and my grandson get along pretty well as long as he is just here for a few hours. After that he gets on every ones nerves. My daughter is seriously thinking of breaking up with him. They haven't had sexual relations in close to or over a year now. When my daughter does try to distance herself from him he thinks she is seeing someone else. When she has tried to break up with him in the past he does this suicide thing where he tells her that he might as well die and feels sorry for himself. I don't like the guy for several reasons. All of the above plus he lived here once years ago now and he physically abused my grandson who was not even ten yet. No one knew about it until my grandson told me. I in turn came unglued and told my daughter. She kicked him out. He shouldn't even be in the picture any longer but, my daughter is a loving person and it is hard for her to push people away. Plus, he has been around for what seems like forever. This is just one dysfunctional area in our lives here. I wonder how long he will get a busy signal before he gets it.