Pumpkin's rant of the day: Hypocrites

United Kingdom
January 29, 2017 3:12pm CST
This is just a mini rant today! If you use Facebook, you've no doubt seen the type posts about which I'm going to rant. It is, perhaps, not quite the accurate word but I think it's close enough. I call them 'hypocrite posts'. You know the kind (it happens in real life too): someone who never makes any effort with anyone complaining that nobody bothers with them, that sort of thing. Complaining that people aren't there for them when they're not there for anyone else, or just don't notice or appreciate those who are there for them. People who prevent others from seeing their family but are the first to complain and be upset when it's they who are missing someone. Then others who help people who complain that others only want to know them when they want something. Of course, those complainers are usually the exact people who I (and, I'm sure, others) don't see until they want something. Then, of course, there are those who say something and all you want to do is to tell them to be grateful for what they have, especially when their complaint is trivial. When I see this sort of thing, I usually think (although, I do not say) that they should think about the way they treat people. I've done it myself before - I mean, I used to wonder why people didn't make any effort with me and then realised that I wasn't making much effort myself. Of course, I tried and, long story short, I have given up with most people. But that's another story. Can you think of any other/similar things that people say and do? Do you have experience of anything like this?
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• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jan 17
I know exactly what your talking about. The ones that complain their broke all the time get to me as well. Because then the next day you will see where they went out to eat or got their nails done, or how their planning a vacation... I want to be broke like that!!
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• United Kingdom
29 Jan 17
Oh yes, I know the type! People telling me they have no money when they're out all the time. A particular example I know is of a family of four. Both parents have full time jobs (good jobs, not barely making ends meet minimum wage jobs), the eldest child is an adult. The parents are always going away (sometimes with the children, sometimes without), buying the latest technology and gadgets, and going out but ask them to meet up for a pint, they've got no money!
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• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jan 17
@pumpkinjam Wow! It really gets on my nerves as well because we have been homeless before and really know what it means to actually be broke! When I don't have a $1 in my pocket that is when I say I'm broke.
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• United Kingdom
29 Jan 17
@LovingMyBabies I remember years ago, someone had asked me to do something. I told them I had no money. Their response was 'it's ONLY £20'. Apparently, their idea of 'no money' was very different from mine! I think I may have had 2p to my name!
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@1hopefulman (45111)
• Canada
1 Feb 17
I've visited a few people who told me that nobody visits them. I guess I must be nobody.
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• United Kingdom
1 Feb 17
Yes, and helping people out only to be told that there's never anyone there for them.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
29 Jan 17
There are people who say complain that other people are boasting of their material things but cannot wait to boast when they are the ones who have new stuff.
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• United Kingdom
29 Jan 17
Yep, those who say they don't want to know about someone's new jewellery or complain that they don't get the holiday that someone else has. A week later, you can't see anything for the shine of their new gems that they got in Ibiza! I also have a friend who has often seemed jealous when I've taken my boys out for day trips. Friend would seemingly feel hard done by because her job meant she couldn't do the things I did. Then she'd have two or three holidays a year as well as weekends away (because, unlike me, she has every weekend off) all while being jealous that I took my kids on a day out once a month!
@allknowing (153544)
• India
1 Feb 17
Some on FB long to get those pats on their back even though those who do that do not mean them.They are starved for praise. They should get it from their boss, or partner. Probably they draw zero there (lol)
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@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
29 Jan 17
You have some good points here. It does seem that many don't think how they are behaving themselves, which they might want to do first.
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• United Kingdom
30 Jan 17
I'm so aware of it that I always question whether I'm acting a certain way before complaining that someone else is! I'm usually not but it is true that people often see and dislike traits in others which they have or show themselves.
@Yadah04 (3480)
• Philippines
31 Jan 17
Yeah, like missing someone so bad but then still do not make the effort to call or talk to them. I feel they are show off, just letting people see them as so eone loving but avtually aren't. And then there are those people who boasts all the food they are eating, check in to wherever they are going. It is as if to tell it in you face that they are enjoying life more than you do. Lol.
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• United Kingdom
31 Jan 17
Yes, I know these types, too! I often ask myself if I'm making enough effort when people don't bother with me, but I tend to not complain to anyone other than my other half about it anyway! Hearing or seeing people complain that nobody cares when, actually, they're not giving anyone a reason to or they're not bothering with the people who do care. Some who will pretend to show empathy or try to make a big deal of something, going on as though they are so loving and caring when you know full well that they're not. I admit to checking in wherever I go. Well, not everywhere. But I usually do it so I remember where I've been! I've also mistakenly added photos of food to the wrong page when it was destined for somewhere it should have been!
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@Yadah04 (3480)
• Philippines
31 Jan 17
@pumpkinjam yeah, it is fine to complain, i do complain myself. And like you to my other half as well. Lol. but then to air everything, literally everything, on social media, i see no point on that. Well, that is just me. And yeah, that checking in thing is fine, especially if you are in a special place on special occasion. But checking in to wherever you are?! It just drives me nuts.
@JudyEv (381760)
• Rockingham, Australia
29 Jan 17
I don't go on facebook and from what I've seen of it, I won't be going on any time soon.
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 17
This sort of thing happens in real life. It just so happened that the most recent example was something I had seen on Facebook. Generally, Facebook is useful when used as a tool for communication. I tend to ignore most of what people post! There are some who are always airing their private business or having public arguments but, thankfully, the majority (at least of my friends) are not like that!
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@JudyEv (381760)
• Rockingham, Australia
31 Jan 17
@pumpkinjam That's good then. There seem to be plenty of the other sort.