Fiances mother is doing worse
By Sandy KS
@rusty2rusty (6771)
Defiance, Ohio
March 19, 2017 1:49pm CST
My fiance stopped in after church to see his parents. His mother is doing worse. She has not moved from her chair in three months. The doctor said after her last brain scan, that most of the brain isn't working. She can hold a short conversation. before she starts asking you to repeat yourself or see starts repeating herself. She seems angry all the time. She will only eat one thing of ramen noodles a day.
His father says she doesn't have much longer. That she has stated more than once she is ready to go. As she doesn't have the strength to do anything anymore.
My fiance is not in a good mood after learning about this. I don't blame him. With the wedding coming up in June and everything we still have to plan, I think learning about his mom is taking a toll on him. He knows his mom will not be able to make it to the wedding. It puts him in a tough spot.
How do cope with something like this?
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2 responses
@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
21 Mar 17
It is very complicated and many of us have dealt with such things. Life usually gives us enough to deal with each day, and it is normal for your fiance to be angry. Those emotions are good to release because they might not be stopping once she is gone.
It is really good that his mom has stated she is ready to go. No regrets on her part it would seem and sometimes, we are just done.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
22 Mar 17
I agree. It is the waiting part that is a struggle. I want to help but know there is nothing I can do but be here.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
22 Mar 17
@PatZAnthony I will try to remember that. In cases like this I have always kept quiet not knowing what to say. As I have never bene this close to it.
@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
22 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty Sometimes just a kind word to the person waiting and to the spouse who is also suffering is enough. Those expressed thoughts will be in your father-in-law's mind for as long as he can remember.
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Mar 17
Day by day. Just spend as much time with her as you can, even though its tough. Maybe give the dad a break to "get" away. I used to sit with this lady while her hubby would just take a drive. It is sad and I understand how hard it is.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
19 Mar 17
The dad refuses to leave her. Next time we go, I will have my fiance offer his dad to take a drive or something if he wants. My fiance does plan to go visit every weekend. As he starts a new job Tuesday. It is heartbreaking to see how vibrant and feisty she used to be to what she is now.
