~I Always Feel Bad~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
Valdosta, Georgia
April 23, 2017 2:07pm CST
So, I wasn't supposed to babysit today at all. I told the boys mom I would need today off 2 weeks ago so she would have a little time to find someone else. Then I changed my mind and said I could watch them today since I knew we weren't doing anything anyway.
But she text me a little bit ago and asked if I could watch them until 9pm today instead. I told her I'm really sorry but today is my anniversary and I do want a little time with my husband before the day is finished. It took her a while to respond but she finally said I will figure something else out.
I feel bad but at the same time my husband and I should get a little time together and I always try to accommodate when I can. My husband told me do not feel bad-you were nice enough to watch them at all today. Ugh, sometimes I hate how I let everything bother me but I can't help it! It's built in. Lol
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
@just4him Thank you very much! I know and I tried not to let it bother me. Yes our marriage needs attention for sure.
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@yukimori (10193)
• United States
26 Apr 17
@just4him I'm not sure I agree with that stance. My husband is an adult and capable of managing his own needs for the most part... on the other hand, our kids rely on us to meet their daily needs at this point. They come first out of necessity. That doesn't mean that our marriage gets neglected, but it doesn't take priority when one of our kids needs something.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Apr 17
@LovingMyBabies That should be your priority after God and before your kids.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
23 Apr 17
It is hard to say no because you feel sorry for the kids and I am sure as a parent you know how rough it can be finding a babysitter sometimes
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Apr 17
@chrissbergstrom Yes I do know how hard it is. But at the same time it's also hard for my husband and I to find time together since we have 5 children and I babysit. So...I think it was fair for me to watch them but not fair of her to ask me for an extra 3 hours when it's my 12th anniversary.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
23 Apr 17
@LovingMyBabies yes not fair of her at all
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Apr 17
@KristenH Thank you! No my husband works 12 hour days every day usually. He only took today off since it's our anniversary so there is no other time to spend together. When he gets home each day he eats and we go to bed...that's our life.
And our older 3 kids will be coming back home this next week so there will be even less time together.
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@KristenH (33591)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
23 Apr 17
@LovingMyBabies You're welcome. Oh wow, that's a long day. Bummer. Maybe you can make time for yourself tonight and celebrate alone after dinner.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
23 Apr 17
I would feel the same way you do. So dont worry. But your husband is right, and so are you for wanting some time together before the day is done.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
@Courtlynn Yeah I hate saying no but I had to for once. Him and I needed some time together.
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@yukimori (10193)
• United States
26 Apr 17
@LovingMyBabies Why feel bad about saying no? Being able to say that is part of establishing healthy boundaries for yourself and your family. Just look at the whole Aunt Mary thing... eventually you had to put your foot down and say "no more!"
The wants of someone else shouldn't take priority over the needs of your nuclear family. 
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
24 Apr 17
@LovingMyBabies definitely. And not like you didnt watch them all day
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
@NJChicaa Thank you. Yeah we had set hours that were changed at the last minute but I already told her it was our anniversary so I had to say no.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
23 Apr 17
I know how you feel I am the same way. I always feel bad when I have to say no to somebody even though I know I shouldn't and you shouldn't either but no matter what anybody sas you will. It is who you are. You have big heart and a kind soul. Enjoy your time with hubby! After all it is your special day.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Apr 17
@Happy2beme Thank you. I hate it at times but I know I'm a good person. I try so hard to be there for anyone that needs me.
Thank you. =) I know that's why I say your my twin on Mylot. Lol
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@Blondie2222 (28610)
• United States
24 Apr 17
You shoudn't let it bother you too much. It's a Sunday so you were just being nice & willing to watch them anyways. She should not be offended for you saying no to not wanting to watch her kid that late. Don't worry about it.
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@Blondie2222 (28610)
• United States
25 Apr 17
@LovingMyBabies and i don't blame you one bit
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
@Blondie2222 Yeah, I usually always say yes but I just couldn't do it yesterday. Not on my anniversary.
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@dodo19 (48142)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Apr 17
@LovingMyBabies Sometimes we have to do unfortunately. You and your husband deserve time together on your anniversary.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
@dodo19 Yes it can! But I had to do it yesterday. We needed some time together on our anniversary. Thanks! =)
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Apr 17
You are a kind and generous person. You can only do what you can do. And, taking a bit of time off to spend with hubby is nice not something to feel bad about at all. Any mother worth her salt has a back up babysitter on speed dial anyway. 
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Apr 17
@LovingMyBabies ......Well,maybe this is a good lesson for her.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Apr 17
@celticeagle Thank you. =) Yeah I just want this one day with him. She doesn't have a back up surprisingly.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Apr 17
@Shavkat Thank you. =) I do need time with him.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
25 Apr 17
@LovingMyBabies I think you really need to relax with your hubby.
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
24 Apr 17
@LovingMyBabies
I'm-always-asked-to-baby-sit...I-have-a-good-technique.....I-play-hard-with-the-kid,,running-,jumping-for-one-hour....Then-the-kid-knocks-out-for-the-rest-of-the-time---genius!
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
@theblock Lol that sounds like something you would do! 
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@thislittlepennyearns (68211)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
23 Apr 17
Don't let it bother you too much. Its your anniversary and you need to enjoy some time with your husband.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
@thislittlepennyearns Thank you, I did need some time with him.
@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
26 Apr 17
Sometimes I feel that way. I think it depends on the person. Some people really do make your feel guilty or as if you have to. I am trying to change my life so I am more at peace with my decisions.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Apr 17
@Msbooklover That's the thing with me, I sleep at night knowing I am a good person. When I say no I hate doing it but I know sometimes there's no choice.
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@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
2 May 17
@LovingMyBabies You know you are doing the right thing for you and your family. Nobody can fault you for that.
@GardenGerty (169439)
• United States
25 Apr 17
Sometimes it feels so hard, and so bad to say "no", even when it is the right thing to do.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Apr 17
@Gardengerty Yeah I hate saying no but sometimes I know I have to.
@Tampa_girl7 (54714)
• United States
25 Apr 17
I hope that you and your husband had a nice evening.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Apr 17
@Tampa_girl7 We had a good evening, thank you. =)
@moffittjc (128831)
• Gainesville, Florida
25 Apr 17
I'm like you, I would have felt bad saying no, but at the same you really needed some time with your husband. That's more important. Just think, if you would have chosen to babysit instead of spending time with your husband, you probably would have felt guilty about that too!
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Apr 17
@moffittjc Yes we needed the time together. I would have felt guilty your so right! Lol. I didn't even think about that!
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@Jeanniemaries (8237)
• United States
24 Apr 17
It's always hard to please everyone and you made the correct choice when you had to choose. Your husband comes first. This is a special day for you and he wanted your attention in the evening.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
@Jeanniemaries Yes it is but I try my best to please everyone. Sometimes I just can't though. Yeah, we needed some time together.
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@workathomefan (8957)
• Prairieville, Louisiana
24 Apr 17
I love the heart you attached to your post.It is so cute.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
@workathomefan Thanks I thought it was cute too. =)
@Alternative4 (449)
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24 Apr 17
You are a nice person and you haven`t done any thing wrong. Maybe you should try to grow stronger and respect yourself and your time more as life only gets tougher.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 17
@Alternative4 I know how tough life is, trust me on that one. I do respect my time, that's why I said no. But I'm a good person so I don't like not being able to help all the time.
