Is changing a poopy diaper a "bonding" experience?
By The Horse
@TheHorse (238268)
Walnut Creek, California
May 26, 2017 6:31pm CST
This post will probably make the most sense to moms, who have changed hundreds of poopy diapers. But perhaps it will make sense to others as well.
As a man, I have managed to avoid poopy diapers over the years. My brother, who has a Masters Degree in Botany, and is not a male chauvanist pig, nonetheless managed to avoid poopy diapers throughout the childhoods of a son and a step-daughter. I avoided poopy diapers at the drug rehab, where I was friends with kids as young as 13 months of age.
I had never changed a poopy diaper until my 2 1/2-year-old expressive aphasic buddy at the preschool "asked" me to change his poopy diaper a few months ago. It was a pretty enjoyable experience, and the kid wound up with a clean tush and a sense that I was one of his main buddies at the preschool.
Today, at the preschool, I told my young friend (I had watched him straining to force one out), "I'll change your poopy diaper after lunch." When my female colleague said "It's time to change your diaper" to my friend, he said "No! No! He....he..." and pointed to me. I explained to her that I had promised that I would change his poopy diaper.
It was a messy poop, but I was undaunted, and had his tush glistening by the time his dad showed up for "Shabbat Circle," our family-oriented Friday religious ceremony for the kids.
His dad and I had a laugh as I helped my young friend get his sweat pants up, and off we went to Shabbat Circle. I felt honored that he he had demanded that I be the one to change his poopy diaper, once I had said I would do so.
Is changing a poopy diaper a "bonding" experience for moms and dads around the world? I have an older friend (who used to babysit me while he was working on his Ph.D. and I was 2-years-old) who pulls the diaper card every time we have an intellectual argument. "I used to change your diaper when you were still sh*tting yellow," he says. "What do you know?"
I gots to know. Is changing a poopy diaper supposed to be a bonding experience?
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13 responses
@JudyEv (381760)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 May 17
When our son was small I went away with a girlfriend and stayed away overnight. When I came home Vince had changed his one and only dirty nappy and our son had learnt to hold his noise and say 'poo, poo'. I guess you could call that a bonding experience.
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@responsiveme (22923)
• India
27 May 17
I never thought about the bonding bit...I just did it
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@TheHorse (238268)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
@Lupita234 This was a messy poop, with a bit of leakage. I'm glad the garbage can was right there--and that my allergies are acting up, giving me a stuffy nose.
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@divalounger (6182)
• United States
27 May 17
No--never--yuck--I have 2 kids and have changed many poopy diapers--I could live aa long time without another
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@divalounger (6182)
• United States
27 May 17
@TheHorse But I must say that I think the child really trusted you to do a good job--a new branch of your career opening up????
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@TheHorse (238268)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
@divalounger Heh. We'll see if he asks me net week. I AM the teacher he seeks out when he's at the preschool. Next, I'll write about the important subject of wiping tushes of 3- and 4-year-olds.
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
27 May 17
Bonding? No
Showing love yes!
I have changed newborns to 92 years old and I cant say I enjoyed any of them but its something you do out of love.
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@Mike197602 (15504)
• United Kingdom
27 May 17
first sentence wasn't very politically correct
But you pulled it back later
Over here we say nappies...I'
ve changed a lot...on kids and adults...I didn't find it a bonding experience.
With the experience you describe I can see that that'd be a bonding experience.
Try working on a paediatric ward for a month or so and see how you bond with them
But you pulled it back later
Over here we say nappies...I've changed a lot...on kids and adults...I didn't find it a bonding experience.
With the experience you describe I can see that that'd be a bonding experience.
Try working on a paediatric ward for a month or so and see how you bond with them2 people like this
@FourWalls (86575)
• United States
27 May 17
If you use Gold Bond baby powder, maybe. I'm more interested in changing a poopy diaper being a Shabbat experience. Kiddish, indeed!
I don't think it makes anyone better because they changed your diaper, just more willing to be helpful.
I'm more interested in changing a poopy diaper being a Shabbat experience. Kiddish, indeed!
I don't think it makes anyone better because they changed your diaper, just more willing to be helpful.1 person likes this
@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
27 May 17
If you want it to be a bonding experience, then so it shall be.
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@blitzfrick (2890)
• United States
27 May 17
It wasn't for me. I hated that job. Also, the cleaning up of puke. Not bonding at all, unless it's meant in the sense of "bondage". Double yuk. 
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@TheHorse (238268)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
@blitzfrick Being a man has certain advantages.
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@nanette64 (20363)
• Fairfield, Texas
27 May 17
For me it was just one of those "a mothers gotta do what a mothers gotta do" @TheHorse .
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@teamfreak16 (43567)
• Denver, Colorado
27 May 17
I haven't changed a diaper since I was 12.
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@thislittlepennyearns (68162)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
27 May 17
When I was a junior in highschool my Bible teacher would bring up that he changed my diaper everytime I was being too loud or rowdy in class.
But yeah, I guess it's a bonding experience. I have been around diaper wearin' folks for twenty years and have changed more than my fair share. There were kids at the daycares that I worked at that would only let me change them.
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