User 101

@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
July 5, 2017 6:22pm CST
Do you know someone who uses you for the sake of herself? I do have, and I call her user 101. I never had a friend who uses you for their own benefit not until this one. Well, we've known each other ever since. She was quiet and sweet, a typical Ilonggo girl from the south. We've been friends for 12 years, she went abroad to be a DH there. She always messages me on Facebook, she only does that when so called boyfriend ignored her and as ever loyal friend, I am always there to her rescue. I am a friend with her boyfriend by the way. I am the one who tells her boyfriend that she misses him and at the same time a stalker and give her some information about him. In short, I am the giver. After 8 long years, she decided to go home, at last. I am happy for her because she will have the rest she wanted from her hard work abroad. So what she did, she contacted the boyfriend and gave him all the presents she could give him. And so they have reunited again. I thought she will come to see me as she promised me, and will talk about everything. I tried to reach a couple of times but seen zoned. Then, one time she reached out for me to tell me her issues about the boyfriend, about these and that. I listen and advise her that she need to take it easy. After that, she never messages me again. After a month, she visited my inbox and tell me her issues again, and as ever loyal, I was there listening to her life story in the hands of her boyfriend. To make the story short. yes! She uses me only if she needs someone to talk. She only wants to be the center of the universe. She wants to be the queen and all. And what I noticed about her, is she being a copy cat. Do you know someone having this kind of attitude issues?
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
6 Jul 17
I have a few friends like this before. But I stay away from them.But I have a cousin who appeared to be a user. We tried to endure his bad personality. But now, we need to put off dealing with him.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
7 Jul 17
@JustBhem You said it right. I have a lot in my relatives who showed insensitive in times of difficulties
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Jul 17
It happens even with our relatives. They will only get what they want and when it is time for us to need something for them, they are all gone. Will start ignoring you.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Jul 17
@Shavkat Same here.
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@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
6 Jul 17
Sorry to hear this... You remind me of a friend I use to have as well. She is a wife of my husband's friend. She only contacts me when she needs me to do something for her....
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Jul 17
Is it pretty awful right? Like they will only message you to do something for them. But all we ever want is to be a friend who they can value.
@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
6 Jul 17
@JustBhem I know... I also used to know this person who was/is my husband's friend. She was very friendly with me...later on I found out that she tried to get close to my husband via me... So our friendship didn't mean anything to her at all...
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Jul 17
@atoz1to10 That because she likes your husband?
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• United States
6 Jul 17
You are a good friend to her and yes I have encountered selfish people before.
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• United States
7 Jul 17
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Jul 17
Yes, Tiara. She is very selfish. After what I did to her. Well, I hope she's happy.
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@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
6 Jul 17
There are a lot of users out there these days. I would ask myself if this is a friendship that I really want to have, If you are comfortable with it well, I would keep it. If you are annoyed and feeling used I would think twice about it.
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@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
7 Jul 17
@JustBhem people do change. I had a friend that I trusted that had been my friend for over 20 years. I found out that she had changed and became a user. If you couldn't do anything for her, she didn't want you around.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Jul 17
@HazySue I don't know why people are like that, same as this friend that I'm talking about. She was sweet and I really like her. But when it comes to her guy, our friendship is nothing to her.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Jul 17
Knowing her for a long time, I know she is not like that. But well, who knows people change, aren't they?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Jul 17
happily, i have no friend of that caliber. those people are 'friends in deed in time of need'. i don't like these type of friends.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
@JustBhem well, it is her loss, not yours, my friend. you will find more friends better than her, mark my word
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Jul 17
Well, I've known her for a long time and she was not like this. Maybe because she is desperate to have that guy that she wants. And I heard she's pregnant now and well, until now. She doesn't want to see me.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Jul 17
@ridingbet Yes, you are right. I know longer talking to her.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
6 Jul 17
I have been used by a few people, family and friends. As like my mom, I care about others and usually put others before myself, so they know I'll be there when they need something.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
7 Jul 17
@JustBhem yes. Its a blessing and a curse.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Jul 17
@Courtlynn You got it right.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Jul 17
I am like that too. Like I don't care about myself as long as I am doing them a favor.
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@sol_cee (38669)
• Philippines
6 Jul 17
She should break up with him. :)
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Jul 17
Well, Sol, I heard she is now pregnant. And they are going to get married. It pays off her hard work for ignoring me when I was the one who helped her get that guy.