Stopping Crime one Etiquette Class at a Time

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Laguna Woods, California
November 25, 2017 8:33pm CST
While I was traveling in Texas recently, there was a fascinating story on the news. Apparently, a simple one-day etiquette class can make prison inmates far less likely to return to prison after they are released. At the Cleveland Correctional Institute north of Houston, Colleen Rickenbacher teaches a one-day etiquette class a few times a year for inmates who are scheduled to be released. In her career, Ms. Rickenbacher is passionate about teaching people how to make a good impression. She believed that the same techniques could make a difference in the lives of ex-cons. No one expected what a major difference it could make! During her one-day class, she teaches the inmates table manners, how to tie a tie, how to correctly shake someone's hand, how to write thank you notes, and the proper way to ask out a woman. As simple as this program sounds, the inmates who complete the one-day class only have one-third the recidivism rate of similar inmates who are released without going through the program. Isn't it amazing what a few simple tips on proper manners can make in someone's life? It made me wonder if many of these men would stay out of prison in the first place if we taught these skills in school. It is certainly something to think about!
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@LadyDuck (502190)
• Italy
26 Nov 17
I think that those classes should be introduced in normal schools. Our young people have no manners at all and they surely do not know etiquette.
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@LadyDuck (502190)
• Italy
27 Nov 17
@DeborahDiane We had one hour per week during 3 years when I went to the private school in Italy.
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• Laguna Woods, California
27 Nov 17
@LadyDuck - My daughter had an hour a week of instruction on etiquette when she was in the Swiss school. Plus, since it was a boarding school, the teachers ate all their meals with them, and the students were supposed to use good manners while they ate, too.
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• Laguna Woods, California
27 Nov 17
@LadyDuck - I agree completely. When our daughter went to a boarding high school for one semester in Zermatt, Switzerland, they stressed manners at the school. My daughter has always been very grateful for the instructions.
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@YrNemo (20254)
26 Nov 17
Interesting point! Quite a few 'bad' characters I had met so far, seemed to be quite genuine (nice deep down) but often being misunderstood by others. With times, they got mad when however they had tried, people kept judging them and so they developed a tendency of, 'so what! If you think I am that bad, I will be bad to show you!' Then again, there is a type who believe that the world is their oyster, their slaves, their stupid victims...
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• Laguna Woods, California
26 Nov 17
@YrNemo - Yes, there are those people who will continue to behave badly, no matter how much help they get. However, I found it fascinating that this one-day class could prevent two-thirds of the inmates from ending back in jail. That completely amazed me!
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@YrNemo (20254)
26 Nov 17
@DeborahDiane Perhaps with new 'manner' they managed to attract some very wealthy + attractive ladies. THAT would surely be a better life than going back to jail?
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• Laguna Woods, California
27 Nov 17
@YrNemo - Ha ha! I am sure they will have more success with women, once they have better manners and know how to appropriately ask a woman for a date! Maybe that will make all the difference!
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
28 Nov 17
I think you may have a point there but I suspect it would be hard to get young men to take the class.
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• Laguna Woods, California
28 Nov 17
@BelleStarr - It would almost have to be a part of a required class ... like health. However, the woman who teaches the classes in the prison has no problem getting the men to sign up. Isn't that interesting that former gang members enthusiastically take her class?
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
28 Nov 17
@DeborahDiane It is very interesting.
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@jaboUK (64346)
• United Kingdom
27 Nov 17
I think you are on to something when you say that those skills should be taught in schools. Of course the parents should be responsible for teaching those things, but it seems that doesn't happen these days.
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• Laguna Woods, California
28 Nov 17
@jaboUK - I'm afraid that, with two working parents, very few kids are taught more than just the essentials at home. It is a shame.
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@JudyEv (381806)
• Rockingham, Australia
26 Nov 17
That is really interesting indeed. I knew a school-teacher who taught 'manners' in her classroom. It was very low-key but the children clamoured for more. They were really interested.
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• Laguna Woods, California
27 Nov 17
@JudyEv - I think that children really appreciate knowing the right and wrong way to do things. It helps them feel more confident and happier.
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@JudyEv (381806)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Nov 17
@DeborahDiane I agree. Some of these kids were going home and teaching their parents! Some people never have the chance to learn 'manners' or other social skills so it's no wonder the kids are clued up on such things .
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• Laguna Woods, California
27 Nov 17
@JudyEv - Good manners can make a huge difference in our lives. I was shocked, however, at how significant an effect proper etiquette can have on the life of people who have already been in prison. That should be a lesson for us all!
@dgobucks226 (37621)
27 Nov 17
That is a very interesting study. I would think the criminals who go through this program did not commit violent crimes? Were they white collar crime inmates? It would be very surprising to equate learning etiquette with influencing someone to not commit crime in the first place if that is what you are suggesting? I don't know if I would agree with that premise, however, teaching good manners never hurts anyone.
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• Laguna Woods, California
28 Nov 17
@dgobucks226 - No, these were not white collar criminals. Most of them are in jail for robbery, burglary and violent crimes. This class is offered to them during the months before they are scheduled to be released. Many of them are tattooed and the men shown on TV were racially very diverse. That is what makes the program so amazing. Only a very small percentage of those who take the class return to prison. The recidivism rate from that prison is only 1/3 that of other prisons in Texas where the class has not been offered. Incredible!
@lady1993 (27221)
• Philippines
26 Nov 17
that is really nice of her to spend her time among the inmates. I hope all of them will listen to her and take that knowledge into the outside world
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• Laguna Woods, California
27 Nov 17
@lady1993 - I thought it was nice of the woman, too. She said she loves doing it. Amazing the difference one person can make!
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• Eugene, Oregon
26 Nov 17
That is an interesting experiment with good results. I hope they expand it.
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• Laguna Woods, California
27 Nov 17
@jamesHxstatic - I hope they expand it, too. Texas is not exactly known for its innovative prison programs, so I was especially impressed by the results. I hope it becomes a national program!