My Mother is Trying to Kill Me!
By Morgan
@OneOfMany (12150)
United States
March 24, 2018 10:55pm CST
Not intentionally... but enough is enough! First it was giving me something with shrimp, which I can be allergic to. Then it was giving me something with sunflower seeds, which I am definitely allergic to. And today, she 'helped' me clean my sink with who knows what, but it created a poisonous gas (probably mixed bleach and ammonium together to form chlorine gas), and now I can't sleep (and I was so tired before) because I can hardly breathe!
I've decided she is officially banned from my residence until she learns to not be destructive to my health and well-being!
Seriously, I'm getting better, but I like knowing I will still be breathing when I wake up in the morning. Right now, I'm not sure if it is the chemicals or the anxiety which is making it harder on me to get a decent breath...
Update! It was chlorine gas. After much confusing information, she hadn't used it for my dishes, but used a bleach cleaner (a very potent one) on my bathroom and in my toilet. The directions have a caution statement about being used in a closed space, and recommend having windows open, and cleaning it up right away. She left it there (and it sat for hours, saturating the house with fumes) and when I used the toilet later, it created chlorine gas (well, briefly before it was flushed).
Strong smelling bleach cleaner and chlorine gas near my bedroom created the problem. I was right to open the door, but it was after I received a full dose for over an hour.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
25 Mar 18
Wow, I sure hope you are ok, I know mixing some of those chemicals together can be deadly. Does she not know you are allergic to those foods? Yeah, I would keep her out for a little while until she understands but I am sure it wasn't intentional.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
It wasn't, but she knows about the allergies but forgets. She can eat anything, so remembering that others can't isn't on her mind.
I opened my door to the outside and left it open for a bit. I lost heat, but it sucked the chemicals out. Once I feel that I'm normal again, I will try to go to bed once again. I would sleep in the room where I am now, but I have nothing to sleep on! lol
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
@cintol If I can't sleep here, I might have to head into town and crash at my parents' place. Hopefully my mother doesn't target me when I'm there! lol
For other reasons, I would rather sleep here in my own bed!
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
25 Mar 18
@OneOfMany I can understand that, I am allergic to tomatoes and people sometimes forget that when they invite us for dinner but my mom always remembers and tells others when they are around. lol Well thats a good thing that it sucked some of the smell out, my friend mixed vinegar and bleach together once, it was not a good smell at all either. Hope you can get some sleep soon
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
25 Mar 18
It's sad to know that there is a mother who harm her children. Though it's not my first time hearing about this, I still feel sad, because my impression to mothers are only good .
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
She's not doing it with the intent of causing harm, but her lack of recognizing pointed to dangers is what's bad.
Still, if you tell someone to stop doing something, shouldn't they listen?
Right now I'm mad that I'm not sleeping when I should be. Very slowly, I'm regaining the ability to take deep breaths again.
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
25 Mar 18
@OneOfMany ohh ok now I understand why, all I know she doesn't have issues about recognizing a person. Just try to understand her, maybe she doesn't intentionally harm you.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
@Jessabuma Well, she'll be hearing a lot about this tomorrow, should I manage to make it through the night! lol
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
25 Mar 18
my father did that once cleaning the bathtub.
"the bottle's heating up,heh heh"
no,not funny,dad.'scuse me while i puke.
no,not funny,dad.'scuse me while i puke.2 people like this
@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
Yeah, it can have some pretty bad effects. I don't think it's the chlorine gas as much as it is a reaction from the chemical smell.
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@sprite1950 (30461)
• Corsham, England
25 Mar 18
I think you should send your mother to her room until she can behave! I hope you're ok, maybe you should visit a doctor.
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@sprite1950 (30461)
• Corsham, England
25 Mar 18
@OneOfMany I agree, better safe than sorry. Thankfully I don't have asthma or any allergies in my family.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
Well, thankfully she's in her house. I just have to keep her out of mine! lol
I might have asthma, which I have never looked into, because its breathing upsets are caused by the same things that get to me. It would be better to get looked at rather than wait until I have a seriously bad reaction. :D
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
@sprite1950 I don't think there is anyone that suffers asthma in my family. However, the other thing might be that it isn't my lungs but my brain. After I damaged the part that controls breathing, I couldn't breath normally for a long time. If I get stressed or anxiety, it will bring that back. However, I got super congested last night, suggesting that there was something else going on.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
I even told her that I was washing my own dishes in the morning, and did not need her help in doing so. With my way, there was no strong, potent chemical smell and it didn't bother me.
I have no idea what she used to make it smell that way!
I know chlorine gas itself is odorless, but that strong smell is suspicious. -sigh- I should be 2 hours into a nice sleep cycle now, not suffering to get a deep breath in.
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@Starmaiden (9308)
• Canada
25 Mar 18
Oh my goodness!! Is your mother aware of your allergies?
I have to agree with @jstory07 (62695) on this one. Don't let your mamma near you again!
:-)
PS...Open your windows and door to get the fresh air flowing again.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
She knows about the sunflower seeds and said: "Just eat it anyway."
She doesn't know what an allergy to food feels like, so she lacks compassion towards it. In her mind, it's picky eating. Now, she is a really nice person, but there are elements about her which ignores the fact that something really is unhealthy for certain people. A 'burning, swelling feeling' is not something a normal person would ignore.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
@Starmaiden Fortunately my reactions aren't anything beyond 'painful' at this point, but still, things I want to avoid!
Lamb is the only other food on that list, but how often do you get exposed to that? And meat allergies are not that common to begin with.
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@Starmaiden (9308)
• Canada
25 Mar 18
@OneOfMany Maybe ask her to do some research, get a better understanding of how dangerous food allergies can be. My brother's stepdaughter is allergic to peanuts. If she eats anything that has touched a peanut she goes into anaphylactic shock. A mother should be more discerning. Just sayin' :-)
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
26 Mar 18
Time to ban chlorine products from your home, as well as the allergenic foods. No wonder you have anxiety.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
26 Mar 18
The products are used fine when I use them! lol
There are no allergenic foods here either. I keep them far away!
@luisadannointed (11842)
• Philippines
25 Mar 18
Does she know your allergic? Oh my! I hope you are safe. It is best to ask her what's in the food she's giving you. And it is better to remind her of your allergies. God bless.
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@luisadannointed (11842)
• Philippines
25 Mar 18
@OneOfMany Just be careful on what you eat next time, try to talk to her that allergies are very dangerous. God bless.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
@luisadannointed I'll be sure to! I don't like feeling that in my throat.
@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
She does, although for a long time, she would give me those anyway, because she was using it. Then would get mad when I didn't want to eat it. I eat pretty much anything, so I'm not sure why one thing would make her think I was being a picky eater...
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@epiffanie (11325)
• Australia
28 Mar 18
Oh my!.. and your mom just wanted to help .. But I understand you...
As a mother, I wish I could go check on my sons' house to make sure they are clean and tidy.. But I'm not allowed to go to their residences without their permission ..lol..
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@epiffanie (11325)
• Australia
29 Mar 18
@OneOfMany I hope you get checked and find out what's really causing it...
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
29 Mar 18
@epiffanie The only problem in getting it checked is that in most of my cases, they can't figure it out, and then I have to on my own. So in this case, I'm trying to see what I can do first.
@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
28 Mar 18
Now I have to figure out if my current shortness of breath is caused by the Chlorine gas (which couldn't have been much), Asthma (which I have never been diagnosed with), Acid Reflux Disease (which I know I have and brought on yesterday by eating chocolate, spicy foods and drinking soda), or Anxiety (which has always caused this problem in the past, and happens to be high because I'm currently thinking about all of the above!)
Well, I came on here to share my worries. I doubt it was the Chlorine gas, because I never displayed all the other symptoms. That, and my eyes were never irritated, which is supposed to happen. Also, I was fine Monday and the first part of Tuesday, and then the breathing difficulties started to set in heavily yesterday afternoon, after eating the acid reflux causing foods. Plus, there's a lump in my throat, and that is a result of reflux. I don't have any chest pain, which the gas would have caused.
Reading about all the 'what ifs' has certainly raised my anxiety levels to their maximum.
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@Poppylicious (11134)
• United Kingdom
26 Mar 18
Ah, you jest, but maybe she is trying to kill you??
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
27 Mar 18
@Poppylicious Well, she had a chance with a knife the other day. So since she didn't do it, perhaps she hasn't been meaning to after all! lol
@Morleyhunt (21741)
• Canada
26 Mar 18
oh my.
I'm not fond of the smell of beach....ammonia even less so. Very rarely have I used either.
Shellfish are not found in my home either. I cant re all buying sunflower seeds as food except birdfood.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
26 Mar 18
I found out that it was a bleach cleaner and that chlorine gas was produced. I was right to open the door.
@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
25 Mar 18
@OneOfMany
Morgan, I can understand why you would think why your Mom wants to kill you.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
I don't think she wants to kill me. I think her actions are doing it despite not trying! lol
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
@Hannihar lol. It's not that bad, I promise. 
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
25 Mar 18
@OneOfMany
Morgan, I would still not want to be alone with her.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
Yes, by itself it is okay for a short exposure, but can still irritate the lungs even alone.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
25 Mar 18
Me too! It still is difficult to breathe, but I left my door open and a lot of the chemical smell is gone now.
@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
25 Mar 18
OH My..I would tell her when she comes she can be a guest. She doesn't have to do anything for you!
@Debscrochet (1947)
• United States
25 Mar 18
aww that's too bad. I hope you feel better.
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@crossbones27 (52907)
• Mojave, California
25 Mar 18
Some people do indeed mistake actual allergies as being a picky eater. You can thank people like my brother for that. Not really allergic to things but hates things like sour cream and really so many foods it is hard to keep track of, but acts like he is going to die if he even gets a small taste. It can be annoying and gets to the point you just want to yell at him and say stop. Just suck it up and eat it or throw it away already. I do not need to hear you whine for 10 minutes straight.
Other people actually think if you eat small amounts of something you will eventually build up a tolerance to said food and the allergies will go away, but pretty sure that does not work. Our genes are indeed different and certain things just do not mix with our bodies. I actually think I am a tad allergic to mustard. Makes me feel hot and sweaty sometimes, but love the taste so eat it anyway, but almost always get a bit of a hot and sweaty feeling every time I eat something with mustard.
@jillybean1222 (6406)
•
25 Mar 18
sorry about the fear of your mother.... hope you can breathe better soon
