hard day, but smoother ending
By Kelli M
@spiderdust (14756)
San Jose, California
March 30, 2018 10:51am CST
Yesterday was very stressful. I don't want to go into all of the details right now, but some difficult decisions had to be made that no one is very happy with.
The other half finally posted on his Facebook wall about how his ex-wife had virtually abandoned the kids without their belongings, wasn't answering phone calls or texts anymore, hadn't contacted the kids since they came here... and her friends responded. The responded by calling her out over ignoring her children, over choosing to go out and have fun instead of making sure they had their clothing and medication, and got her to actually CALL THEM.
One of the friends is going over to where the ex is staying and making her get the kids' things out of storage, getting some of the kids legal documents (SS cards, vaccination records, etc... you know, those things that are needed for enrolling kids in school), and getting those things to us.
There are some other snags that are still being figured out, but having her friends step in on the kids' behalf and call her out on her nonsense was an unexpected relief.
The youngest three kids played music and danced around in the yard with glow sticks last night before going to bed. The above photo is of their little "mini rave".
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@thislittlepennyearns (68211)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
30 Mar 18
She doesn't seem to care about anything but herself and her desires. That's pathetic and sad. I'm so sorry for all the stress that she is putting you all through.
I saw your messages on Facebook. I'm not ignoring you I just haven't had a chance to respond.
Hang in there.
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@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
30 Mar 18
Don't worry, I'm not feeling ignored. It was a sea of text! 
@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
30 Mar 18
@thislittlepennyearns We're going through the child support office, but we need the change in custody stuff filed first.
@thislittlepennyearns (68211)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
30 Mar 18
@spiderdust have you guys contacted child services about what's going on. I'm assuming if she was on food stamps she has some sort of case worker.
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@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
30 Mar 18
I honestly expected her friends to side with her (a few are, but they're gluttons for drama anyway), and was pleasantly surprised.
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@dodo19 (48140)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
31 Mar 18
@spiderdust It does seem to be the case. Otherwise she probably would have brought clothes and all the papers that you guys need for them.
@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
31 Mar 18
I think she cares about the idea of having kids, just not enough to do the hard work.
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@amadeo (111937)
• United States
30 Mar 18
@spiderdust Good girl.You are so brave
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@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
30 Mar 18
@amadeo They need me to be, so I just have to do it.
@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
30 Mar 18
I don't know if I am or not... but I sure am trying!
@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
30 Mar 18
I am glad you got some help, unexpected at that.
I know she is a sorry excuse for a mother but please don`t let the kids hear any of it, they are already feeling like she does not love them because of what she did.
I know this one woman, I won`t mention her name, that would dump her kids at my house and not come back for days, sometimes a week, those poor kids cried saying she did not love them anymore, I would tell them different that she did and something must have happened and I would find out for them, when she came back they always lite up with happiness that mom did come back. The kids weren`t even kin to me!
I do feel bad about what is happening and I am glad you are woman enough to step up and love`em.
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
31 Mar 18
@spiderdust Dad shouldnt either....Some women should not have children.
@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
30 Mar 18
I'm trying very hard to protect the kids from all of this, although they already know a lot of it because she keeps canceling on them. I'm not badmouthing her in front of them though.
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@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
30 Mar 18
So much happened in one day. But great things went well. It must be exhausting for the kids too. 
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@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
30 Mar 18
It's definitely been a whirlwind around here.
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@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
31 Mar 18
@mlgen1037 I wouldn't say that all went well. If you recall, at the beginning of my post, I stated, "some difficult decisions had to be made that no one is very happy with."
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@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
31 Mar 18
@spiderdust it sure does. But still all went well and I think thats what matters.
@changjiangzhibin89 (17239)
• China
31 Mar 18
Those things are hard to deal with,especially you are sandwiched between them.The kids are blessed with having you to be stepmother .
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@spiderdust (14756)
• San Jose, California
2 Apr 18
I hope so. We haven't heard back from her yet about the kids' things, so I hope she wasn't just blowing smoke. 
