What Were You Taught?
@just4him (323168)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
April 7, 2018 4:49pm CST
Children learn and behave by what they see and hear. If a child is issued criticism, ridicule, hostility, hate, disrespect, they learn to behave in the same manner to their children. It is very difficult to show love and respect if you were never shown it as a child.
However, if children are shown love and respect then criticism, ridicule, hostility, and hate will not be part of their lives, and they will grow into loving and caring people.
Then there are the children who grew up surrounded by those traits that demean them, bring them fear, distrust, and yet, they bring themselves out of the pit by determining they will not show the same traits to their children, they were shown.
However, how do you show love, when you've never been shown love? A person can do just about everything to bring themselves up out of the mire of this world, but loving someone when you've never been loved is almost impossible. It takes more than determination to show love. It takes someone showing that person love. It's the only way.
What were you taught? I was taught criticism, rejection, fear, hate, hostility, disrespect. It's no wonder I became an introvert, and began writing.
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@LadyDuck (502204)
• Italy
8 Apr 18
I have grown up not only being taught to love and respect, but also been shown love and respect. What to say, my brother and I grew up in the same family, but we are so much different. My father was generous and helped everyone. My brother is selfish and careless, this is not what we were taught.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
8 Apr 18
We were taught everything. as my mom and grandparents showed us love, respect, etc. but one of my uncles, and a cousin showed criticism, hate, disrespect, etc.
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@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
8 Apr 18
I would have never known that of you because of that one picture of you as a younger adult. You have the most beautiful smile on that picture. My Mother and Grandmother taught me love. They loved me. I miss them so much.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Apr 18
@MsBooklover I'm not so sure. My oldest disowned me last month, and my daughter rarely talks to me. The only person I really talk to a lot is my youngest son.
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@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
8 Apr 18
@just4him It looks to me as if you have accomplished that.
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@MrsPumpkins (466)
• Philippines
8 Apr 18
I was taught not to blame any one else for my actions. I was taught to respect out of fear, and to love without questions. I was taught to keep my opinions on my own that's why i write diaries.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
9 Apr 18
I'm sorry you were taught to keep your opinions to yourself. It's as if you were told you didn't have a voice.
@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 Apr 18
@MrsPumpkins I was an introvert as well, probably still am. I feel the same way about going to those kinds of events, though when I get there, I do tend to have a good time. I'm glad you don't resent your parents. I never did get along with mine. They're gone now.
@MrsPumpkins (466)
• Philippines
10 Apr 18
@just4him yes, just like that... i grew up like i didn't have a choice but to follow what i am told. Now. I grew up as an introvert... now that i am 36 yrs old, i find alumni homecomings, reunions and other people's parties a bother to my daily routine. Hehe and when i had children, i found friendship in them and there companionship is enough. My parents tell me to go out with friends since i am already old enough, but too late, it came to a point in my life that i don't like to go out with friends anymore. But i love my parents now than before, I don't know why i wasn't resentful to them. Hehe
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@LeaPea2417 (40020)
• Toccoa, Georgia
9 Apr 18
I was taught to be nice towards all.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Apr 18
That was a hard time in life to grow up. My parents were born at the beginning of the Great Depression '31 and '32.
@Tampa_girl7 (54714)
• United States
8 Apr 18
Both my mama and daddy set wonderful examples.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
9 Apr 18
That's great, and why it is so hard for you to see them like they are today.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
9 Apr 18
i was taught good manners and right conduct, but the external outside forces gave me the chance to learn about realities of life. i can balance the good from the bad now.
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@Starmaiden (9308)
• Canada
7 Apr 18
I was taught that I was basically on my own. Whenever I had a problem or a question my parents would answer; "Well that's not my problem", or "I don't know", or "Why are you asking me", (??) It was as if they couldn't be bothered.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Apr 18
That's so sad. I'm sorry you were so much on your own.
