The Proposal

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@Kandae11 (57233)

April 10, 2018 7:51am CST

Three weeks after our meeting, he returned to his country of residence - thousands of miles away. We spoke on the phone every day - and three months later the proposal came - by phone. Do you remember the day your husband or wife proposed? Was it expected or unexpected ?- a simple affair, or specially planned ?. I would have much preferred a proposal like the one shown in the above picture. I know partners have been dumped via text message, but I wonder if there was ever a proposal by text. Would you appreciate a text message marriage proposal?

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@vandana7 (102698)

• India

10 Apr 18

I thought would be husbands propose, and they kneel or used to kneel till they realized the place they knelt must have been exactly the spot where some cat chose to poop a few centuries ago.

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@vandana7 (102698)

• India

10 Apr 18

@Kandae11 I find it absolutely amusing...fascinating...funny...hilarious..

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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10 Apr 18

kneeling is one traditional method. Women do propose too - though that is certainly not traditional.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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10 Apr 18

@vandana7 I suppose the parents are approached first , in your country.

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@JudyEv (381760)

• Rockingham, Australia

10 Apr 18

We went together for quite a while then split up for a year or two. When my future husband decided he did want to be with me after all I was quite enjoying the single life and he had to do some persuading.

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@JudyEv (381760)

• Rockingham, Australia

11 Apr 18

@Kandae11 I always say he won me over when he bought me a pineapple fritter at a drive-in.

What price freedom? / myLot

With so many posts about food recently and mention of pineapple in a discussion (sorry, I can't remember whose post it was) I was reminded of the...

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

@JudyEv That wasn't much persuasion then.?

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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10 Apr 18

Most times it is best to take some time before making a decision - and it worked in your case.

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@allknowing (153544)

• India

11 Apr 18

He did say "Will you marry me" in style (lol)

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@allknowing (153544)

• India

11 Apr 18

@Kandae11 It was on the beach

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

Those words made you very happy, I'm sure.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

@allknowing That would be a perfect setting .

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Arthur Chappell

@arthurchappell (44941)

• Preston, England

10 Apr 18

never proposed - if I do it will be the whole, on my knees, flower and ring approach - not a text of wed me plese

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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10 Apr 18

Most women would prefer it that way I am sure.

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Arthur Chappell

@arthurchappell (44941)

• Preston, England

10 Apr 18

@Kandae11 I expect so yes

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@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

10 Apr 18

My husband proposed during a dinner, something very similar to this photo. We had no cell phones in those times, we were happy people.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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10 Apr 18

That would be the preferred way for me.

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@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

10 Apr 18

@Kandae11 It was a special moment and I am happy when I remember it.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

10 Apr 18

I like creative. We were on a back mountain road, just talking, and he suddenly asked me to marry him. I said yes, then the next day I told him no. It was a few more days before he convinced me.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

10 Apr 18

@Kandae11 I should have stuck with 'no'. Oh well. I have three wonderful children from it.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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10 Apr 18

If the proposal is unexpected , some time should be allowed to consider carefully before making a decision. At least he was able to convince you eventually .

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@jstory07 (148701)

• Roseburg, Oregon

11 Apr 18

A propose in person is the best way.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

Definitely the best.

@DianneN (254949)

• United States

11 Apr 18

I had a very traditional proposal on bended knee, after he asked my father's permission. That's the only way to propose in my book. My sons did likewise.

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@DianneN (254949)

• United States

13 Apr 18

@Kandae11 Yes, mine was in private. My older son did a public proposal in a swanky lounge after a fancy dinner. She screeched like a chicken! lol. Our younger son did a private proposal.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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13 Apr 18

@DianneN Public proposals mean that the one proposing is very confident of the answer.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

Was it in private?

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@YrNemo (20254)

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11 Apr 18

Mine was expected since I had lots to give back then and he had to grab me fast before the prey got lost to someone else. Any text message is considered as a joke to me. (There are text messages which I only found out a few weeks later. I have a few different cell phones. To the people I don't care for, I would give them a certain number so that I could mute the phone and ignore it.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

i would not be impressed by a text message either - a phone call is not the best, but better than a text. You've given me an idea there - get a different cell phone for certain callers.

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@YrNemo (20254)

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12 Apr 18

@Kandae11 I have no choice in my case. So now I have one for good friends & family members, one for bad contacts (and ex etc

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@Icydoll (36713)

• India

11 Apr 18

Proposal in person is always best my dear friend..these are the moments we should remember forever so we can feel the love of other in person lively

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

I agree with you.

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@Courage7 (19626)

• United States

10 Apr 18

Was that fiction or real the first paragraph Kandase? Did this happen to you by phone? At this time in life, I want NO proposals thanks lol

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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10 Apr 18

It was very real - and the marriage turned out to be a disaster.

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@Courage7 (19626)

• United States

10 Apr 18

@Kandae11 I am sorry to hear it. I am glad you escaped it.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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10 Apr 18

@Courage7 Just made it out in one piece.

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@porwest (112717)

• United States

11 Apr 18

I think I started by saying, "I guess we should get married." lol

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

That's a proposal alright.

Louise Crisologo

@mlgen1037 (29882)

• Manila, Philippines

10 Apr 18

I am into traditional type. I mean I still like to hear it straight from my his mouth. We just had a simple date and then we bought rings and asked me to marry him and then now he is my husband.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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10 Apr 18

I would definitely prefer to be face to face with him when he proposes.

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Louise Crisologo

@mlgen1037 (29882)

• Manila, Philippines

10 Apr 18

@Kandae11 yes and I find that really romantic.

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@ivanituut (1933)

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11 Apr 18

As long as you happy, I'm happy for you

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

Being happy is important.

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@ivanituut (1933)

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11 Apr 18

@Kandae11 yes always :)

@KrauseHome (36445)

• United States

11 Apr 18

Personally, I am Glad mine never came via Text message as Cell phones and Texting was not out yet. Ours was nothing spectacular either, but Romantic. He asked me even though we had been discussing the thought of marriage and then asked everyone what they thought from there

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

Romantic is enough I think

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@ridingbet (66854)

• Philippines

11 Apr 18

there are many styles of proposing and these are often presented on video on Facebook.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

I can well imagine.

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@thelme55 (79311)

• Germany

11 Apr 18

I would not appreciate a text message proposal as I would not be able to see his face if he really mean it or not.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

Yes, it would be hard to tell if the text message is serious or a joke.

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

11 Apr 18

@Kandae11 Kandase, I would like a romantic proposal.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

Romantic is good.

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@redurnet (1796)

• United Kingdom

11 Apr 18

I think face to face would be nicer but it's quite amusing and cute to be asked by text message or phone too. It's almost like they can't wait to ask, perhaps.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

In the text it might be more understandable if he says something like - "I think we should get married , let's discuss it later at dinner".

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@dya80dya (36805)

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11 Apr 18

Text message proposal it's not good.

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@Kandae11 (57233)

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11 Apr 18

No, it isn't - doesn't seem right to me.