Shock Absorber.
By rakski
@rakski (156239)
Philippines
May 28, 2018 10:27am CST
Hello everyone.
Today is a very exhausting and tiring day. The discovery of my husband's name discrepancy brought a lot of arguments today.
It started when my sister in law texted their parents about this. Apparently it is not only my husband who experienced this but hers was discovered earlier. My mother in law being guilty but does not want to admit it then rant it out to my father in law. Since they are both in this together, father in law then called me in high pitched note telling me all the rants and excuses they have.
Honestly, I was caught offguard. In my mind I asked, 'why me?'
It is always hard to deal with them especially my mother in law who does kot want to admit whenever she is at fault.
And guess what, for them to listen to me and hear my side, I had to raise my voice too and talk non stop. Ahaha. 
He told me his kids were inconsiderate of their feelings, they are old already and easily get offended.
My say: 'please put yourself in your kids' shoes right now. At 40+ they will discover this and that, how would you feel?'
And with that..... SILENCE.
Have you ever feel to ne a shock absorber of others problems?
That is how I felt today.
He told me his kids were inconsiderate of their feelings, they are old already and easily get offended.
My say: 'please put yourself in your kids' shoes right now. At 40+ they will discover this and that, how would you feel?'
And with that..... SILENCE.
Have you ever feel to ne a shock absorber of others problems?
That is how I felt today.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 May 18
Sometimes it is good to raise our voices to people who are older than us so we can tell them how we feel. I am doing that to my sister when she insists on what she believes in.
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@rakski (156239)
• Philippines
29 May 18
@ridingbet yes, precisely what I did yesterday because if I let them talk and talk, and let them be, then they will no longer listen to me and assume again they were right. But not this time. I stand my ground. It is supposed to be their problem not mine.
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@rakski (156239)
• Philippines
29 May 18
@ridingbet true. I am glad I've done than. My father in law even get offended when I told my daughter where they were born. Lol 
But it is a vital information a person should know.
But it is a vital information a person should know.1 person likes this
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 May 18
@rakski yes ah. you should be excluded from their family problems.
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@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
28 May 18
I am sorry, Rakski, that you had to endure all that. But you were matured in all these. Usually it is my father who rants and I would have to put myself in silent mode when he does.
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@rakski (156239)
• Philippines
29 May 18
Same here. But this time I cannot because as a spouse, yes it is my problem somehow but at the end of the day, it will still bring back the question 'why and how does that happen?' and the answer is still THEM who neglect it. Not me. My kids papers and mine are all good.
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@rakski (156239)
• Philippines
29 May 18
@mlgen1037 that is actually the very question they do not want to answer. I think 40 long years is more than enough to fix taht, right?
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@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
29 May 18
@rakski I wonder why they didnt fix that ahead of time. My parents, particularly my dad would not sleep well until those minor errors are fixed. He foresees these things.
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@allen0187 (59645)
• Philippines
29 May 18
So sorry to hear about this.
Hope this gets sorted out.
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
28 May 18
Ohh I am so sorry to hear that.. I have never experienced this thing but I am hoping that everything will be fine. I hope you will solve this problem very soon..
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
29 May 18
@rakski you're always welcome.
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
29 May 18
First of all, why was the discrepancy of your husband's name discovered? Was he applying for a passport.
I am sorry that it was like that with your in-laws. Do you live with them?
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
28 May 18
There are times I am envy for those who have mother-in-law because I don't have she passed away when my husband was still young. It really hard to be a shock absorber been there.
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@id_peace (17036)
• Singapore
29 May 18
As far as possible, I will try to do my best to be the shock absorber.
@Starmaiden (9308)
• Canada
28 May 18
That was very irresponsible of them. Surely they should have known it would cause problems for him later in life. I empathize with you. 
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