July 7, 2018 12:14pm CST
There can be more motherly figures than the mother herself. Sometimes, these people are even closer than mothers. She could be your aunt, your grandma or even someone who is not blood-related. As my mother had health issues, some due to birth complications, the lady I had the closest during my very early months and years was my maternal grandmother. Being the daughter's daughter and the first granddaughter altogether, we had a special bond. We still do, perhaps. She's still alive, but her health condition is very poor. She's relatively young, 76, but she can't walk, see and hear well. That also has a huge impact on her mental health. You can imagine how lonely and isolated she feels. She'd love to interact with others, but it's really hard for her to do so. She sleeps most of the day. She lives with her husband, my grandpa, whose health isn't good either, yet he manages to look after her and himself. Sure, they aren't alone, my mother still takes care of them by visiting a few times a month. I lost most of the bond I had with grandma, because of this. Time gets in the way and causes changes and troubles. However, I can't forget what my grandma has always been for me. She can't, either. Her eyes become full of joy whenever she sees me. Well, once she recognizes me. I can't blame her, I really look like my mother. But I feel so sorry when I look at her. I wish we could be closer and able to talk. Thankfully, she didn't lose her sense of humor. She often comes up with good jokes and repartees. Grandma: I like Sabrina's t-shirt. Grandpa: But look, it has skulls and bones all around. Grandma: I like it. Grandpa: But it has skulls and bones, like those of death. Grandma: Who cares, we're all going to die someday. I like it. No picture, as there's plenty of text already.
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• United States
7 Jul 18
I'm glad you were able to have that bond with your Grandmother. and that you can still light up her life when you go around. My closest women in my life were my Mother and then my Grandmother. And I am a non-blood related aunt to many kids, who feel like I am a mother figure to them. its so good for kids to have that love, care and support.
• Calgary, Alberta
12 Jul 18
If my grandma saw me wearing a shirt with skulls, she will hit me with a frying pan and accuse me of being a satanist. Then she will pray to jesus for having a disappointing devil worshipping grandson.
13 Jul 18
@CaptAlbertWhisker When I listen to Pantera's Cowboys From Hell and hear "they say the bad guys wear black, we're tagged and can't turn back" I think of Catholic priests. Well, yes, the goth style is full of crosses, more than what you can find in a church.
• United States
8 Jul 18
I'm glad you had such a close bond with your grandmother, but I am sorry she is in ill health. I was never super close to either of my grandmothers...although my maternal grandmother was my pen-pal up until the last years of her life. We lived too far away to visit often, but we always wrote each other, and she always encouraged me with my writing. I still have all of her letters. All of my grandparents are gone now. It is a strange feeling once you no longer have any living grandparents.
8 Jul 18
@Srbageldog So your grandma has been more of a close friend than a mother, but it's still good, she's been important somehow. Omnia fert aetas, which means time takes away everything. I don't know how it feels, but I guess it might make you feel old among other things. Children become parents, and parents become grandparents; family renovations.
7 Jul 18
I am very happy bto know your are so closed to your granny! In our country parents they stay with son so my grand mother used to stay in our family and she was adorable lady. When we grew up she used to feel proud of us, as she has got a lot of contribution for our upbringing! Once she wanted some money for some ceremonial function on a day of festival, she was very self esteemed person, she wouldn't ask for money any one except me...not her son also! So when she said she wanted some money I asked how much she was in need of, for which she that would I be giving her the money she demands from me? I simply got my wallet from my pocket and handed it her and said all is yours! She was so proud with this gesture..that she was telling my other relatives present there - 'See that is my Grand son!' , I had tears in my eyes listening to that. Such simple are the souls of our Grannys! I miss my granny a lot!
8 Jul 18
@AKRao24 I wonder why the relationships among the very young and the very old tend to be very special and unique, it might have to do with reincarnation, the two souls are closer than one can imagine. The love of a grandmother is indeed pure and genuine, they're more of givers than takers towards their grandchildren, no doubt your gesture made her very proud.
7 Jul 18
@Kandae11 My paternal grandma went missing when I was 3, I would have vague memories about her instead. Especially when she told me to go grab the chocolates she hid in the closet. It sounds like your mother and grandmother weren't in good terms.