I Miss Asia
By Tee
@Deajae72 (723)
United States
July 10, 2018 7:58pm CST
This was my very first cat. I adopted her in 2009. My ex-husband did not want to give her to me when I moved out. He said that his house was Asia's home since we got her, which was true, but she was mine. I did not take her for Asia's benefits.
She passed away last year and I wanted her ashes. He did not give it to me. I was so heartbroken that every time I look at all her pictures, I couldn't help it but sob and cry.
How can someone who promised you happiness be so heartless? I was a good wife. He was the one who talk ill to his friend towards me. I don't want to hate but that is what I feel towards my ex. He is a sham.
Edit:
Asia passed away this year not last year. Pardon me for the typo.
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@rakski (156249)
• Philippines
11 Jul 18
I can sense that your ex is not a good person. If he is, why not share custody of Asia or even give you half of the ashes of Asia.
Anyway, for sure, Asia knew what happened and she knew how you felt. She is happy now. Live live also and make your self happier and stay away from that ex of yours.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Jul 18
Some people think it's necessary to be vindictive and evil hearted towards those they were once in a relationship with but are no longer. There's no good reason for him to keep her ashes, and if there was he would have said so.
I'm sorry he is being that way towards you, and I know it sucks, but I think the best thing is to move forward and let him be your past. Even keeping the resentment and hatred toward what he has done is poisonous.
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@Deajae72 (723)
• United States
11 Jul 18
I know. Hating is not healthy, I just could not believe that I was treated unfairly. I am trying to move forward, though it is hard at times. I am praying that I will forget everything and I will just live a normal life.
Thank you for a piece of advice.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
11 Jul 18
@Deajae72 You are quite welcome. I've been through divorce before and was with a emotionally draining, control freak of a man. It was hard to detach myself from the situation but when I did.. It was like a weight being lifted off me.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
11 Jul 18
Wow, sounds like my Dad and my brother you're describing. Good on other people but heartless towards partner and kids. Yeah, it's not healthy and I tend to avoid topics about them because it's just gonna give me a headache.
I've lost two puppies this week and the depression of sadness is hitting me today. I felt I didn't do much for them.
At least you are now free from him, that's what matters.
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@LeaPea2417 (40020)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Jul 18
I am sorry to read this. Some people are just mean.
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@RasmaSandra (97912)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Jul 18
I am so sorry to hear this. That is heartless. I still miss my very first cat who passed away in 2009/ Then my husband and I adopted a male cat named Sid. He lived with us all this time in Riga, Latvia. Last year my husband suddenly passed away and I moved back to the US since it is my homeland. I love my cat Sid so much that I took him with me and carried him through three airports. He is now happy to be with me in Daytona Beach Florida. Virtual hugs to you and sorry about your lovely cat.
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
11 Jul 18
He never deserved you. The loss is all his. Just move on and try to make the best of your life
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
11 Jul 18
asia is so pretty. how old was she? (seeing that peanut butter made me smile.)
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@Deajae72 (723)
• United States
11 Jul 18
I had my own Filipino cup board I paid for all my food and supplies. My ex never buy anything for me, if he does, I have to pay for it.
Oh, God. I should stop talking about the jerk.. I am getting upset and it makes me hate him more and more.1 person likes this
@josie_ (10033)
• Philippines
11 Jul 18
I take it you did not separate with your ex-husband on good terms. I find his action of denying Asia's ashes petty and him childish. He probably also is a person who hold grudges and did this to inflict more pain on you. You made the right choice of separating from him.
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@Deajae72 (723)
• United States
11 Jul 18
He portrays a good image in front of other people, but he was so selfish and greedy. He did not treat me as a wife. He was all about himself and his needs, then taken my cat away from me, totally taken away from me. I cannot respect that person ever again.
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
11 Jul 18
@Deajae72
I hate to tell you when you live with them 24 hours you really find out what they are like. I am glad when i got divorced that my ex moved out and the animals he did not care about. They were mine anyways. It is very hard and so sorry. He is being a real jerk.
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@Deajae72 (723)
• United States
11 Jul 18
That's what I was talking about. The people who've known him since childhood? They only know the other side of him. They did not live with the person. They weren't treated unfairly, I was. They were not the one who was miserable, I was. I was very lonely while married. Not healthy.
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@Deajae72 (723)
• United States
11 Jul 18
@Hannihar He don't want to give me any. I used to go to his house to get some of my stuff that's left. I made friends with the guy because I don't want to hold grudges. One day, I found out that he was using our joint account which according to my knowledge was already closed. I thought we closed the account, but he was still using it. I was livid. I said to close it right away and don't mess my life once again. He made me miserable then, I will not let it happen again. I ended the friendship. I don't need a snake on my list.
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@sw8sincere (6032)
• Philippines
11 Jul 18
I understand you. We all have this ex who talk ill to their friends once we got separated. There is nothing much for me to do but just to ignore them and bless them than to retaliate.
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@Peach10 (1920)
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11 Jul 18
Sorry to hear that. I know how you feel but then again move on coz you'll get another Asia pretty soon
@Deajae72 (723)
• United States
11 Jul 18
I have two cats now but I will never forget Asia. She was my companion since the day I got her. I never forget those ones that has been a part of my life and did good to me.
I can move on but not my grieving heart. There will be no "another" Asia. I can have all the cats in the world, but the time we have spent together cannot be replaced by another cat.
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