And they think I´m lazy.
By marguicha
@marguicha (230334)
Chile
July 19, 2018 9:04am CST
Dear friends, this is a rant!
All my life I have been called "lazy" by some members of my family. Part of the reason was that my husband was the main provider as money went. We always thought that it was a fair division of the job, according to our talents. When I could, I had my job at home. I did the house work, I sewed and knitted, I did the garden I crocheted beautiful patchwork covers for each bed. I can write down a long list that included teaching my children and helping them with their homework.
When my husband was ill, I became his partner in his job while learning at the same time how to take care of him. I gave a long battle with death and he lived over 10 years more than what the doctors had said.
Today I have been waiting my nephew for over an hour. I cannot shower, I cannot do anything as I just have to wait for him and I´m alone. Finally I asked my brother for his phone and called me. He told me that he was doing other things so he would not "bother" me in the morning. He "knew" that I got up very late. I told him to come immediately. Even if I wanted (which I don´t) Luna would want her breakfast.
Dear friends: this is a rant. I´m sorry. But I DO NOT like to wait.
All my life I have been called "lazy" by some members of my family. Part of the reason was that my husband was the main provider as money went. We always thought that it was a fair division of the job, according to our talents. When I could, I had my job at home. I did the house work, I sewed and knitted, I did the garden I crocheted beautiful patchwork covers for each bed. I can write down a long list that included teaching my children and helping them with their homework.
When my husband was ill, I became his partner in his job while learning at the same time how to take care of him. I gave a long battle with death and he lived over 10 years more than what the doctors had said.
Today I have been waiting my nephew for over an hour. I cannot shower, I cannot do anything as I just have to wait for him and I´m alone. Finally I asked my brother for his phone and called me. He told me that he was doing other things so he would not "bother" me in the morning. He "knew" that I got up very late. I told him to come immediately. Even if I wanted (which I don´t) Luna would want her breakfast.
Dear friends: this is a rant. I´m sorry. But I DO NOT like to wait.9 people like this
13 responses
@Marilynda1225 (91013)
• United States
19 Jul 18
How in the world could anyone call you lazy???? seems to me that you've been anything but lazy. I don't blame you for ranting as I hate to wait too
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
19 Jul 18
Alvaro and I blamed it on his father when he arrived. But young people don´t use the phone for the right reasons.
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@DesirousDreamer (34776)
• Peoria, Arizona
19 Jul 18
OH my goodness. If anything he should have checked in with you to see when he should come over. That has to be annoying. You are not lazy at all! I get the same problem with my family and friends. Like housework and working online and all of this stuff is still work. Yes it is not physical labor, I don't need to be bagging groceries or hauling lumber. But you are still contributing to society. You are a functional human being. It isn't like you are sitting and watching soap operas all day complaining about your life. Absolutely not! You are amazing!
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
19 Jul 18
Until I was diagnosed with a lymphoma and had chemotherapy, I did everything at home, including the garden. And for a long time, I even painted the house and put on wallpaper. My husband knew it was work. Then, when he was ill, I did every administrative work he needed done and many times I stayed up until 3 am. I was not "paid" though.
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
20 Jul 18
@DesirousDreamer It is easier to look at what other people might do wrong than to look at your own faults.
@DesirousDreamer (34776)
• Peoria, Arizona
19 Jul 18
@marguicha No one has a right to call you lazy. You have done enough, more than most people will ever have to deal with.
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@thislittlepennyearns (68211)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
19 Jul 18
There has to be someone else who could of fixed it who was more dependable.
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
19 Jul 18
It was his father´s fault. He told him nor to wake me up too early
@thislittlepennyearns (68211)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
19 Jul 18
@marguicha That still doesn't answer my question..Im sure you could have had somebody else come do it.
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
19 Jul 18
Some people in my family thought that I should work for money. I stopped doing what I most liked as a job to help my husband in the last years of his life.
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
19 Jul 18
I have done my share of working in my life. I am retired now because I am old and don´t have a good health.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
19 Jul 18
Just because you asked for help they dared to say things. Best is to depend on friends.
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
19 Jul 18
No. My nephew did not say that. But my mother did, because I did not work as her other children.
@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
19 Jul 18
I hate waiting too, it is so annoying. Better to deal directly with your nephew and skip his father.
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@JohnRoberts (109841)
• Los Angeles, California
19 Jul 18
No one like to wait but life makes us wait plenty.
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
19 Jul 18
It is part of what should be changed. My husband knew that I was not lazy. But my own mother didn´t, although she never worked out of her house.
@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
19 Jul 18
Now it is time to prepare lunch for my aunt.
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
20 Jul 18
@marguicha hope you enjoyed your time with your aunt
