Is it bad rejecting to be a God-Parent?
By LK2018
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
Philippines
March 12, 2019 9:25pm CST
In my language they are called "Ninong" (male god father) and base on description they supposed to be witness to child's baptism or wedding. But also be sure that they help child raise in Christian Family and values.
But here they are only remember during Christmas here asking for "alms" (money or any gifts in kind). Something that I stopped doing a long ago. In fact I was God father to other kids but never even knew them.
Recently, one of the trike drivers we serviced asked me to be Godfather of their child for the baptism this coming 17th. But I was hesitant and told mom I wasn't comfortable with it. I mean, why didn't he just tell me and told her instead?
Grandma thinks it's a blessing, but what's the point of being a Godparent if you're not gonna do your job anyways? plus, don't like the idea of hiding this Xmas just because they think they can asked me for alms..
What do you think? I hope i get a good response on this.
Have a nice day.
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6 responses
@cherigucchi (15934)
• Philippines
13 Mar 19
Some people still believe in that but for me its quite embarrassing when you reject it
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@cherigucchi (15934)
• Philippines
15 Mar 19
@Letranknight2015 What do you decide now?
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
15 Mar 19
@cherigucchi I even got the invitation. I guess it's just a one day event.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
13 Mar 19
Hello @cherigucchi I didn't tell him directly, it was mom who approach and told him.
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@rsa101 (40952)
• Philippines
13 Mar 19
I guess this is an age old tradition we have that it is bad/rude to refuse when you are asked to be a god parent. I really do not know where this idea came from. That is why when they would come and invite me to become one I always jokingly say that I am a good guest than a godfather. But if they insist on then I cannot refuse anymore since they are the ones who insist on it. I really do not know but I think that it is ingrained in our culture that when invited to be one you just have to accept.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
13 Mar 19
Hello @rsa101 I have been listed as God Father before but I don't know some of them.
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@rsa101 (40952)
• Philippines
14 Mar 19
@Letranknight2015 Its hard to refuse that. Although I think that it’s kund of rude for them not to ask you directly and ask someone else to put you in the list.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
14 Mar 19
@rsa101 Well, I hope he has other god parents to attend the baptism.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
13 Mar 19
Hello @lady1993 I think I'm a God parent to one of my niece. Yeah, it should be guiding them to their upbringing.This is why I was hesitant to be that trike driver's kids god parent.
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@lady1993 (27221)
• Philippines
14 Mar 19
@Letranknight2015 I think it is better to just refuse but i do not really know how to go about it. 
I hope everything goes well in the end.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
14 Mar 19
@lady1993 What was he thinking anyway.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
• Calgary, Alberta
13 Mar 19
Being from a non Catholic Christian sect, I was able to refuse being a godfather. I told them straight up its against my religion
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
• Calgary, Alberta
13 Mar 19
@Letranknight2015 Its not against my religion by the way 
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
13 Mar 19
Hello @CaptAlbertWhisker Wow that was easy for you to shove them off hehe.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
14 Mar 19
@CaptAlbertWhisker Wish I could give that excuse lol. I wonder how many times you have made that excuse.
@yugocean (9963)
• India
13 Mar 19
@Letranknight2015 Such type of baptism is happening in India, Missionaries are doing forced conversion of naive people by threatening them of 'God's warth' or luring with fake miracles and even copy paste of other people's faith.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
14 Mar 19
@yugocean That look likes scam to me, kinda like history or was this happening recently?
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
13 Mar 19
Hello @yugocean Unfortunately, they put me in the list anyway. I mean why he approach Mom and not me.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
13 Mar 19
Hello @jstory07 That's exactly what I was thinking. I don't know why he bother putting me in his god father list. Maybe he thought I was rich or something. Because were not really that close.
