Sometimes no is the best answer.

@sharon6345 (174305)
United States
May 2, 2019 7:03pm CST
My ex and his daughter are both going in to have operations the same day. The mom needs a baby sitter for my godson. Would you believe all year no one called to ask anything of me. last week she said If I wanted him I could get him. I knew something was up. Well, I said no because if I am not a though, or concern any other time find someone else to use. The sad part is I love him and he adores me. But I have to stand my ground or the walking mat will never leave my back. I feel better even though I would not mind him at all. But I have an aide and if something happened while her was here I would not like what would come of my agency staff. I was already warned I could not care for anyone. They both know that.
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15 responses
• Agra, India
3 May
I understand your feelings. Some people just remember you when they have some work. It is better not to oblige such people
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@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
I know and it's just not right.
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• Agra, India
3 May
@sharon6345 yes...even I face such people. But now I have learned to teach such people a lesson
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@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
@amitkokiladitya Sometimes that is all we can think of. I know for me I try to remove them from my life.
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@rebelann (48652)
• El Paso, Texas
3 May
Sadly that happens far too often. People can be so inconsiderate of family, it's a disgrace.
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@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
It has been uncomfortable for a while and now I am just fed up.
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@rebelann (48652)
• El Paso, Texas
3 May
I don't blame you @sharon6345 I remember mom going through stuff like that, both she and I were always asked if we wanted to sit for the kids but when they were off with friends we weren't good enough to bother with. I for one did what you did but poor ma just kept letting them use her.
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@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
@rebelann I am tired of it to be honest and enough is enough.
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@TheSojourner (21120)
• United States
3 May
I am glad that you are learning how to set boundaries for what you know is good for you. That's a tough lesson for us to learn sometimes, especially those who are very giving and have big hearts.
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@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
It was tough for me for that very reason. Now I am looking around me and I am basically alone. I have to say I asked B last night does he ever think about how alone I am at times. He will be coming more often.
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• United States
3 May
@sharon6345 it sounds like a very kind and loving man
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@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
@TheSojourner Oh yeah and thank you for saying that. I love that he is so kind.
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@Tina30219 (41295)
• Onaway, Michigan
3 May
I know you adore him but you just can’t do it anymore
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@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
No I am not able to and that is the plain truth.
@GardenGerty (110846)
• United States
3 May
They should bring him for visits, NOT expect you to baby sit. They need a regular babysitter.
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@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
That would have made things better. He is always in my town so that would be no problem.
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@whiteream (5216)
• United States
3 May
You have to do what you feel is right. I am sorry that you don't get to see much of your Godson. But, you have to come first.
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@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
I am making sure of that from now on. I am not going to put myself through it.
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@simone10 (27939)
• United States
3 May
I used to have people like that in my life also.
@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
It is kind of painful too be honest. How does a person think you feel being called only when they need you.
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@simone10 (27939)
• United States
3 May
@sharon6345 they don't think its true. I got tired of it and turned away, wasn't there for them anymore.
@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
@simone10 I think something along those lines with my brother. He asked me for money from B. I had to keep telling him no. How does anyone expect me to do that. B is not a walking bank.
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@hexeduser22 (6305)
• Philippines
3 May
Stay strong and do what you must.
@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
I plan to do just that. I just read your username. I must say it's one of a kind.
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• Philippines
3 May
@sharon6345 Yes, it is Cute, because at some point in my life I thought I was cute ; lil, because I'm not tall; bastart, from the word bast@rd and because I love art I changed the last letter to T.
@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
@hexeduser22 I like it very much. I would have put something in between each letter though.
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• Caracas, Venezuela
3 May
If she needs a baby sitter for your godson why doesn't she hire one? I think you are busy with your life and errands. Besides your daughter and ex will have operations, you will be busy enough, right?
@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
No she and her father are having them the same day. I would love to but I have health issues.
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• Caracas, Venezuela
3 May
@sharon6345 Oh I see Shay. First comes your health.
@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
@jvicentevalera There you go you do get it.
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• Austin, Texas
4 May
If they know you can't take care of anyone why are they even asking? Just sayin'.
@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
4 May
Because the mom is only thinking about themselves not me. It's ok though I know at times I am better.
@db20747 (17486)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
3 May
That is the best thing if u feel u can't tend to a small kid!!
@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
Not after I fainted three times last month.
@NJChicaa (55906)
• United States
3 May
You can't deal with a young one these days. That is okay.
@sharon6345 (174305)
• United States
3 May
They both know that as well.
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@BelleStarr (43330)
• United States
15 May
I think you did the right thing, it is not right to only try to use you and not call you any other times.
@jstory07 (78414)
• Roseburg, Oregon
3 May
They should bring him to visit you not expect you to watch him unless you want to.
@JohnRoberts (81145)
• Los Angeles, California
3 May
I am expert at saying no.