Are You a Fair Arbiter?
By @acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
Philippines
May 4, 2019 3:39pm CST
An arbiter or a "bridge" between two persons or persons who are fighting with each other should be fair to arrive at the right judgment.
It is hard if it involves people in a family and you saw the need to mend the broken relationship. So you took the role of being an arbiter. You hear one side of the story, then another, and so on with each one blaming each other and throwing cuss words.
The best thing to do is have them meet face to face, let them vent their woes, then you are there to listen and pacify each side. At such instance, if I am the arbiter, I tend to make sides. I go with the one who is more reasonable and have a lower pride; ready to humble herself just to make amends.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
4 May 19
A tough job, indeed, because if it involves relatives, one can not avoid to be emotionally affected.
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@ShifaLk (17811)
• India
4 May 19
@acelawrites yes and sometimes one party gets angry at you if you speak in other's favour
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
5 May 19
@ShifaLk It is true, sometimes you find yourself the one who got all the blame for trying to patch up the rift.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
6 May 19
It is the best thing to do; but I think it affects the whole family, so I saw the need to help the two conflicting parties bridge the gap.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
5 May 19
I agree, it happens to me, they always approach me to get some advice, then later I found myself the one who was caught in their trap.
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@Babino (5756)
• Morocco
5 May 19
one must look at the sitution from the outside, with no feelings no strings attached, look at the facts and see who's right nd who's wrong, hard to do but not impossible ! i've learned this from my sociology teacher, it had blown my mind at first !
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
5 May 19
I agree, I try to be "outside" the box, though it is so hard when the conflicting parties are relatives.
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