The right thing hurts worse than a paper cut.

@sharon6345 (174824)
United States
May 15, 2019 6:55pm CST
I did something that I felt good about on Mother's day. I text B to break up with him. He was here this morning and clearly, he has no idea. When I got out of the car I felt like shi. I wish I could have taken that text message back. I know he will read it even a month later. When I walked away from his car as he was asking to take me to buy myself something. I wanted to ask what on earth I could want. I just said I don't want to buy anything and turned away. His face was so sad. He is clueless and I feel horrible. I broke up with him because it's been two weeks and he has not been here. He works as long as he can keep his eye opens. I am just not going to get any further with him then I am now. He is everything good but he has no time for me.
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@Tina30219 (41318)
• Onaway, Michigan
16 May
Is there a reason why he works so much? I know you did what you feel is right and hopefully he will understand that with time.
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@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
He is a single dad and three of his kids rely on his money.
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@Tina30219 (41318)
• Onaway, Michigan
16 May
@sharon6345 Got ya that explains part of it but he also needs a life besides working all the time
@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
@Tina30219 He gets anxiety when he is not working. His nerves get bad too. I am not sure if he knows what he has. I am not sure if I should say anything.
@whiteream (5292)
• United States
16 May
We all have to do what we have to do. Clearly, if he wanted to be with you he would have made the time.
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@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
as hard as that was to read it has also been something I said to him. I just hope to keep my mind busy.
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@whiteream (5292)
• United States
16 May
@sharon6345 Best of luck. Keeping busy is the best thing to do.
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@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
@whiteream You know it and I am doing that tonight.
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@UncleJoe (13869)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
16 May
I don't blame you. I wouldn't keep on with a relationship where I didn't love someone enough to keep it going, no matter how little I got to see them. Fortunately, I love my Becky enough to put up with missing her because she is so busy that she has little time for me. We can't all be so Blessed.
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@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
He is at my building daily to pick up customers. he even takes a break and sits in his car across the street. Becky is your wife and your her husband. He has no ties to me. I think it's just the time.
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@UncleJoe (13869)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
16 May
@sharon6345 Our ties aren't on paper but in our hearts. Even if we weren't married, I would still wait for her. As a matter of fact, I waited 40 years for her before we finally got together.
@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
@UncleJoe I read that post and it was so sweet. He stayed away three months and not one call he is in front of my building every morning at 6 am. You would not see her come that close and not see you.
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• Rupert, Idaho
16 May
I am sorry to hear that, it would be difficult to be in a relationship with someone and not get to see them very often
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@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
I was tempted to call tonight.
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• Rupert, Idaho
16 May
@sharon6345 I can understand that
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@Lolaze (3976)
• St. Louis, Missouri
16 May
Can’t blame you either. If he’s too busy to spend time with you then it’s not worth the relationship
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@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
I held on long enough after telling him how I felt. I am sure it's his kids he is working for. I kept that in mind too. I am ok.
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@NJChicaa (56080)
• United States
16 May
He is always gone. I get that.
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@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
I am not sure I am for him. I have it made with everything else.
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@rakski (27634)
• Philippines
16 May
aw. I feel you. It is hard to have that kind of relationship.
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@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
I don't like how I feel I wish I never sent the text.
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• Sonora, California
16 May
I’m sorry!
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@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
I am sorry too.
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• Agra, India
16 May
Can't you delete the message
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@yoalldudes (8957)
• Philippines
16 May
Do you feel you made the right decision?
@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
I sure do because he has no time for me. I can't get him to understand what it does to me.
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• Philippines
16 May
@sharon6345 That is the great thing about being our age rather than in our teens or 20's. We are wiser and knows what's best for us.
@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
@yoalldudes Yes and since I can't get him to change I would also not want him to resent me. I would prefer to back off.
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@jstory07 (78516)
• Roseburg, Oregon
16 May
I am sure you really hurt him. But you have to think of what is best for you.
@sharon6345 (174824)
• United States
16 May
I am doing that but I still cried all day. I don't want to leave but I am too young to settle for that.
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