Thinking and THEN confronting things.
By AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
United States
May 30, 2019 9:44am CST
I have a few bad habits in relation to the way I handle things.
I will either react before I think
(let my emotions lead me before analyzing what was said and realizing I might have jumped to conclusions)
OR
I will let things fester and explode later.
I don't like confrontations and try to avoid them at all costs. However, here lately I have confronted things in a timely manner and gotten through whatever backlash (if any) came from it. Luckily, there hasn't been a lot of backlash but a lot more relief instead.
I am a very sensitive person. I mean, I can cry at the drop of a hat. This is one reason why I don't like to confront things because I don't like to show emotions, especially as I might react before I think. This can cause embarrassment for me.
Most of the people that know me know that if I get quiet, they need to let me analyze things and compartmentalize them so that I can react in a fair and healthy manner. Those who don't know me very well might antagonize me and that's when my claws come out.
How do you handle situations and are you trying to get better at the way you handle difficulties?
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
1 Jun 19
I have gotten better about standing up for myself, I would just rather avoid confrontation all together if I can help it. If that means walking away? Well, I might just do it.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
3 Jun 19
@simone10 The guy I am seeing now.. He has a way of saying things that I had to get used to. I still have to get used to it as well. My friend made me realize that I was overreacting. His humor is different. anyway I'm telling you this because being around him has taught me not to overreact, and we haven't really had but maybe one or two little squabbles.
As an as aside, I exited out of a comment to you on one of mine or your other discussions. I can't remember which one but we were talking about pisces. I said that you would need to do a birth chart / natal chart to find out where your moon / sun is in the chart. I can give you a link to the one I use that gives explanations. It's a free site.
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@simone10 (54180)
• Louisville, Kentucky
2 Jun 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum oh girl, me too! I hate confrontation.
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
30 May 19
For a long time, I was the fester/explode type . . . and it wasn't really until I had kids that I was comfortably able to speak up sooner. I don't like confrontation, but will face it if I can avoid that icky festering feeling. For me the balance took a lot of practicing, trial and error - these days I just want to take care of things asap. Still, at heart, I don't always speak out. My tendency is to be diplomatic on the outside . . . but inside I am sensitive and try not show it.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
31 May 19
I am extremely sensitive and sometimes I show it when I really don't want to. I can be sensitive to a fault which means that I will sometimes overreact and jump to conclusions, especially if it's over text. The guy I am seeing now? We almost didn't work out because we were texting and that wasnt' the best way to communicate for either of us. If I wasn't assuming, or taking things the wrong way, he was.
If anything, this relationship (new as it is) has helped me to step back and not get so fiesty / offensive.
@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
30 May 19
I usually spout off and regret it later, or just stuff them under the rug. It is something I should improve on.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
30 May 19
I tend to let my emotions get the better of me, or rather my insecurities. I've also been known to misinterpret something someone has said. The guy I am seeing now has really helped me (inadvertently) stop and take a breath before assuming. Last night he misinterpreted something I said (through text) and I had to call him and clarify what I meant. Normally I would have gone down a rabbit hole of emotions. Especially as what he said was "So, I guess this is it then?"
@thislittlepennyearns (68179)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
30 May 19
I've had to get a better check on my reaction to things especially when things go wrong. I stopped smoking so I don't have that outlet anymore. But I do tend to still go outside and scream when things get difficult.
@Aansh13 (11433)
• New Delhi, India
30 May 19
I am similar to you in many ways, the only thing I have developed in past few years is to adopt let go therapy... Things that need confrontation, I make sure to take them and talk about it, but at right time.... For the rest I just let them be....
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
30 May 19
Yes, I think it's smart to let things go when you can. I try to adopt this same way of thinking. I also try to make an argument go away as quickly as possible. What i mean is that if I realize it's a silly thing to argue about, I'll make a comment about how it was silly that I got upset and apologize. Or, if it's not something for me to apologize for, I simply say "This is such a silly thing to argue about. It's not going to matter in five minutes!
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