Do you think this is fair?

@Starkinds (32703)

• India

4 Jun 19

Are you both getting married in future?

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

I want to but we are not financailly stablr.

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@Starkinds (32703)

• India

4 Jun 19

@JustBhem is he wants get married to you ?

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@SIMPLYD (90722)

• Philippines

4 Jun 19

Maybe he wants to be financially stable now, so he can marry you and finance your treatments. Have you talked about it to her?

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

@Starkinds I think I need to talk to him regarding this.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

I don’t know. I told him, before he go abroad he needs to marry me so that I can have a future with him. He said that we still have a lot of debts and he wants to give me a memorable wedding someday, but I don’t want that. I want us to be marry in a judge and that’s it.

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@Starkinds (32703)

• India

4 Jun 19

@JustBhem memorable wedding it's just a exuse sorry you say that. If he really serious about you and he knows that you couldn't survive without him then he should stay with you

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rakski

@rakski (112925)

• Philippines

4 Jun 19

Maybe he is thinking of the finances but the two of you should discuss about it first

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Jun 19

Try to convince him you need his presence most so he will stay.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

I told him not to worry because ever since we already accomplish a lot, and when it comes to finances we can work it out together.

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rakski

@rakski (112925)

• Philippines

8 Jun 19

@cacay1 I agree

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Thelma

@thelme55 (76476)

• Germany

4 Jun 19

That is sad but I think he will do it for the good of your future.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

He said it’s for both of us.

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Jun 19

You are surely right my friend.

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Thelma

@thelme55 (76476)

• Germany

4 Jun 19

@JustBhem then that is okay.

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Merryjoy

@resukill22 (25052)

• Las Pinas City, Philippines

4 Jun 19

I think your boyfriend let you to be okay first. Before he decide what to do

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

I hope that’s what in his mind.

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Merryjoy

@resukill22 (25052)

• Las Pinas City, Philippines

4 Jun 19

@JustBhem did you talk to him personally

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

@resukill22 Yes, but I need to talk to him about this again.

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Aanshi Raghava

@Aansh13 (11251)

• New Delhi, India

4 Jun 19

Oh! I totally get what you are feeling... But that's okay... We all have a right to grow and choose. Wishing you more strength...

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@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Jun 19

@Aansh13, you are right my friend.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

Thanks.

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rsa101

@rsa101 (37952)

• Philippines

7 Jun 19

I think you should talk about it with him. I think I am not capable of saying if its fair or not because I am not in your situation. I think he is thinking of a better future with you that is why he is also thinking of working abroad. I think he also thinks of the better opportunities that is available for him at this point in time and his age. You know working aat this point in time & age has advantages than working later in years. Career wise he may thinking about that too. So you weigh it down and your future with him.

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rsa101

@rsa101 (37952)

• Philippines

7 Jun 19

@JustBhem Then you should tell him that. You know if your man cannot do this now what do you think his life would be in the future? I know he is of great help with you right now that you are sick and weak maybe you should consider telling him that you need his presence now more than ever.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

7 Jun 19

Yes, he mentioned that it is the best time for him to work abroad. And of course for our future. But I’m not ready for him to go, even thinking about it makes me sick more.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

7 Jun 19

@rsa101 I know I should consider him this but I also need him now. I know it will be a good help for both of us but I can’t just let him go.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (85484)

• United States

4 Jun 19

That is definitely scary. I wouldn't be happy either, and while my first instinct is to say to be supportive, that is way easier said than done.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (458051)

• Switzerland

4 Jun 19

I was going to say the same as @SIMPLYD. He surely wants to be financially stable, so he can help you better.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (458051)

• Switzerland

5 Jun 19

@JustBhem He is doing this because if not you have no future. He is doing this for both of you.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

5 Jun 19

@LadyDuck And I’m sure about that, but still I don’t want him to go, not in this case of mine

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

But I don’t want him to go. I need him the most now.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (306114)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

4 Jun 19

I know you'll miss him, but maybe the work he wants to do, going abroad is the only way to get it.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (306114)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

4 Jun 19

@JustBhem Have you talked to him about what he plans to do?

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

@just4him We did, and I need to talk to him about that again as I don’t want him to go.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

But I know he is happy here with his work.

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Arunima Singh

@arunima25 (85274)

• Bangalore, India

4 Jun 19

Have a good talk with him. It's natural for you to feel anxious and insecure especially when you are going through this sickness which is taking a lot of toll on you. It might be the case that he is doing so with best intentions in his mind for both of you and your future.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

I know that his intention is for both of us so that he can finance my sickness but thinking about it makes me so sick. He will be miles and miles away from me. I need him the most. And this is the reason even if sometimes I gets tired of working because I want to help him too.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

5 Jun 19

@arunima25 Of course, we have all the means of communication. But it’s much better if he will stay here.

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Arunima Singh

@arunima25 (85274)

• Bangalore, India

5 Jun 19

@JustBhem Few phases and decision in life can be really tough. He will be miles away. But in today's world technology can be blessing to stay in touch.

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Christina Ladanger

@Ladanger (14582)

• United States

4 Jun 19

The only way i will stick around is my man and i have future plans but i wouldn't wait around for something temporary. Like a man who doesn't see a future with me. This is how i view it. Hopefully he is doing it for the both you and provide for you like a real man.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

He’s with me eversince I got sick, until now he provide me with almost everything, care, support and love. What I’m trying tl say is, I still need him. I’m weak and I know I live with numbers now, who knows.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

@Ladanger I still don’t know. I need to talk this out to him.

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Christina Ladanger

@Ladanger (14582)

• United States

4 Jun 19

@JustBhem yeah in this case he should stay then. I don't think it's worth leaving someone you love alone. Especially in your case. He can't just leave.

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Simone

@Janet357 (75656)

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5 Jun 19

Oh this is sad. Why would he do that without comsulting you ?

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

5 Jun 19

He did ask me about that but I think he is very determine about it.

@Starkinds (32703)

• India

4 Jun 19

You can read my discussion, I post similar like you.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

4 Jun 19

Oh, let me see it.

@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Jun 19

That sounds heartbreaking, fearsome for it is not easy to feel the love of your life you depended most out of reach.All you have to is trust yourself that you ca make it during his absence.What he is planning is for your two's future. That is also an opportunity. Just see each other cam to cam to pacify your feelings of longings.

@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Jun 19

@JustBhem I'm sure you can because of love

@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

8 Jun 19

I still don’t know if I can do this.

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