Being an over thinker...

@Aansh13 (11251)
New Delhi, India
June 12, 2019 5:18am CST
Well, I have a dear friend of mine who is an over thinker, at times it has actually been tough for me to comfort her. But actually speaking, overthinking is not wrong. There is always a war going in their head about the uncertainties... What I have understood over the passage of time, she needs to comfort her head, first thing is to seek calmness and attain peace of mind. Since I am not someone who is equipped with the knowledge of mindfulness, I just suggested her to meditate..... Any other suggestions...???
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Sreekala
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
12 Jun 19
That is the best suggestion dear. We can't change any one by showering advises, they must think and should change by themselves. So meditation is the best method for that kind of change.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Jun 19
I agree , meditation helps, deep prayer talking to God Almighty helps .
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Sreekala
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
12 Jun 19
@cacay1 yes dear.
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 Jun 19
Exactly, you can't change people.... it's better to find ways to deal with it...
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brendamarie
@whiteream (8567)
• United States
12 Jun 19
I do tend to over think things. When you tell someone meditate. They think of just sitting there and breathing deeply. That is not always true. I have learned over my lifetime that many people can't just do that. Some people meditate and calm themselves with activities. Like my dances, my brother-in-law runs, and my husband plays the guitar. She need to do some self-awareness work and figure out what works for her. I write that is what calms me the most. I do Reiki and mediations, as well.
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brendamarie
@whiteream (8567)
• United States
12 Jun 19
@Aansh13 She would have to find it for herself. But, there are many things you could suggest she try.
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 Jun 19
Oh yes, meditation is not just to sit in a posture with eyes closed, it's actually an art of mindfulness... People find different ways, I don't know what will work for her but could suggest her few things...
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 Jun 19
@whiteream Yeah! I am thinking the same...
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Jandie
@tech40 (23128)
• Philippines
12 Jun 19
It's so hard to have an overthinker friend because they're not going to stop unless they found an answer from their problem. What made her overthink?
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Jandie
@tech40 (23128)
• Philippines
13 Jun 19
@Aansh13 Haha! A list! It should be a long list!
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
13 Jun 19
Well... There is not just one thing... She has a list of thing
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Jun 19
Your dear friend needs to listen to mellow music to have one focus at a time. I been that way before having numerous thinking at one setting. My brain just diverted me to listen to s mellow music, oh, well very effective.
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Sreekala
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
12 Jun 19
Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 Jun 19
Well! Will surely suggest her this, hope this will help... Thanks a ton
Kokil agarwal
@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
12 Jun 19
I also overthink and trust me it is never easy yo control the thoughts
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Kokil agarwal
@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
12 Jun 19
@Aansh13 yes...I face this almost every day. Despite all the efforts to calm my body and mind I keep failing every now and then
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
13 Jun 19
@amitkokiladitya This happens... Just try to find a way to practice mindfulness...
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 Jun 19
I know that very well... I have learned alot about this... My friend has been with me for over 13 years... I know how difficult it is to stop your brain functioning...
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Shifa
@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
12 Jun 19
Oh yes I've seen people like this. Worrying is ok but overthinking can be a problem.. Tell her that she can't change anything by thinking much. Don't worry. God will handle all
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 Jun 19
Telling her that is of no help, dear.... have told her this so many times, Now she needs a solution to her overthinking problem
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Shifa
@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
12 Jun 19
@Aansh13 ohhho...
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rsa101
@rsa101 (37932)
• Philippines
13 Jun 19
Yeah I think you are right. I have learned from someone that thinking of the past and the future can affect your present time. So the best way is to think on the present not in the future or the past and you will feel calmer. If you have a problem in the present solved with what you have right now and do not fret about the past and worry about the future. Think of ways you can solve what you have right now and that is important even if what you have right now is not enough to solve your present situation.
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
13 Jun 19
Very true... Thanks for sharing
M.-L.
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
12 Jun 19
If somebody constantly worries about things which can go wrong, one could advise them to make a list with the possible positive and negative results of an action. This may put the situation in perspective and help the person to overcome their fears.
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 Jun 19
Thank You! Will share this definitely, I think this will help.
Danna B.
@db20747 (43426)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
12 Jun 19
Sometimes things are so complicated we cannot rest from planning our every moment and next move!! Tell her to write down all her goals and options and decide what's best for her!!
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 Jun 19
This sounds absolutely amazing... will share this with her... Thank you so much
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Simone
@Janet357 (75656)
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13 Jun 19
well i know someone who thinks a lot. some.of them think they are smart of.clever but their.cleverness are rarely put.into action
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
13 Jun 19
Hahaha... Very well said
dhia eddine
@didinedhia (8475)
• Algeria
12 Jun 19
I dont usualy overthink
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Nocturnal Writer
@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
12 Jun 19
A person overthinks because of fear. He should define that kind of fear. If he couldn't make it, he should ask guidance or seek the spirit of the Lord through prayer.
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Aanshi Raghava
@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
12 Jun 19
Anyone who is an Atheist, It's difficult to convince them about prayers.... But will try out something for sure
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Nocturnal Writer
@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
12 Jun 19
@Aansh13 or as what has been mentioned here, meditation.
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