Diff'rences 'f opinions

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What 'bout? Funerals. Ms. Gill, Ms. CarolDM 'n Ms. Vicki 've all written 'f such today. I've added my 2 cents (perhaps a 1/4 'f a cent?) to each 'f their discussions. We've all the choice ('t least our wishes ought be respected) 'f a big sha-bang, full out horse-drawn carriage ride to our restin' place; a smaller private gatherin', a lil Memorial/Celebration 'f Life, 'r whate'er suits our fancy'n pocketbook. Fer myself, I dislike funerals 'n here'd be why: I don't do body viewin'. 've seen more'n 'nough dead bodies'n my lifetime. I dislike hearin' folks sayin' "They look so good", 'r "They really should've buried them in something other than outfit", etc. My sweet Mamaw, rest 'er soul, prolly put me off such when my brother passed many years 'go. She actually climbed 'nto the casket! Took 6 'f 's to pull her off 'n make 'er let go 'f the body. Not a pleasant thingy to do to a woman so broken. I'll ne'er ferget 'er desperate screams 'n hysterical sobbin'.... E'eryone's their own sense 'f closure. 't the time 'f death 'n funerals, folks're not'n their correct mind. Most've no recollection 'f whom e'en 'ttended. When that comfort 'tis needed 'tis once the shocks worn 'n emptiness follows. This'd be when folks need others 'round 'em to talk 'bout ol' times 'n share precious memories. This'd be when they truly need folks, but more oft'n not, those folks're prone to shyin' 'way. Folk'll say they do funerals fer the family, such's not been my 'xperience. The family rarely recalls who came, outside'f names scribbled 'n "The Book". They'll say, "Call me if ya need anythin', I'll be there fer ya." Such's not what I've witnessed. The time folks need the support 'f friends 'n family'd be once the shock 's worn off (e'en those that've suffered so such'n end a blessin', 's well 's 'xpected - one's ne'er prepared...). From my 'xperience 'n those 'f my family 'n friends, such's not true. 'bout 3 months out'n yer startin' to dust yerself off, all those folks're not 'vailable. Or, they're most awkward 'n fearful 'f e'en speakin' the dearly departed's name. They'll not 'nvite the widow/widower out fer e'en a cup 'f coffee fer fear 'f 'em feelin' a 3rd wheel. So, if'n ya wish a funeral with all the fancy trimmin's, by all means, please do such. Jest don't get 'xcited 'n feel a need to "fix" those 'f 's who've no desire. ** This's by no means bashin' these lovely ladies. I respect their thoughts'n the matter. I've jest a diff'rence 'f opinion.