It's All About ME
@just4him (323168)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
July 30, 2019 3:44pm CST
This generation doesn't know what it means to think about anyone but themselves. I know there are exceptions to that. Consider the people you see daily. How often do they help when you need help?
Do you remember a few years back when the slogans were 'Have it your way?' or 'You deserve a break today?' And what about 'Just do it'? All geared at making you think you are what makes the world go round. Everything revolves around you.
Thus, we have a generation who doesn't care about anyone other than what they want and if they don't get it, they throw a giant-sized temper tantrum by way of social media complaining about the way they've been treated.
It's no wonder when people do something nice for others it makes headlines and is called Random Acts of Kindness. It's random all right.
Now, I'm not part of this generation. Though I helped raise this generation. I tried to make this generation see it wasn't all about them. They needed to consider others before self. All the while wearing shirts that say 'Just do it'.
When I was growing up manners were the norm, not the exception. People said please and thank you. And if you didn't, you didn't get the treat until you did. You couldn't go where you wanted. You stayed put while your parents gave you the evil eye until you said please or thank you. And, remember asking to be excused from the table? When was the last time some asked if they could be excused?
We live in the ME generation. They don't care about anyone. They don't want to be involved in anything unless it suits them. They don't even care if they're late for work. They expect to be handed everything they want without working for it or earning it. They want the keys to the car, but you put in the gas.
What happened? Why can't we think about others before ourselves? What is so hard about holding the door for someone else and letting them go in ahead of you? Random Acts of Kindness shouldn't be an exception. It should be the norm.
Thanks for reading. Something to think about.
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@wolfgirl569 (135583)
• Marion, Ohio
30 Jul 19
Very well put. I came out 50 50 with my kids. A couple are very helpful and a couple want everyone else to take the blame for everything that goes wrong. But they are the first to yell look what I did if it succeeds. I raised them all the same. So it has to be outside influence also.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
31 Jul 19
sadly most families don't eat 't their tables, 'nstead balancin' food 'pon their lap whilst they watch t.v., 't the same time messin' with those blasted cell phones.
i don't reckon 't matters how young'uns were raised. sadly some'll take the 'nfluence 'f others. all my young'uns'll hold the door fer ya, help ya with yer groceries, stop to fix a flat, etc. the eldest son though's the mindset that he ought'a be handed a job he loves 100% the time, college education should be free 'n minimum wage should be $15./hr. i swear, i didn't drop that fella'n his head not once!
my 'xperience with those folks usin' their manners 'n doin' fer others wishin' nothin''n return 'd be much higher than perceived. most oft they prefer to stay'n the background, which's how 't should be.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
31 Jul 19
@just4him we did the same. when they come home, we eat't the table 'xcept fer the hubs. but we shan't go there....i eat 't the bar'n the kitchen most oft.
i dunno if'n i put that correctly?? there'd be more 'ttention given to those who 're foul, than those who do good. not many folks see somebody openin' the door 'r helpin' someone 's pic/video takin' worthy. which's a horrible shame. those simplest acts 'f kindness most oft 'gnored.
do ya recall when there 'twas t.v. programs'n that'cha didn't worry 'bout yer young'uns watchin'? not all the killin' 'n violence there'd be today. 'n those 'reality t.v.' shows?? pure garbage.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Jul 19
That's great your kids do that for others. When my kids were growing up, we ate together at the table. It was only as they left the nest that the table became a catch-all. When they moved back in with me, eating was whenever and wherever.
Yes, they do stay in the background. However, if more people displayed good manners, the background wouldn't be there except to hide those who didn't display good manners.
Even Eddie Haskel had good manners. So, did the Fonz. Too bad there aren't more good role models around.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Jul 19
@crazyhorseladycx I remember watching Leave it to Beaver all the time and Eddie Haskel was supposed to be a bad influence on Wally. Yet he had good manners and wore a suit and tie. I didn't watch a lot of Happy Days, but even the Fonz had manners.
In fact, I don't recall any 'bad' shows while I was growing up. Not like today when you can't find anything decent on and all of it as you said pure garbage. No manners, foul language, and every immoral act all in the space of an hour.
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@kobesbuddy (78833)
• East Tawas, Michigan
30 Jul 19
Yes, I've noticed this change in attitudes, progressively getting more pronounced. With each passing year, these things seem to be more obvious and a lot harder to overlook. I realized this even more, when I slipped on wet grass and laid on a ditchbank, injured. Two cars passed by and never even stopped, to see if I need any help getting up! They really didn't care, in the least bit
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@kobesbuddy (78833)
• East Tawas, Michigan
31 Jul 19
@just4him If I had a broken leg or hip, neither one of them would have stopped to help!
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
31 Jul 19
@just4him
A post that is needed. I often think when i let someone go past me and they do not say thank you and wonder why don't people have manners here. Once in awhile someone will thank me and I am shocked because it is not very often or sometimes if I let some one go first I will say you are welcome and they still will not respond. I needed to get my scooter on where I put it one day and someone put these boards so I could not get out and someone did not bother to help but told someone else that would help me. Why couldn't he help instead of telling the other person? Maybe he was afraid to get his hands dirty. It was not nice what someone did. I got stuck and finally got apart but that is just rude not thinking of others.,
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@yanzalong (19091)
• Indonesia
31 Jul 19
What you have written here is really worth reading.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Jul 19
Thank you. It's sad that this is all over, at least in the US. I don't know if it's a growing concern in other countries.
@lovebuglena (52143)
• Staten Island, New York
1 Aug 19
There are people who think of others before they think of themselves. But then there are those who only thing about themselves and think the world should revolve around them.
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@ilocosboy (45155)
• Philippines
31 Jul 19
Yes I'm with you. I was thinking is it because of the modern technologies making people lazy and the young generation are so independent they think they don't need someone's help.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Jul 19
I see you face the same situation as we do here. Thank you.
@MommyOfEli2013 (89450)
• Rupert, Idaho
31 Jul 19
I always am thinking of others, it's not hard to do....so I don't get why a lot of people these days have trouble with it! And we are teaching Eli to grow up with manners, and to be a kind and caring human being!
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@MommyOfEli2013 (89450)
• Rupert, Idaho
1 Aug 19
@just4him Thank you, I try my best....and I hope that he will!
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Jul 19
It's hard to do today with so much peer pressure. I wish you much success.
@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
30 Jul 19
I see this all the time and its getting worst. We will have to pray for the world, its gone to hell.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Jul 19
Yes, they are gone out of the window. Even if they are raised to show respect, peer pressure is such they don't pay attention to how they're raised but how their friends act.
Thank you.
