Regrets of Marrying To Young

Huh, what kind of lost opportunities? Do you mean they might feel they have lost their independence. They are no longer in charge of their life? Or were you thinking of something else?

@dgobucks226 The loss of opportunities to date other people, play the field, sow wild oats.

@DWDavis Oh I see. Yes, absolutely true. Good examples

@jstory07 That is questionable Judy in this case

But you do have a child. So that was a good thing from the marriage.

So sorry to hear that Oshy I am sure some feel the same way about marriage as divorce rates can attest to. Some didn’t anticipate the responsibility of being married. Some might feel they have lost their independence. Some couples age and they can grow apart and become incompatible. There are so many reasons for this happening isn't there.

@dgobucks226 I didn't have any issues but my wife now my ex felt different.

One I think about for couples who have married young, divorced, and had regrets about getting married too soon would be the loss of their single friends who have different priorities now. Marriage can make some feel like they have lost their independence and have lost control of their life.

@1hopefulman Oh, sorry to hear this Felix. A breakup of a marriage is such an unhappy event.

@dgobucks226 I do not regret missed experiences, but once you are married you have so many things to do, plenty of little problems and worries that you surely did not missed when your Mom did everything for you.

@LadyDuck I see your point... Very true. New issues definitely do come up.

I think that is a something many think of when marrying at a young age. I think it can become an issue when they feel they missed out on experiencing multiple relationships and regret marrying too early. They never find out what else is out there.

@dgobucks226 I look back and say, then I never would have been blessed with my two children! Now, I'm considered a young grandmother of 7, at 68 years old. That's more time to enjoy them, before I leave this world!

@kobesbuddy That's a wonderful way to look at it! A life experience missed in youth has been fulfilled in another way years later in life and many times over

Yes, good point! Setting aside ones dreams to marry could be a regret later on in life. Some might feel they have lost their independence. They are no longer in charge of their life. Maybe a loss of missing out on other life experiences (like the college experience you mentioned). Changing priorities like the loss of their single friends can make one look back and feel regret.

@dgobucks226 I feel if we have enough money family life becomes soothing

Absolutely. Many didn’t anticipate the responsibility of being married so young. Financial responsibilities can put a strain on marriage. And running a household as a couple and sharing in decision making.

@dgobucks226 ........Kids need to live a little and experience life before they marry.

Yes, that is very true! When couples age they can grow apart and become incompatible. And making the mistake of not disappointing your partner by saying no to a marriage proposal.

@celticeagle Yes, exactly... What's the big rush???

Yes, very good point Rasma.. Couples didn’t anticipate the responsibility of being married. Expenses, financial decisions, running a household all play into putting a strain on the marriage. The joy of dating is replaced by juggling a relationship with the realities of marriage responsibilities.

@dgobucks226 Yes, they do which is unfortunate.

Very good start for sure. Sharing your life with someone means just that. Many marriages fail due to self-centeredness and being selfish. This leads to couples growing apart and becoming incompatible.

Thanks I think that one is huge. Some didn’t anticipate the responsibility of being married. Also, ones who Didn't want to disappoint your partner by saying no to a marriage proposal. Not the best reason for getting married.

@dgobucks226 I understand that. It is very sad but some grow up in such a terrible home that there will do anything to get away from it. I would say people get married for their own reasons and if the marriage turns out good then great and if it ends in divorce then it is sad and not meant to be.

@Hannihar Yes, I agree with that perspective Hanni...

So very true Hanni. One example of a wrong reason is to marry to escape a bad home situation. Not a foundation for a strong marriage.

Any specific regrets being single?

@dgobucks226 No. I was engaged for 10 years. To the same person. And then I finally busted loose. That was enough for me.

Yes, many regrets fall into that category. Maybe they feel they missed out on experiencing multiple relationships and regret marrying too early. They never find out what else is out there. Maybe they find their partner does not share the same views and is not supportive. Some regret lost opportunities.

@dgobucks226 you are right

Very true. Perhaps the maturity of getting married later might provide those couples a better chance at facing their problems in some cases. But as you say, Some didn’t anticipate the responsibility of being married. Here is another one that might be a reason. Some Getting married to escape a bad home life or overbearing parents. Teenagers are particularly vulnerable to that.

I couldn't agree more with your comments. Some want to grow up way to fast without realizing marriage is a big commitment filled with many responsibilities.

That's great you have no regrets! In thinking of others who might have them I would say Marriage can make some feel like they have lost their independence and have lost control of their life. Others didn’t anticipate the responsibility of being married.

Well said Jim And diplomatic too

@dgobucks226 Diplomacy in marriage is a must.