Who are you when nobody’s watching?

@sol_cee (38223)

Philippines

August 13, 2019 10:39pm CST

While eating breakfast with my family in a mountain resort, another family came in. There were some adults, probably siblings with their spouses, along with their kids. What caught my attention was the lone grandparent (maybe) in the group. He was old, balancing himself on a cane, while the adults tended to their plates of bacon and scrambled eggs. Nobody assisted him and it was clear he had difficulty walking the distance to the table. The teenagers didn’t even bother to put their smartphones down for a while to help him. Then a lady went in with a foreigner guy in tow. The mood instantly changed as everyone hovered on the old guy. One guided him to the table, the other got him a plate. Someone fixed him coffee. The lady with the foreigner guy kissed the old man’s cheeks and sat beside him. Hence the question. Who are you when nobody’s watching? Photo was not our breakfast.

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@sunrisefan (28524)

• Philippines

14 Aug 19

Are you back home Madam?

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

23 Aug 19

Hi sir. Yes! I had a short vacation back home.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

@sunrisefan how are you my insect? :))

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@sunrisefan (28524)

• Philippines

24 Aug 19

@sol_cee That's great Madam!

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crazyhorseladycx

@crazyhorseladycx (39515)

• United States

14 Aug 19

i fear i couldn't 've jest sat there, but'd gotten'p 'n offered that poor fella some assistance. most disrespectful 'f that family to not tend to his needs first. most refreshin' to see the latter gentleman though. gettin' that tender care'n affection that's most needed. odd query since they'd done such'n a public place? i'd be the same, don't need'n audience to do what's right.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

23 Aug 19

Unfortunately, some people don’t really care about the old members of their family.

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crazyhorseladycx

@crazyhorseladycx (39515)

• United States

23 Aug 19

@sol_cee i know :( there's thousands'n nursin' homes here (prolly more) that the families ne'er visit, e'en if'n they live'n the same town. jest heart breakin'.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

@crazyhorseladycx my heart bleeds for them. I can never understand how they can do that to their parents. :((

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@TiarasOceanView (70035)

• United States

30 Sep 19

I am me all the time but can I please get that fish to eat?

It looks divine

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@TiarasOceanView (70035)

• United States

30 Sep 19

@sol_cee Yes I do, we have it here but not fresh caught like that

I can buy it in filets in the shop but no good as fresh

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

1 Oct 19

@TiarasOceanView ohh, I didn’t know tilapia is available in the US.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

Sure Tiara-san. But do you eat tilapia?

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@jobelbojel (34729)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

That was aweful for the companions not to help the old man. You on vacation?

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@jobelbojel (34729)

• Philippines

1 Oct 19

@sol_cee oh. Glad you had vacation.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

1 Oct 19

@jobelbojel thank you. It was short but as I always say, better than nothing. :))

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

I was but now I’m back to working again. :))

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@ilocosboy (45157)

• Philippines

14 Aug 19

I'm a serious guy. I tend to be thinking deep.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

6 Oct 19

No smiles at all? :))

@ilocosboy (45157)

• Philippines

8 Oct 19

I smile when I remember my past lovelife

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

12 Oct 19

@ilocosboy paging! Ilocosboy’s wife! Lol lol

@thelme55 (76477)

• Germany

26 Aug 19

OMG! I am getting hungry with this photo. I am what I am, inside and out. I don´t pretend to anyone as it is just cheating towards my own self. Of course, I help a person, if I was in that restaurant with that old man.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

Do you eat tilapia, Thelma-san?

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

@thelme55 oh gosh! I’m drooling! :))

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@thelme55 (76477)

• Germany

30 Sep 19

@sol_cee Yes, of course I eat tilapia. I like it best fried with sweet and sour sauce like escabeche with lots of ginger. Yummy!

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@yanzalong (18984)

• Indonesia

16 Aug 19

I never change whether there is someone or not watching me.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

Good to know.

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@hereandthere (45651)

• Philippines

14 Aug 19

i wonder if the senior lived separate from them. still, if they're related, they should assist him. i want that fish!

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

23 Aug 19

The fish was delicious! We caught them ourselves.

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@Mavic123456 (21898)

• Thailand

14 Aug 19

i wonder how it went. are those people related to grandfather?

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

14 Aug 19

Maybe the lady with the foreigner was the money woman. Know what I mean? Maybe she’s the daughter of the old man and she treated everyone to the mountain resort. Maybe.

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@Mavic123456 (21898)

• Thailand

14 Aug 19

@sol_cee ahhh yeah ... now he's treated nicely. tsk

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

@Mavic123456 IKR. Sounds familiar?

@epiffanie (11326)

• Australia

13 Sep 19

Obviously, the lady with the foreigner is the meal ticket .. The rest of them would have to make sure they don't upset her.. I want some of that fish up there please ..

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

Meal ticket. Lol :)) Hi Bess-san. Nice profile picture in there.

@DianneN (246334)

• United States

21 Aug 19

Wow! How awful! We always see to the needs of the kids and elderly first.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

I know you do, Dianne-san.

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@DianneN (246334)

• United States

30 Sep 19

@sol_cee Thank you!

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@acelawrites (19273)

• Philippines

2 Oct 19

So funny, they pretended to care for the old man when the "balikbayan" daughter is around!

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

6 Oct 19

Yeah, it was a bit hilarious when everyone was scrambling to ‘impress’ the balikbayan. They somehow forgot their breakfast. :))

@responsiveme (22926)

• India

5 Oct 19

Right now there's a popular dong going on here which roughly translated means... familiar faces unfamiliar minds...You put your masks on.... So as you say," who are you when no one is watching"..Very pertinent question. Is that fried koi? Love it. But it's more of a lunch thing here. Hope you are doing well.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

6 Oct 19

Hi there, math-sensei! Long time, no hear from you. That’s not koi. Those are fried tilapia. We caught them and the staff cooked the tilapia for us.

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@responsiveme (22926)

• India

10 Oct 19

Nevena Zivkovic

@Nevena83 (65282)

• Serbia

30 Sep 19

People behave very selfishly.

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

Even to the very people who brought them up to this world. How sad. :((

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@shaggin (71659)

• United States

7 Oct 19

Sad his family didn’t help him

@velvet53 (22528)

• Palisade, Colorado

7 Oct 19

What a disgraceful family. I was always taught to take care of the elders no matter what. What has happened to our society. They are lazy and uncaring. Thank goodness i grew up when respect meant a lot. People need to learn that there is more to life than a stupid cell phone and only thinking of themselves. Hats off to the people that had the common sense nd caring to help this gentleman out. I hope the family was shamed by all of this.Unfortuneately I doubt that they were. What greedy and unrespectful people they are.

@SIMPLYD (90722)

• Philippines

7 Oct 19

Oh, that is sad and enfuriating. Just because he is not that moneyed as that foreigner (whom we generally know as moneyed because his dollar is 50 + compared to our peso, no one is helping him. I pity him because obviously his family isn't caring to him .

@PainsOnSlate (21854)

• Canada

18 Aug 19

I too would help the elders if they need it..

@andriaperry (116860)

• Anniston, Alabama

14 Aug 19

Not that family! Kids and elderly get food first when I am around. I always eat last.

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@Starkinds (32703)

• India

14 Aug 19

Very good like always my family

@Starkinds (32703)

• India

14 Aug 19

They are showbiz

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@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

30 Sep 19

Lol I hope their movies flop.