Women who need more self-respect

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Do you ever see women who you just want to say "have some self respect" to? I see these women taking back men who repeatedly dump them and they swear they'll never take them back and then do over and over and they never learn. I am sure there are men who do this too but I see it more among women. I see it so much. They are head over heels over these men and I literally can't understand why. These guys will cheat on them and leave them for other women and these women will take them right back. I just don't understand it but I keep my mouth shut because it is their life to live and no matter what you say to them they will just do it anyway. My sister is sort of like this with her husband. I am not sure why she stays with him. He has attempted to cheat on her I say attempt because no one really wants him and when he was making money he wasn't giving any of it to her he'd blow it on stuff and it's part of why they lost their kids because they couldn't give them a stable environment because they couldn't keep a place to live because when he does work he refuses to help pay for things. All of his money is his and she has to use whatever she makes for bills if she has any. He didn't care to see their kids half of the time and didn't really do anything ever. They fight way more than they got along and the only time he expressed interest in being with her was when she started to move on after they broke up. He tells her she can sleep with men for money. I don't understand this. Why do you want to be with someone like that? He doesn't like me because I told her to do what is best for her and while I think that would be dumping him I didn't actually tell her that. She has to make her own mistakes. He doesn't physically abuse her but he definitely isn't helping her. I see so many women like this not just my sister. It blows my mind how these women keep taking back men who would leave them the second someone else turns their head. My husband isn't perfect but he makes me feel loved and he works hard to help support us. He put me through a lot for a while but when he said he was going to change he changed. I was ready to walk away and had he not changed I would have. I understand loving someone and wanting to be there for them. My husband is my best friend and has been since we first got together which is why I stuck by him but when I threatened to leave he was terrified and he actually got it together. When a man is willing to change and see where he has gone wrong they are worth giving another chance but when they are continually doing the same stuff and refuse to get their act together they aren't worth it especially when you give them chance after chance. People mess up and they can be stupid but if they refuse to learn from it they aren't going to change. We need to learn our worth and not settle. My husband isn't the same man he was ten years ago or even five years ago he continues to grow and change and become a better person but I see so many women settling for men who continually cheat on them and make their women feel worthless and I don't understand how these women stay with them and cry over them and want them back. When I see women fighting over a man who clearly isn't worth it, it blows my mind. Why do you want him if he's sleeping with some other woman? Why do you want him when all he does is use you? Why do you want him when he does nothing but insults you? I don't understand. As much as I want to tell these women to get some self-respect I know it does no good. They need to be ready to see these guys for who they are before they'll ever consider leaving them. This goes for some men as well but as I said I see it way more with women. When they figure out they deserve better only then will they really move on.