My Cousin Frank Passed Away

@kobesbuddy (82505)
East Tawas, Michigan
September 10, 2019 4:05pm CST
I'm a bit upset with my mother's side of the family. My 61 year old cousin Frank passed away and no one contacted me to let us know about it. His funeral service was quite a while back, which really makes me feel sad. I have always gotten along well with my cousins, this was possibly only an oversight. Anyway, Frank was fairly young, I need to get ahold of his sister Alice, to find out what happened to him. I'm not mad at Frank's family, this really hurt my feelings though. I really loved him Photo: Mine
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@1creekgirl (17627)
• United States
10 Sep
I hope it wasn't intentional, but I know it makes you sad. I'm really sorry about your cousin.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
10 Sep
His sister knows where I live, even a post card would have been fine.
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@CarolDM (40806)
• United States
10 Sep
I am so sorry. It is hard enough to lose someone but then not be told, that has happened to me before.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
10 Sep
For them to let us know, would be the right thing to do.
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@CarolDM (40806)
• United States
10 Sep
@kobesbuddy Yes and there is NO excuse.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
10 Sep
@CarolDM I feel terrible about this, I loved my cousin Frank!
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@LadyDuck (240308)
• Switzerland
11 Sep
I am so sorry Kharla, how is it that no one called you to let you know? I am sorry for Frank, please accept my condolences.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
He was quite young, I'm gonna call his sister Alice to find out what happened.
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@LadyDuck (240308)
• Switzerland
11 Sep
@kobesbuddy It is a good idea to call his sister, I am really sorry.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
@LadyDuck She will be able to let us know, what happened to Frank.
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@marguicha (126685)
• Chile
11 Sep
I´m sorry that happened. Can´t you tell them that you would like to be informed with time?
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
I will speak with Frank's sister Alice today, to find out why this happened.
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@marguicha (126685)
• Chile
11 Sep
@kobesbuddy Maybe there´s a good explanation.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
@marguicha I really believe it was just an oversight, someone forgot to call us.
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@kareng (18193)
• United States
10 Sep
I'm so sorry you were not informed. That's sad and I'm sorry you missed the services. Sending hugs.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
Thank you, Karen:) I wish they would have called or stopped by.
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@kareng (18193)
• United States
11 Sep
@kobesbuddy Oh my, they live local? That's worse. As @ScribbledAdNauseum says, I hope it was a matter of them thinking someone else called you with crossed wires.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
@kareng His sister lives 20 miles from us, it was probably just an error someone made.
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@JudyEv (170784)
• Bunbury, Australia
11 Sep
That is such a shame. Hopefully it was just an oversight. Being relatively young, it must have been a real shock.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
There were 14 children in Frank's family, but two had passed away. Frank wasn't very old, it was a shock to read this on the Internet!
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@JudyEv (170784)
• Bunbury, Australia
11 Sep
@kobesbuddy I can imagine. Just awful.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
@JudyEv I have his sister Alice's phone number, I will call her today.
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@rakski (36875)
• Philippines
10 Sep
I am sorry to hear that
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
10 Sep
It was hurtful, finding Frank's obituary online.
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@rakski (36875)
• Philippines
11 Sep
@kobesbuddy oh yes, that really hurt. Seeing it online
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
@rakski I'm not sure why they didn't call me or stop by.
@sallypup (32946)
• Moses Lake, Washington
10 Sep
That's awful. My condolences. I'm sorry your relatives were so clueless.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
10 Sep
Why they didn't contact us, I can't even imagine the reason.
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@sallypup (32946)
• Moses Lake, Washington
10 Sep
@kobesbuddy That happened with one of my Grandmas. All of a sudden one of my sisters remarked that she had passed on. Long after the event. Made me pretty angry.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
@sallypup And why they did that to you, it can't even be explained!
@NJChicaa (65494)
• United States
10 Sep
I'm so sorry that you weren't told. That is awful.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
10 Sep
I feel bad, not being told. Instead, I ran across Frank's obituary online!
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@NJChicaa (65494)
• United States
10 Sep
@kobesbuddy that is terrible!
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
10 Sep
@NJChicaa It shocked me, to read the list of his siblings. Their mother was Mom's older sister.
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• United States
11 Sep
I am sorry about Frank, but do know this happens a lot in families, it does with ours a lot. I don't know why it happens, but it does. I think someone should let you know, the choice to go would be up to you, but always good to have that option.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
Our families get along fine, so they should have called or stopped to let us know.
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• United States
11 Sep
@kobesbuddy it wasn’t right
@Tina30219 (42956)
• Onaway, Michigan
11 Sep
I am sorry to hear this.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
They should have at least let us know, when it happened.
@Tina30219 (42956)
• Onaway, Michigan
12 Sep
@kobesbuddy I agree
• Rupert, Idaho
11 Sep
I am so sorry for your loss, and that nobody contacted you to let you know
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• Rupert, Idaho
12 Sep
@kobesbuddy That is definitely something to wonder about...normally that is something you do when that happens.
@toniganzon (56783)
• Philippines
11 Sep
My condolences and I'm sorry you weren't informed about his passing. I would be really upset if I weren't informed too especially when a family member is close to me.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
We only live 75 miles from the city, where Frank lived. Someone should have contacted us!
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@toniganzon (56783)
• Philippines
12 Sep
@kobesbuddy Someone should.
@Starkinds (13597)
• India
11 Sep
I am sorry for your loss and I hope God Bless his soul and I can imagine how much you hurt
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
I will call Frank's sister today, to find out what happened.
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@Starkinds (13597)
• India
11 Sep
@kobesbuddy ok that is good idea
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@VivaLaDani13 (36297)
• Perth, Australia
11 Sep
@kobesbuddy I am so sorry for both your loss and for no one contacting you! I can understand you feeling hurt as you loved your cousin dearly and that sort of news, though sad, is something I know you wanted to know. I'm just really sorry for your loss and your feelings being hurt! *hugs*
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
Thank you, Danielle
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• Perth, Australia
11 Sep
@kobesbuddy Very welcome. My thoughts are with you.
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@psanasangma (2991)
• India
12 Sep
I am so sorry for your loss... May his soul rest in Peace
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
12 Sep
I wasn't happy, finding this news on the Internet!
• United States
11 Sep
I am so sorry that you were not contacted. I hope when you talk to his sister you get some closure.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
Alice will let me know, what happened to her brother.
• United States
11 Sep
It's sad that you heard about your cousin after time has passed. Hope you can get some information from his sister. May he rest in peace
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
Thanks Marilyn, I will be calling Frank's older sister, today:)
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@dodo19 (37745)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
11 Sep
I'm sorry to hear that it took so long for you to find out. It's a shame that it took so long.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
No one from my family stopped in or called, to let us know.
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@crisma15 (196)
11 Sep
that bad.! Sometimes in critical times we forget to inform the family.
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@kobesbuddy (82505)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Sep
I believe that it was an oversight, someone forgot to tell us.