Is this too girly for a man?
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
Perth, Australia
September 14, 2019 4:30am CST
Long story short, I found this picture while scrolling through Facebook. I showed it to my dad's girlfriend and she was joking how she'd love my dad to do something like that for her. We were all just having a friendly debate about it.
But I really did wonder, if a woman set up a bath this way to surprise her partner, would the man think it's too girly or would he see it as romantic? Possibly even relaxing?
I know it depends on the man and the situation etc but what do you think overall? Do you think this sort of set up is too girly for a man even if the woman is with him sharing the experience?
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@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
14 Sep 19
I am not a romantic. I would find it irritating those petals sticking to you and getting in places petals should never venture! But take no notice of me. Sorry to be a party pooper but I am sure it is lovely for a lady to pamper herself. It is just not a blokey thing!
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@LadyDuck (502152)
• Italy
14 Sep 19
@garymarsh6 My niece loved to place candles around the bath tub, until the day she got burnt getting out from the tub, no more candles.
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@LadyDuck (502152)
• Italy
14 Sep 19
@garymarsh6 
My husband would hate those petals and me too.
My husband would hate those petals and me too.6 people like this
@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
14 Sep 19
@LadyDuck I remember they put some on our bed in Thailand. What a blooming mess and a pain to clear up! OK it looks pretty but it is not practical. I thought I was just a misery guts but in reality it is more irritating to me!
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
14 Sep 19
I am sure most men would not mind going in there if there were a prize to catch lol
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@TiarasOceanView I agree with that actually! That is exactly what I think about it.
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@LadyDuck (502152)
• Italy
15 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13 
I would surely not like to see a bug floating in the water where I have to bath.
I would surely not like to see a bug floating in the water where I have to bath.1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@LadyDuck That is a good point! I wouldn't like the rose petals. I like the candles though. I almost always have a candle or two when I have a bath. But the petal thing, no thank you. Not fond of things that stick to me. Knowing me I'd probably forget and think it was bugs or something lol
Not fond of things that stick to me. Knowing me I'd probably forget and think it was bugs or something lol1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@LadyDuck I've had that happen a few times. Gives me the heebie jeebies.
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
15 Sep 19
I would love to join you in that bath! Thank you for asking!
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
16 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13 It's going to be a tight squeeze for the two of us to fit in there together, but that's okay, it forces us to be intimate, which I guess is the whole point of the romantic bath!
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
15 Sep 19
@moffittjc You know what they call what you are being right now in Hindi? "Kabab Mein Haddi" which is equivalent to "the third wheel" (which I realize I am also being right now. 
)
LOL! carry on... 
)
LOL! carry on... 2 people like this
@kobesbuddy (78833)
• East Tawas, Michigan
15 Sep 19
A romantic might like it, but an average male would probably see this as ridiculous. Myself, I would think it's a silly setup.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Sep 19
@kobesbuddy I agree. Someone romantic may like it more than the average male. Or at least, an average male may not mind if his partner was there. Depends on a few things I think.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13 If I am not wrong my fiance wouldn't mind it. 
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@Starkinds (32737)
• India
14 Sep 19
I would describe it, it's romantic and I think if the man love her, he love his partner's creative ideas.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@Starkinds That is sweet! I can agree with that!
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
15 Sep 19
Dany - I am an extremely practical woman. I would think how much cleaning afterwards, and what if that organic waste goes into the drains and creates mucky smell. Or the candles lead to fire...which I have obviously not learned the art of controlling. Those who like it like that have been told it is romantic by books I feel. Romance has no external expression I feel. Either you are in romantic mood, or you are not. External stuff is not gonna help. It will only give satisfaction that well, somebody took pains to do this for me, let me be grateful for it. So I would act. Geee that sure is weird. And I am strictly strictly against wasting flowers.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@vandana7 You raise some good points. Really depends on the people involved I think and what they like and don't like during and after. ( cleaning etc ) Thank you for your answer!
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
15 Sep 19
@vandana7 Add fire extinguisher to the above picture. 
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@stringer321 (5682)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
14 Sep 19
I'm a man, I don't think this pleasure is supposed to be for only women or only men. The atmosphere is relaxing, romantic, I would love to have a bath like that with my girlfriend.
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@stringer321 (5682)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
15 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13 I like giving her massages, playing with her hair (brushing her hair gently with my fingers, brushing her head on the way), giving her pleasure by caressing her with my finger tips and nails slowly across her spine, her arms, her waists, making her duck skin (her hair stands up across her arms and she smiles ). She loves putting her head on my lap so I play with her hair, licking and nibbling her ear gently, telling her stories, singing to her...
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@stringer321 That is so sweet! Thank you for your answer.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Sep 19
@stringer321 Her duck skin? I've never heard that before. Interesting! I've known it as Goosebumps.
And that is nice. Sounds like you really care about her. That is sweet.
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@birjudanak (14316)
• India
14 Sep 19
after seeing this photo most of the people say it's romantic for sure and me too. its a great setup which people do not do regularly so it's like something special. i heard candlelight dinner and now people will invite their girlfriend or partner to candlelight bath wow its romantic
haha
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@birjudanak (14316)
• India
15 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13 Wow that's great and i wish your bf read your discussion so he can arrange something like this for you.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Sep 19
@birjudanak I don't have a boyfriend. 
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@birjudanak I agree! All so very romantic! And I personally love candles so much. Especially when I have a bath.
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@Mike197602 (15504)
• United Kingdom
15 Sep 19
Personally I'd say it would be a bit girly for me...something I'd do for a girlfriend but wouldn't want done for me
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@Mike197602 lol that is fair enough! Thank you for your answer!
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@ilocosboy (45155)
• Philippines
14 Sep 19
Not at all, I see it as a very romantic ambiance. But if the man is all by himself bathing in that tub, oh my yes it is so girly.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@ilocosboy haha okie thank you for your answer. I think things are different with a woman present.
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@Ladanger Oh me too! It all sounds so lovely!
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@Ladanger (14572)
• United States
15 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13 i watch alot of movies and i am sure us women dream of some of these things
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@Janet357 lol I can imagine. But not all men are romantic but some are. Just like some women are romantic and some aren't. Depends on the person. I know I would love it if someone did this for me though.
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@Janet357 (75638)
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15 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13 yes;) i prefer something edible though like chocolate over petals:)))
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@CarolDM lol yes it's been pretty entertaining! I think at the end of the day it really does depend on the man and the situation.
Besides the petals in the bath, I love the look of all of it. I wouldn't mind petals around the bath but just not in it.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13 Yes it does always depend on who is involved. It is a beautiful scene for sure.
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@ano460 (649)
• United States
15 Sep 19
Baby, your brain is very shape if am to say.
I know your asking in terms of generality for man. But I guess, when their is much love in between partners, nothing will be girly nor guyly :-D love blinds everything, so love is much important, indeed.
But contrary, it might not be girly for most man because its only flower...
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@ano460 (649)
• United States
16 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13 :-) (:-D)
Sorry if it might offend you, as I never meant to ( :-D)...you looked like a baby to me that's why I addressed you as baby... :+) OK cool dear. Meanwhile,i have not read where you told me to stop before...so as you can see, its a repeated action. But stopped right now :-)
OK let me tell you, some men are funny type, so will play with the flowers.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
17 Sep 19
@ano460 Thank you. Yes, I just don't like it because it comes off a bit sleazy to me. That's all I meant. I don't like when men who I am not dating call me baby. But thank you for understanding!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Sep 19
@ano460 Thanks for your answer but I will ask you again to please not call me baby. I've asked you this before. I don't like it.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
14 Sep 19
It's romantic and it's a nice effort from the woman. Better get rid of those petals or it might clog the jacuzi over there.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@Letranknight2015 lol that is a good point actually! I wouldn't want them in there anyway.
@JohnRoberts (109841)
• Los Angeles, California
29 Sep 19
Who cares as long as the girly is included!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
29 Sep 19
@JohnRoberts And that was what I was thinking lol
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Sep 19
@Julie555 Aw that is a lovely answer!
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