I Can’t Face It

@DianneN (131105)
United States
October 8, 2019 11:44am CST
Doodles the cat lives in our home in Connecticut for six months of the year until we return to Florida. He is our son’s cat, but I love Doodles so much that our son lets him live with us. Our son lives nearby, so drops by often to visit with us and Doodles. Doodles is very ill with a few genetic heart conditions. He can’t be cured, but is being treated with multiple medications 3 times a day. Our son stopped by for a visit last evening. Since his other precious kitty, Kuma, is buried in our rock garden, he wants Doodles to be buried next to her when the time comes. He suggested that we should dig a grave before we leave for Florida, just in case it’s necessary. I was in shock and told him that I couldn’t bear looking at a waiting grave. My husband suggested waiting until it was necessary and hiring a truck or gravedigger to dig if the ground is frozen solid in the winter. We left it at that. I adore Doodles as if he were my own little baby boy. I’m going to take him out for a walk right now, because that’s what makes him happiest.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
8 Oct
Oh my goodness Dianne. I had no idea. My Momma Kitty lived to be 24 and the doctors said she would live half that long. You never know. Enjoy the moments.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
Thank you, Carol. 24 is amazing! I received your PM.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
@DianneN More hugs.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
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@LindaOHio (13061)
• United States
8 Oct
I'm so sorry, Dianne; but the time may come when you have to make a hard decision. Make his life as happy as you can and enjoy his company as much as you can. That's all you can do.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
I just hope we are in Connecticut when the time comes. Our son will need our support. He loves Doodles as much as we do.
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@LindaOHio (13061)
• United States
8 Oct
@DianneN I'm so sorry. It's so hard.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
@LindaOHio It’s like losing a member of the family. I’m being optimistic that he will be with us longer than expected.
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@JohnRoberts (91814)
• Los Angeles, California
8 Oct
Oh no, not Doodles! He isn't going to last the winter is he?
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
The vet said he can go any time. One chamber of his heart has thickened, even with the meds, and two chambers are holding their own. He has an enlarged heart and a valve that leaks blood into his heart. The vet told us that we can only fight genetics. So far, he seems to act his normal crazy and lovey self. We watch him like a hawk.
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@JohnRoberts (91814)
• Los Angeles, California
8 Oct
@DianneN Hopefully it will be peacefully and no pain.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
@JohnRoberts Hopefully. Thanks, John.
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@FourWalls (21428)
• Louisville, Kentucky
8 Oct
I think you’re quite wise to wait until you need the grave to dig it. Using that mentality, we should go dig our own graves now because we’re gonna need it one day!
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
You’re right!
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@JohnRoberts (91814)
• Los Angeles, California
8 Oct
Sometimes we have subconsciously dug our own graves.
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@LadyDuck (246212)
• Switzerland
9 Oct
Oh my Dianne, my heart skipped a bit reading about your son idea. I could not bear to see an empty grave either. I am glad your husband had the right suggestion.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
Could you imagine? I totally agreed with my husband. Now, my son agrees, too.
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@LadyDuck (246212)
• Switzerland
10 Oct
@DianneN It would be heart breaking, not something I would have accepted.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
11 Oct
@LadyDuck He would jump in the hole on our walks. Even if he didn’t, just seeing it would kill me. I can’t let myself think of that time to come. You know I love him as much as a child.
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@WorDazza (12325)
• Manchester, England
8 Oct
I totally agree with you. It's definitely a bridge to be crossed only when necessary and hopefully that won't be for some time.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
I’m hoping his meds keep him going for many more years. He’s the best cat we’ve ever had, and I can’t even think of what the future will be like without him.
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@WorDazza (12325)
• Manchester, England
8 Oct
@DianneN They do become such a huge part of our lives don't they? I have no idea why we keep doing it to ourselves.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
@WorDazza Yes, they are truly family members. This is it for all of us. No more pets.
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8 Oct
that's heart breaking I know when 1 of mine go down it just kills me we can't help but to get attached & when they die on us they take part of us with them.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
It is extremely heartbreaking.
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8 Oct
@DianneN I know I have had to put our baby down this July she was the MAIN baby of the pack of 7 dogs we have
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
@hardtimes1958 I’m so sorry. It’s never easy.
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@rebelann (56728)
• El Paso, Texas
8 Oct
I hope Doodles beats the odds and is still around when you return from FL.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
I’m praying for that. Thank you.
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@rebelann (56728)
• El Paso, Texas
9 Oct
Me too @DianneN I want him to be healthier if possible
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
@rebelann This heart disease can not be cured, but the meds are for trying to prevent further damage. Thank you.
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@birjudanak (10698)
• India
8 Oct
Sorry to know about illness of your cat. You are doing good as taking on walk as that way we can give him more happiness. Its a great thing when people seeing their pets as family.hope things going great for him.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
Thank you. We are doing everything we can to keep him feeling well and happy. He’s my precious baby.
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@birjudanak (10698)
• India
9 Oct
@DianneN Such a wonderful person you are and sure he also feel very comfortable and happy with you.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
@birjudanak Aww, thank you. He loves me, too.
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@thelme55 (23051)
• Germany
8 Oct
I agree with you. I wouldn´t want to see the grave. I am so sorry to hear about Doodles being sick.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
He was diagnosed over a year ago. We will do anything to keep him around for as long as possible. Thank you!
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@thelme55 (23051)
• Germany
8 Oct
@DianneN that is the best you can do. I hope he has no pain.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
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@Happy2BeMe (90615)
• Canada
8 Oct
I would be the same way. I would deal with it when it happens. The medication could allow him to live for many years. Just enjoy the time you have with him and when it comes times they you can deal with it then.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
My hopes exactly. Thank you!
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@Happy2BeMe (90615)
• Canada
8 Oct
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@JustBhem (64334)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Oct
I believe Doodle is a spoiled cat.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
He is a well-loved cat.
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@JustBhem (64334)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Oct
@DianneN I can see that Miss D.
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@yanzalong (16377)
• Indonesia
9 Oct
I appreciate you loving Doodles. That's fantastic.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
He’s my precious baby boy.
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@allknowing (85635)
• India
9 Oct
What a horrible situation you are in. Sorry to be saying this.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
I know.
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@JudyEv (174272)
• Bunbury, Australia
9 Oct
I couldn't work out why you'd need to dig a grave before time but of course I wasn't counting on the ground being frozen solid. It's not something we have to worry about here.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
Yes, our ground freezes hard as a rock.
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• Sonora, California
8 Oct
I am so sorry to hear about Doodles, praying for him and you guys!
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
Thank you so much, especially for your prayers.
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@wolfgirl569 (24048)
• Marion, Ohio
8 Oct
I would wait. Hopefully it is a long time yet before it is needed.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
I hope so. I’m going to spend my time enjoying every moment I can with him.
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@snowy22315 (76407)
• United States
8 Oct
Oh that is sad..I know how much you love Doodles. When my kitty passed away in December it was horrible..one of the top 5 saddest events of my life. He was such a good, smart and sweet boy and was from the get go. He had heart issues as well. I like little Nico, but it just isn't the same..
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
Thank you. I know how heartbroken you were and I certainly felt your pain and heartache. Poor baby. We discussed it, and are not going to have any pets anymore. Our grand doggies are getting old, too. I just can’t take these losses anymore.
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@NJChicaa (68566)
• United States
8 Oct
That is hard to think about I know. Losing Sandy so suddenly (at 6 years old!) was a shock to me but at least he and I didn't have to deal with a lingering illness. Doodles is so lucky to have you.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
Thank you. Pets can break our hearts from love.
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@andriaperry (93741)
• Anniston, Alabama
8 Oct
I agree with you, I could not look at that everyday.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
8 Oct
I couldn’t bear it, Andria.
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