Watching Butterflies with my Uncle

@CarolDM (45672)
United States
October 9, 2019 2:04pm CST
Many of you know I talk to my 90 y/o uncle who has dementia every day. He lives 500 miles away and right now I cannot make the trip to visit. So we talk. Some days I only listen. Many times conversations make no sense. But I listen. Today it was a whole new world for him. I called and instead of asking how he was, I just started talking about butterflies. I told him about the excitement in my garden earlier with seeing the monarchs. This started a wonderful conversation with him. He told me about the ones he saw in his yard as well. Maybe he did, I don't know, doesn't matter. We were talking. And not about his funeral for a change. I got his sitter on the phone to ask about face time on the phone. She was able to explain to him how I was going to call and he would see my face. So I did, and it worked. He was like a kid on Christmas morning. He just keep staring at my face. He said you are so close like I can touch you. I walked out in the garden with the phone and showed him the butterflies. Again, he was like a kid. I wish I would have remembered to record the call. The joy in his voice is something I have not heard in a very long time. I will make this happen again. I have a better feeling about him. At least for today. A day at a time. Can you tell I am still smiling.
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@Nevena83 (34618)
• Serbia
9 Oct
You are a wonderful person. And your uncle is happy to have you.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
How kind of you, thanks!
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@Nevena83 (34618)
• Serbia
9 Oct
@CarolDM I just told the truth. Making someone happy, even for a moment, is a fortune.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
9 Oct
What a beautiful post! Hopefully, you can FaceTime him more often. I’m can feel your happiness, Carol.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
10 Oct
I was so excited, had to share the joy. Thank you.
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@DianneN (131105)
• United States
11 Oct
@CarolDM I know how happy and excited you were. We love to hear your joyous stories.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
11 Oct
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@amadeo (102938)
• United States
9 Oct
yes you are smiling there.That is great.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
Yes it is my friend.
@amadeo (102938)
• United States
9 Oct
@CarolDM have a great evening .Butterflies are Free lol
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
@amadeo You too and thanks for the reminder.
@Happy2BeMe (90622)
• Canada
9 Oct
Awwww that is so awesome. You made his so happy. I can only imagine how excited and happy he must have felt. So wonderful.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
I had tears but he didn't know about them. Happy tears.
@Happy2BeMe (90622)
• Canada
10 Oct
@CarolDM Those are precious moments that you will treasure forever.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
10 Oct
@Happy2BeMe Yes they are.
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@moonandstars (24045)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
10 Oct
You really made him happy. That's a good sign of technology and your humanity as well
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
10 Oct
Thank you, it made my day.
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• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
12 Oct
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• United States
9 Oct
that's wonderful! i've learnt not to ask some folks how their day'd be, sure's been beneficial. brilliant he 'twas able to do that facetime with ya, hon. takin' such outdoors so he could see the beauty firsthand a major bonus. i've nary a clue how to record such, but'd sure be lookin' to find out. would be wonderful to've his sweet face, filled with wonderment.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
He was amazed at what he was looking at. Reminded me so much of my Dad. I think there is a record button on my phone somewhere.
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• United States
10 Oct
@CarolDM aw, how sweet, hon! i'd try to help ya out with that recordin' thingy, but 've no idea 'bout those smart phones. i ferbid this'un from bein' one, lol.
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• United States
11 Oct
This is really something to smile about.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
11 Oct
Yes it was a great day.
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@dya80dya (18491)
10 Oct
Dementia is a terrible disease. I wonder what is the cause.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
10 Oct
Many things can cause it like infections or disorders.
@JudyEv (174272)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Oct
And I am smiling too. I can just imagine his happiness. What a wonderful idea of yours.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
10 Oct
Thank you, I am still smiling the day after.
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@Susan2015 (26635)
• United States
9 Oct
It is wonderful that you had such a good conversation with him.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
It makes my day as this is not always the case.
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@snowy22315 (76407)
• United States
9 Oct
I am very glad you were able to talk to him about something positive. It is sweet of you to be so caring towards him. I have some elderly relatives I talk to as well,,,but none in that age group.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
Yes, my plan worked, I started the conversation this time. Thank you.
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@shaggin (47663)
• United States
9 Oct
That is definitely nice to talk about something much more pleasant and beautiful. That is so nice he got to see you via facetime. At his age he must find it so intriguing. To be able to show him the butterflies as well must have made it even more am for him.
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@wolfgirl569 (24048)
• Marion, Ohio
9 Oct
It is wonderful that you thought to do that and you both enjoyed it so much.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
I know and it has made us both so happy.
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@LindaOHio (13069)
• United States
9 Oct
You did a wonderful thing. You should do this every time and make him happy.
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@CarolDM (45672)
• United States
9 Oct
I did not think about it until today. Thank you.
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