Watching Butterflies with my Uncle
By Carol DM
October 9, 2019 2:04pm CST
Many of you know I talk to my 90 y/o uncle who has dementia every day. He lives 500 miles away and right now I cannot make the trip to visit. So we talk. Some days I only listen. Many times conversations make no sense. But I listen. Today it was a whole new world for him. I called and instead of asking how he was, I just started talking about butterflies. I told him about the excitement in my garden earlier with seeing the monarchs. This started a wonderful conversation with him. He told me about the ones he saw in his yard as well. Maybe he did, I don't know, doesn't matter. We were talking. And not about his funeral for a change. I got his sitter on the phone to ask about face time on the phone. She was able to explain to him how I was going to call and he would see my face. So I did, and it worked. He was like a kid on Christmas morning. He just keep staring at my face. He said you are so close like I can touch you. I walked out in the garden with the phone and showed him the butterflies. Again, he was like a kid. I wish I would have remembered to record the call. The joy in his voice is something I have not heard in a very long time. I will make this happen again. I have a better feeling about him. At least for today. A day at a time. Can you tell I am still smiling.
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that's wonderful! i've learnt not to ask some folks how their day'd be, sure's been beneficial. brilliant he 'twas able to do that facetime with ya, hon. takin' such outdoors so he could see the beauty firsthand a major bonus. i've nary a clue how to record such, but'd sure be lookin' to find out. would be wonderful to've his sweet face, filled with wonderment.
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That is definitely nice to talk about something much more pleasant and beautiful. That is so nice he got to see you via facetime. At his age he must find it so intriguing. To be able to show him the butterflies as well must have made it even more am for him.